ShrinkChicks

By Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFTSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

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March 17, 2025 The Fear of Being "Too Much"
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the fear of being "too much." They start the episode by sharing what "too much" means to both of them and where the feeling/fear can stem from. Emmalee and Jen talk about how we, as a society, feel about authenticity and how that plays a role in the label of "too much." They discuss shame, societal expectations as women, how this fear can show up in one context (work, for example) and not another (at home with a spouse, for example), how to depersonalize the feeling when it comes up, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4:15 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
The 36 Questions That Lead to Love: NYT Article
Where Should We Begin? Ester Perel card game

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36 min
March 10, 2025 Why Is Dating So Terrible?
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the ever-insightful author, dating coach, screenwriter, and fellow podcaster Allison Raskin to talk all things dating and relationships! The episode begins with Emmalee and Jen learning about Allison's own personal journey and how it led her to help others navigate romantic relationships. They discuss how dating has changed over time, the reality of dating apps, dating intentionally, burnout from dating/the apps and how to put guardrails around it, how to know when to get back out there after a breakup, why we shouldn’t date for potential, Allison's take on soulmates and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content.
Pre-order Allison's New Book!
Allison's Substack: Emotional Support Lady
Allison's Podcast: Just Between Us
Work with Allison

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40 min
March 03, 2025 Just Two Therapists with ADHD
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a long awaited episode topic: ADHD. They share about their ADHD diagnoses, when they were diagnosed, and their different experiences living with ADHD. Emmalee and Jen discuss the difference between men and women with ADHD including the age of diagnosis and presentation, shame that can arise from ADHD, what masking is and why we do it, emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitivity, the benefits of ADHD, how to navigate a partnership when one person has ADHD and the other does not, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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41 min
February 24, 2025 Green Flags: The Underrated Signs of a Healthy Partnership
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing their thoughts on green flags in relationships and the signs of a healthy partnership. They discuss both green flags when first dating and green flags within the relationship once it is established. Em and Jen answer your questions about the feeling of unfamiliarity that can occur when dating someone with green flags, how to tell if someone is on their “best behavior” at the beginning or if that’s actually who they are, the transition out of the honeymoon phase, growing and changing together, the difference between codependency and emotional green flags, and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 13 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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38 min
February 17, 2025 Balancing Family Dynamics AND Your Relationship
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about balancing family dynamics along with your relationship with your significant other. They're also discussing this from YOUR perspective and the balance that your significant other strikes between you and their family of origin. They cover topics like the natural insecurity in the in-law relationship and why it can be harder to set boundaries, speak up, etc., expectations we have about our in-laws, their thoughts on the phrase "blood deals with blood," what to do when your partner prioritizes their family over you, the term "family blindness," and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:55 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
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39 min
February 10, 2025 Is it Me? Recognizing Your Patterns in Your Relationship
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about how to recognize your own patterns in your relationships. The episode starts off with some big news from Emmalee! Then, Em and Jen talk about the insight, awareness, and action needed in order to understand the patterns within your relationship. They discuss why we seek familiarity from our childhood in romantic relationships, the connection between childhood family dynamics and adult relationship patterns, the "spark" (is it real?), healthy love, fear of intimacy, the over-functioner/under-functioner dynamic in relationships, and so much more! Tune in to learn how to gain insight, awareness, and action for yourself! PS: Fast forward to around 11:05 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
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38 min
February 03, 2025 Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are so excited to sit down with Alegra Kastens, LMFT! Alegra is the founder of the Center for OCD, Anxiety, and Eating Disorders. She specializes both in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) AND has her own lived experience with OCD. Alegra gives us all a greater understanding of what OCD looks like and the different ways it can present. The episode begins with Alegra's story of her onset and journey with OCD. Alegra, Em, and Jen discuss intrusive thoughts and the shame that can arise from them, the difference between intrusive thoughts vs. ruminating vs. OCD, and some different types of OCD, including Relationship OCD, Postpartum OCD, and "Just Right" OCD. Alegra shares the definitions of ego-syntonic and ego-dystonic and which of the two OCD falls under. The episode ends with the things Alegra is calling BS on! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content.
Alegra's Website
Alegra's Podcast
Find Alegra on IG @alegrakastens

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
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42 min
January 27, 2025 What is High Functioning Codependency?
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to be joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, and global expert in relationships and empowerment! Terri is here to share her infinite wisdom and tell us all about her new book Too Much. Too Much focuses on the concept that Terri coined called High Functioning Codependency (HFC). Terri explains what HFC looks like, where it begins, and who it tends to affect. She discusses its traits and behaviors like feeling responsible for the emotions of others, the desire to control others' outcomes, and the idea of "auto-accommodating." Terri sheds light on the costs of being an HFC and shares her personal experience with it. She gives us all the tangible tips on how to begin to break the cycle. You do not want to miss this one! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content.

The HFC Toolkit
Terri's Podcast
The Boundary Quiz
Flourish Mastermind
Terri's IG: @terricole

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
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51 min
January 20, 2025 How Do I Build Self-Trust?
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about self-trust and holding yourself accountable in a compassionate way. The episode begins by addressing the "shoulds" that can come with the start of the New Year and shame vs. self-compassion when it comes to setting goals. Em and Jen discuss self-trust, where it stems from, and how to work on strengthening it. They answer questions about decision making & the "right" decision, fear of regret, external validation, and a process for setting boundaries with yourself. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:35 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order
Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
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36 min
January 13, 2025 When Birth Doesn't Go as Planned
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with one of their dear friends, Kayleigh Summers, LCSW. Kayleigh, aka The Birth Trauma Mama, shares her vulnerable birth trauma story and details how the experience led her to where she is today. Kayleigh discusses topics like toxic positivity when it comes to trauma, why “getting over it” is not the goal, others invalidating birth trauma, mistreatment from providers, why provider-to-patient communication matters so much, the definition of trauma, supporting a loved one who went through a traumatic birth, baby’s birthday after birth trauma, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content!
Kayleigh's Website
Kayleigh's Practice
The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast
@thebirthtrauma_mama on IG and TikTok

Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group!
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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order
Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com
Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks
Mint Mobile: Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks
Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks
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46 min

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Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and co-founders of The Therapy Group (@thetherapygrp), bring you the ShrinkChicks Podcast. ShrinkChicks is on a mission to make therapy and…