We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too!

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7 ways that you are not listening:

1. You say you understand.
2. You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem.
3. You cut someone off before they finish speaking.
4. You finish someone's sentences.
5. You're dying to tell me something while I am talking.
6. You share your experiences instead.
7. You refuse my thanks.

Your homework assignments - 

1. Notice when you are not listening.
2. Accept gratitude.

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Many many thanks to Carla-Jo Geraghty, who sets a very high bar for what a Super Fan/Trauma Nerd is!  

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All about consequences in this episode:

1. Why they are important
2. When they mean nothing
3. Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe
4. Natural consequences

Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be a part of it.

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Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity.  Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up.  She does the stuff I do, but better and first.  I gotta be honest.  We talk in depth about:

1. "Story follows State"
2. Climbing the Polyvagal Ladder
3. Diagnosing

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You're not you're diagnosis.  It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together.  It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier.  And that's the point of diagnoses.  And insurance building.

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We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love.  It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it.  And express it in ways they will be able to get.

1. Say it out loud

2. Write it down

3. Physical affection

4. Play

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Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode:

1. Kids neurocepting danger cues
2. your state vs your empathy
3. your empathy vs your compassion
4. face to face interaction
5. self-regulation (for you, parent)

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