Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener.  Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn't.  Does it have to be alone?  Does it have to be without your kids present?

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Protection is something we settle for.  Safety is something we deserve.  And more! 

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In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion.  We've mentioned this numerous times since then.  We examine the difference between the two in this episode.

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Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats   What is Empathy? - Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition Importance and Benefits of Empathy, Kendra Cherry - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-empathy-2795562 NPR Article - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/04/26/717272708/does-taking-time-for-compassion-make-doctors-better-at-their-jobs

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We've mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before.  In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding.  Mercedes opens with curiosity and Justin closed with evaluation.

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Articles about curiosity:

Six Surprising Benefits of Curiosity - Emily Campbell

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_surprising_benefits_of_curiosity

7 Reasons To Be Extremely Curious - Francisco Saez

https://facilethings.com/blog/en/curiosity-and-productivity

Using Curiosity To Find Your Best Self - Farrah Campbell

https://www.stackery.io/blog/using-curiosity/

The Power of Curiosity - Todd Kashdan

https://experiencelife.com/article/the-power-of-curiosity/

Dave Jackson & the School of Podcasting - http://schoolofpodcasting.com/

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Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon!

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Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing?  We don't have a crystal clear answer on that, but we've got an interesting discussion on it.  We'd love to hear what you think - send an audio message via email or Instagram DM!

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We look at jealousy and insecurity - how are they connected?  Are they actually the same thing?  And how do they tie into the Polyvagal Theory?  Our response to a listener question.

If you're new to the Polyvagal Theory, definitely listen to at least episodes 1-4 of this podcast.

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Self-Regulation Simplified starts June 1: Join Cohort 5!

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If you're stuck in shutdown, you're definitely not alone.  Getting out of shut down and back up the polyvagal ladder might require less fighting than you think.

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Mentioned in this episode:

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Self-Regulation Simplified starts June 1: Join Cohort 5!

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