We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love.  It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it.  And express it in ways they will be able to get.

1. Say it out loud

2. Write it down

3. Physical affection

4. Play

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We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners.  We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST.

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Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode:

1. Kids neurocepting danger cues
2. your state vs your empathy
3. your empathy vs your compassion
4. face to face interaction
5. self-regulation (for you, parent)

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We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting - 

1. "How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?"

2."How do you approach a parent who is stuck?"

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Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation.  Kids aren't born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent's co-regulation.

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We answer two questions submitted by two of our amazing listeners:

1. How to best overcome a parental state shift?

2. Do toddlers experience defensive states more often than adults?

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Two big ideas discussed in this episode: 1. Strengthening the vagal brake as a fundamental purpose of parenting and why. 2. You don't control your kids.  And you can't.  And neither do we.  No one does. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode24 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Taken from an Instagram Live on July 21, 2019.  we discuss the function of "Stories" or "Narratives" that a survivor of sexual assault may be living with.  

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We apply the polyvagal theory to the process of psychotherapy.

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Placebo

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6003660/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032706000395

https://psychiatrypodcast.com/psychiatry-psychotherapy-podcast/2018/11/19/understanding-placebo

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Mercedes and I break down some real life examples of #badtherapy for the final time!  Plus we share our own bad therapy and a couple of good therapy examples too. more detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode22 TREATMENT ABANDONMENT -  https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/09/ethics https://www.aamft.org/Legal_Ethics/Code_of_Ethics.aspx JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT us at justinlmft.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message