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Self-Intimacy: Prioritizing Pleasure and Connecting with Yourself with Kamil Lewis


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We’ve had some incredible episodes on intimacy these past few weeks, and today we're wrapping up the series with licensed marriage and family therapist Kamil Lewis.


Kamil’s work focuses on sex therapy and examines intersectional identity specifically with race, sexuality, and gender. She’s the CEO of the therapy practice The Expansive Group and co-host of the podcast Safe Word.


In this episode, we discuss ways to connect with ourselves and how the ability to connect with others really starts within. Kamil also shares some great tactical advice to help you build your connection skill set.


We Also Talk About…

  • The experience of intimacy as a Black Femme
  • Replacing the narrative that putting yourself first is selfish
  • Creating small, sustainable, moments of care in your life and giving your routines room to change
  • Cultivating a curious and playful relationship with masturbation
  • Having healthy conversations about pleasure with children and not just the dreaded “talk”
  • Kamil’s favorite self-care practices

  • Resources:

    • Visit Kamil’s Website
    • Follow Kamil on Instagram
    • Listen to the Safe Word Podcast
    • Follow Sex Positive Families on Instagram

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