Single Minded

What happens when you don't want to ghost someone after one or two dates?? Linda and I discuss the best way to let someone down if you're not interested. I'm also joined by career coach Leah Lambart to discuss how personality testing can inform your next career change, and how a "portfolio career" might be the best path to more freedom and flexibility.

Leah's website: https://www.relaunchme.com.au/
Leah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relaunchmecareerconsulting/

Kate is a Confidence Coach and meditation teacher who helps women build self-belief to find their direction in life. We answer the following questions on today's episode: 

• What is self-compassion? How does someone know if they're being too hard on themselves?
• How do you cultivate self-compassion? 
• As part of your workshop, you talk about "real" confidence - how would you define this? How does ego differ from real confidence?
• You talk about confidence being more about "helping you make life choices that feel genuinely right for you" - how does someone define what their path is? 
• What are the first steps for someone to live more in alignment with their values?

Kate's website: https://totalbalance.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/total_balance/
Meditations: https://insighttimer.com/katejames

Ruby is BACK and today we're talking about judgement, including the judgment of others, our own self-judgement and, most importantly, how to live our lives without worrying too much about what others think of us. We answer the following questions:

• Why are people so judgemental of others?
• How can we be less critical of others?
• How can we care less about what other people think of us?
• How can we live the life we want without worrying too much about how others will perceive us?

The Atlantic article is here:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/how-stop-caring-what-other-people-think-you/620670/

Thanks to our sponsor SkinCeuticals! Here are the products mentioned in the episode

Hannah's routine: 

• Phloretin CF Vitamin C Serum: https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/skin-type/phloretin-cf-vitamin-c-serum/SKC_0002.html
• HA Intensifier Hyaluronic Acid Serum:  https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/facial-serums/ha-intensifier-hyaluronic-acid-serum/SKC_0003.html
• Metacell Renewal Skin Tightening Cream: https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/anti-ageing-creams/metacell-renewal-skin-tightening-cream/3606000400429.html

Linda's routine: 

• C E Ferulic Vitamin C Serum: https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/facial-serums/c-e-ferulic-vitamin-c-serum/SKC_0001.html 
• A.G.E Interrupter Advanced-Wrinkle Cream:  https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/corrective-creams/a.g.e-interrupter-advanced-anti-wrinkle-cream/SKC_0016.html
• Retinol 0.5 Anti-Ageing Night Cream: https://www.skinceuticals.com.au/skincare/retinol-creams/retinol-0.5-anti-ageing-night-cream/883140024705.html

I've always wanted to ask Mum how she'd date in the modern world. Would she be on dating apps? Would she pay for the first date? Would she abide by any dating "rules"?

When she was single (like, 40 years ago lol), there were no dating apps. There weren't even mobile phones! You couldn't stalk someone's LinkedIn before agreeing to a date. You couldn't even screen their calls. As Mum says, "You just had to make do." Not sure if "making do" is great relationship advice, but there are some (hilarious) little nuggets of wisdom in this episode. 

Janelle is a listener (and fellow podcaster) who sent in a voice note for the loneliness episode, and I felt like her story deserved a whole episode. Janelle has been single for 10 years and recently decided that becoming a mum was more important than trying to meet someone. So she's going it alone! We discuss her endo & egg-freezing, her IVF journey, how she chose her sperm donor, how she'll take her bins out as a single mama and what she's most excited/scared about. Janelle is also documenting her whole journey on a new podcast, Wild Ride.

Janelle's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-a-wild-ride/id1690137413
Wild Ride Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildridepod/

Ruby and I are back for Part 2 of our friendship episode

If you're a Succession fan, you'll know that a marriage devoid of emotional intimacy can make you feel more isolated than being single (aka Shiv & Tom). That's why close friendships can be so vital in combatting loneliness. Because we all need a Cousin Greg in our lives! But making friends as an adult can be hard. Asking a new friend for a walk or coffee is akin to asking someone out on a date: scary...

So, Ruby is back to discuss why friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, how to make new friends over 30 & how to let go of friendships that are no longer serving you. 

For so many years, I was under the (false) impression that getting a boyfriend would solved ALL my problems. I thought that once I got a boyfriend, I would sail away into the sunset and be the happiest girl in the world. Oh boy, was I wrong!

My guest today, Rav Randhawa, completely agrees. She's been married, and divorced, and has learnt a lot of lessons along the way. She shares her experience of feeling alone and isolated in a relationship and discusses the lasting effects an unhealthy relationship can have on you.

Follow Rav on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_/

I'm joined again today by mental health professional Lachlan Beaton to talk about taking action... whether that's in life, work or dating. Lachlan believes that it's the little actions that are the most important to transforming your life. It's by taking small steps that you can prove to yourself that you are capable of implementing bigger changes. 

You can find Lachlan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/

Shanthi is coming back on the podcast this week to share what happened after she quit her job of 10 years to travel the world. She's now living a digital nomad life carrying all her possessions in a backpack.