That's Where I'm At

In this episode, Laura speaks with Lisa Croke, an ICF ACC Empowerment Life Coach and Leadership Consultant with over two decades of experience. She is powered by authenticity, non-judgment, and empathy and creates a safe, empowering space for her clients to reframe their challenges into their superpowers.

In her life coaching and leadership consulting work, her mission remains the same: Empowering individuals to achieve their highest potential! Lisa's journey has been one of resilience and reinvention. At 42, she emerged from a 20-plus-year abusive marriage. Faced with the loss of her career, community, possessions, and a year of stalking at the hands of her abuser, she went through the court system and relocated 2,000 miles away to rebuild her life. Lisa has since worked tirelessly to transform her personal hardships into a powerful narrative of resilience and transformation.

Lisa is dedicated to helping other trauma survivors, particularly high-achieving, accomplished women who have experienced relationship trauma, tap into their superpowers and move from surviving to thriving. Grounded in real-life experience, her warm, empathetic approach validates her clients' experiences and provides practical tools for reframing their stories, claiming their superpowers, and building a thriving life. In addition to her coaching and consulting work, she is available for keynote presentations, workshops, podcasts, and collaboration opportunities.

Today, Lisa shares her journey from being a children's pastor and pastor's wife to recognizing and escaping narcissistic abuse within her marriage and religious community. She discusses how the church often fails abuse survivors through inadequate support and harmful messaging about forgiveness and reconciliation.

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[00:00] Lisa's initial approach to church leadership about marriage concerns

[01:33] Lisa's background as an empowerment life coach and leadership consultant

[03:39] How domestic abuse affects high-achieving women

[06:27] Lisa's religious background and early marriage at age 19

[09:24] Church leadership and ministry roles and how this affected Lisa's marriage

[15:32] Experience with jealousy and control in ministry positions

[20:05] When Lisa started noticing abusive patterns

[29:02] How most Christian women in leadership struggle with the stigma of divorce

[38:16] The biblical perspectives and the church's inadequate response to abuse

[41:23] Why you need therapy rather than relying solely on prayer for guidance

[45:31] Lisa's personal growth and achievements post-divorce

[59:03] Perspectives on forgiveness and healing

[01:05:21] Final thoughts and how to connect with Lisa

• When you exist in that space and have that very loud voice, when that voice goes away, the freedom I felt because there wasn't someone criticizing everything. Even if you're beat up and you're not sure head to tail what's going on, you survived that.
• Our relationship with God doesn't fit in a box. And so many times church does market that. And those of us who have had trauma, we don't fit in the box, and we question the box, and we question the methods. And so we are the ones that are the instigators
• The words that have been spoken over you, the actions that have been done to you, they don't define you. You are enough, and you are so loved.
• If God loves him, and if you believe that God loves him, then he is God's to care for; it is not your responsibility.
• We become shells of ourselves, right? Like, well, when we're married so young, we don't know who we are. But, I would argue that we are empathetic and we're gentle. There are reasons why narcissists attach to us.

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Brooke Kekos, a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication.

Today, Brooke shares her journey of breaking free from the Jehovah's Witnesses organization after 36 years and healing from religious trauma and an abusive marriage. She discusses the parallels between high-control religious systems and narcissistic relationships, the challenges of losing community support, and her path to spiritual awakening. Through her work as a trauma healing coach, Brooke helps others process complex PTSD, rebuild their sense of self, and find authentic connections with their spirituality.

As a sought-after speaker, author, and advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice.

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[02:52] Brooke's background in Jehovah's Witnesses and struggles with questioning beliefs

[04:27] Brooke's experience with restrictions on holidays and celebrations

[07:15] How Brooke discovered abuse cover-ups and left the church

[08:05] How high-control religions and narcissistic abuse mirror each other

[10:23] How being excommunicated at 16 left Brooke feeling alone and devalued

[13:09] Why you should always question beliefs and seek truth for yourself

[17:08] The challenge of leaving support systems behind

[25:09] Experiencing a spiritual awakening and discovering a high-power connection

[34:28] Brooke's approach to trauma healing work

[40:55] Why self-acceptance is crucial for a fulfilling life

[43:21] How to connect with Brooke

• I lost my entire community. I was all alone. So I lost family that was still in the religion, and I lost all of my friendships that I thought were forever friends.
• Being in a high-control religion or a cult-like system is abusive. And so you only know abuse. So it's no wonder why you recreate the pattern in your relationship.
• What you're struggling with now in life always comes from childhood. There's a belief system, and there are experiences that you had in childhood.
• Healing the past helps us embrace and empower ourselves now.
• Inner child work changed my life. It's about going back, healing past wounds, and rewriting the story of who you are.

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In this episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Kelsey Elizabeth Matthews, a first-generation college graduate, published author, and advocate for mental health and empowerment. Kelsey, who graduated Summa Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Social Work degree from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, and was honored as a Truman Scholar, shares her remarkable journey of resilience.

From growing up in an abusive environment in East Haven, CT, to overcoming institutional betrayal and narcissistic abuse, Kelsey uses her experiences to advocate for those affected by emotional and verbal harm. Her professional journey spans rehabilitative mental health, substance abuse prevention, non-profit leadership, and community engagement. As the Founder and CEO of Phoenix Rising Coaching & Consulting, LLC, and a Maxwell Leadership Team member, Kelsey empowers individuals and leaders to overcome challenges and become agents of transformative change.

Kelsey discusses her passion for ethics, power dynamics, and leadership, shaped by her survival story and advocacy for others. She also shares her journey as a public speaker, including her TEDxUNLV talk, "Transformative Leadership: The Power of Love to Change the World," and her plans for graduate studies in Social Work and Social/Personality Psychology.

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[01:14] Kelsey's background, struggles, and advocacy

[03:05] Early childhood challenges

[06:19] How Kesley grew up amidst dysfunction and codependency

[10:50] Kesley's experience with a traumatic childhood incident

[18:01] How lack of care and safety shaped Kesley's emotional well-being

[23:43] The impact of addiction and the lack of awareness about overdose prevention

[29:24] How our childhood experiences shape who we become

[38:53] Boundary violations and manipulation by her therapist

[42:01] How intermittent reinforcement prolonged the emotional pain

[1:01:00] The unexpected role of Kesley's therapist in leading her to Christ

[1:10:12] The contrast between harmful institutions and those that provide real support

[1:20:30] Kelsey's path to self-awareness and resilience through therapy and advocacy

[1:30:45] The importance of self-love in building healthy relationships

[1:39:44] Kelsey's message of hope for others facing similar challenges

• You can't make sense of disorder. You can't make sense of chaos.
• The worst thing that ever happened to me is the best thing that ever happened to me.
• What happens is that with trauma bonding, it's the person who's hurting you is also the person who's loving you or soothing you.
• When you live in gaslighting, you end up gaslighting yourself.
• People mistake my kindness for weakness, and that's funny because I never end up being what they bargain for. I end up kicking and screaming because I will fight for myself.
• You can only love others as much as you love yourself.

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Spiritual abuse and the church's stigma around divorce have silenced and shamed countless women, often leaving them trapped in cycles of pain and self-doubt. But it's time to reclaim the narrative. Overcoming spiritual abuse means breaking free from manipulation cloaked in faith and recognizing your worth beyond judgmental doctrines. Divorce is not a failure; it's an act of courage when choosing yourself and your well-being over harmful dynamics.

In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Kristina Ravenhill. Kristina or Tina as her Father nicknamed her, grew up in the South Pacific. The middle child of three sisters, she grew up as an MK (missionary kid) and a PK (preacher's kid). Eventually, the family moved back to the United States where she went to Bible School in Dallas, Texas, and ultimately met her husband. Together they served in ministry and also owned a successful international sales business. Twenty-two years and 4 children later, Tina filed for divorce after years of narcissism and abuse throughout the marriage. Now free, she spends her extra time helping others come out of spiritual abuse and wants the stigma of divorce from abuse to be changed in the church mindset. Her joy is spending time with her kids and exploring the world.

Kristina shares her powerful journey of overcoming spiritual abuse and navigating the church's stigma around divorce. Kristina candidly recounts the red flags she ignored, the manipulation she endured, and the spiritual abuse she experienced from her ex-husband. She discusses the struggle of leaving an oppressive marriage, the profound impact of trauma bonds, and the societal pressures women face when seeking freedom. Kristina also offers hope and practical steps for healing, including how she reconnected with her dreams, found forgiveness, and rediscovered God's unconditional love. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, self-worth, and spiritual liberation.

Timestamps

[03:14] Signs Kristina saw before she was done

[06:10] Spiritual abuse Kristina experienced from her ex-husband

[10:06] Did Kristina have support when she decided to leave?

[15:03] God loves you more than divorce

[18:14] Narcissists have the inability to change

[24:27] Things Kristina did to heal after divorce

[30:53] How Kristina got rid of her oppression and started to dream again

[33:50] The thought that things will be great when you leave

[41:07] Waking up to the reality

[43:24] Kristina's trauma bond experience

[48:44] How Kristina dealt with forgiving his ex-husband

[51:55] Kristina's final remarks

• "We always have the thing about God hates divorce."
• "It's not about how long can a marriage last."
• "Dream is to have your life back."
• "Some of these things, they may not sound like they are terrible until it's all the times."

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From the depths of silence, women who have endured domestic violence are rising to reclaim their power and find their voices. This journey of empowerment is not just about breaking free from abuse but about rediscovering one's strength, worth, and resilience. Through support networks, self-care practices, and advocacy, survivors are transforming their pain into purpose. They are learning to trust themselves again, make their own decisions, and rebuild their lives on their own terms. By sharing their stories, these women not only heal themselves but also inspire and empower others.

In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Jennifer Peterkin, an avid traveler, a lover and collector of stories, and the host of the podcast The Human Experience - a platform that seeks to elevate stories, empower the storyteller, and invite the listener into a place of validation, understanding, and compassion. Through her personal story, she illuminates the path from silence to strength, exploring how survivors of abuse can rediscover their worth and resilience. Jennifer discusses the crucial role of support networks, therapy, and self-reflection in her healing process, as well as the red flags she overlooked in her marriage. The conversation delves into societal conditioning that often silences women, the importance of telling one's own story, and the healing power of sharing experiences. Tune in to get insights on recognizing narcissistic abuse, the challenges of marriage counseling in abusive relationships, and practical steps toward healing and empowerment.

Timestamps

[02:13] Why Jennifer started her podcast

[04:04] Were some of Jennifer's friends sharing their experience of divorce?

[08:52] Jennifer's therapist and friends were her biggest validators through divorce

[13:50] What made Jennifer wait before launching her podcast

[18:10] Red flags Jennifer ignored in her marriage

[19:25] Did Jennifer's parents contribute to her being in this toxic marriage?

[23:55] How Jennifer got some clarity of who she really was after her divorce

[33:02] How young girls are trained not to ruffle up the feathers

[36:04] The things that helped Jennifer heal

[46:22] Marriage counseling and therapy

• "When you are going through domestic violence, everything in your mind is turned upside down."
• "Everybody deserves to tell their own story from their own perspective in their own voice."
• "Most of the times narcissists are not going to leave because they have to play the victim."
• "We all have moments in our lives that make us stop and do a 180."

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Self-doubt can be a formidable obstacle for women on their spiritual journey, often hindering them from embracing their true calling. Many women struggle with feelings of inadequacy, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotage, which can prevent them from fully realizing their potential. By nurturing a strong spiritual foundation, women can tap into their inner strength, recognize their unique gifts, and courageously pursue their authentic calling. This process of spiritual empowerment enables women to rise above societal expectations and limitations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Ange de Lumiere, a spiritual lawyer and mother of four children with autism. Ange, born in Paris and now residing in the UK, shares her unique path to becoming a spiritual lawyer and how she helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition for success. She talks about her initial hesitations about pursuing psychic work and the pivotal moments that encouraged her to embrace her spiritual calling. Ange discusses the impact of therapy on her childhood resilience, the importance of understanding our body's language, and strategies for dealing with energy vampires.

Ange de Lumiere is the mother of four children with autism aged 28 to 12. Born in Paris, she now lives in the UK and helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition to make smart decisions in order to create success on their terms, rather than someone else's. She calls herself a Spiritual Lawyer and has authored two books and three podcasts, her latest being True Spirituality with Ange. Tune in and gain profound insights on overcoming self-doubt, the power of mindset in achieving success, and the significance of recognizing and trusting one's intuition.

Timestamps

[02:10] How Ange became a spiritual lawyer

[08:02] How Ange works with her clients as a spiritual lawyer

[12:06] What led Ange to become a spiritual lawyer

[18:06] What happened after Barbra talked to Ange in the lecture

[25:18] Why Ange was hesitant about doing psychic word

[27:24] What really encouraged Ange to start doing spiritual work

[34:35] The mindset of thinking you cannot go forward

[41:20] How therapy made Ange so strong as a child

[48:00] Our bodies have a language

[55:30] How to deal with an energy vampire

• "People can feel intuitively that you are hiding something. They just don't know what it is."
• "With psychic readings, if you get things wrong, you can really have a massive impact on someone's life."
• "Be careful what you think because it may not be your thoughts."
• "Success is 50% mindset."
• "What you are going through is in your body; you just don't realize it."
• "People don't need to understand about energy or know about energy in order to use your energy."

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Covert narcissists exhibit subtle signs of narcissism, often masked by a facade of humility. They possess an inflated sense of self-importance yet express it through passive-aggressive behavior and subtle manipulation. Hypersensitive to criticism, they may respond with intense emotions or withdrawal. Their relationships are typically superficial, characterized by emotional withholding, gaslighting, and blame-shifting. Covert narcissists struggle with chronic envy and often play the victim to gain sympathy. They lack genuine empathy and have difficulty forming deep connections. In romantic relationships, they may display jealousy and possessiveness and use tactics like stonewalling or guilt-tripping. Their behavior can significantly impact the mental health of those around them, leading to increased stress, anxiety, and depression in partners and family members.

In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Lauren Wickline, a licensed mental health therapist and podcaster. Lauren shares her personal journey into podcasting and discusses her experiences with covert narcissism. The conversation delves into the traits of covert narcissists, exploring Lauren's own experience of being discarded in public. Lauren reflects on her healing process, addressing whether she's still grieving and if she would have stayed in the relationship had she not been discarded. Lauren sheds more light on the inability of narcissists to be alone, healing from trauma bonds, and practical ways to recover from narcissistic relationships. Throughout the episode, Lauren offers insights on getting back to oneself after such experiences, providing valuable advice for women navigating similar situations.

Lauren is a licensed mental health therapist in the state of Virginia. She has been practicing in a variety of settings since 2017 to include public schools, acute inpatient hospitals, and outpatient. She has always been passionate about the performing arts to include, singing, theater, and Irish dance. She is passionate about implementing these experiences to include expressive arts, metaphor, and storytelling in all settings as a form of healing. In April of 2023 Lauren experienced a discard from someone she thought was the love of her life. While she began her spiritual/healing journey, Lauren had some professional as well as personal revelations which has motivated her to tell this story in order to help others. She discovered a concept that was first coined in the 1980s by Dr. Dan Kiley called Peter Pan and Wendy's Syndrome. While these aren't official terms and diagnoses in the DSM-V, she couldn't help but find that these pop culture psychology terms are very relevant in today's society. She hopes to use her story to help and educate others about the damages caused by emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, people. She also hopes to also share information on ways to move past the "Wendy's Syndrome" which includes anxious attachment, people pleasing, and codependent tendencies. As a recovering people pleaser herself, Lauren hopes that her podcast, Life After Discard, will help others see their worth and bring to light ways to avoid being caught in a Peter Pan and Wendy Syndrome dynamic in their relationships.

Tune in to gain empowering strategies for recognizing covert narcissism, rebuilding self-esteem, and fostering healthier relationships, as well as practical tools for healing and reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse.

Timestamps

[02:22] How Lauren got into podcasting

[06:00] Is Lauren still grieving?

[08:07] Traits of a covert narcissist

[10:53] How Lauren was discarded in public

[14:00] How Laura was reverse discarded by her ex-husband

[22:04] Would Lauren have stayed if she had not been discarded?

[28:30] Narcissists cannot be alone for long

[34:39] How to heal from a trauma bond

[38:05] Ways to help heal from a narcissistic relationship

[43:38] Getting back to yourself

• "A narcissist is someone who has a high need for control and a lack of empathy."
• "They are attracted to those people pleasers, the people who are givers, but you have to remember that takers will take."
• "When you are so manipulated, you allow almost anything."
• "When you have that revelation, there is no going back."
• "Not everybody is going to like the healed version of you, and not everybody deserves the healed version of you."

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Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse.

In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy.

Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy.

As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth.

Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves.

Timestamps

[02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism?

[07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional

[13:07] How your brain gets trained

[17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists

[19:45] The origin of narcissism

[24:32] Journaling narcissists' patterns

[27:31] How to break narcissist patterns

[33:20] Attachment styles

[35:37] Therapy and narcissism

[41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself

[42:56] Chelli's thoughts on PTSD

[45:27] Trauma therapy training

• "1% of the United States population is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder."
• "If you think there is an issue, you just need strategy."
• "It's important to talk to a therapist or do other kinds of holistic therapy as well."
• "Do not go start dating when you are in the middle of a separation."
• "You must work on healing trauma with trauma therapy."

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C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd

DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue.

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Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals can be a challenging and often emotionally draining experience. Finding your voice in these situations is crucial for maintaining your sense of self and making decisions that align with your well-being. It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior, understand its impact on your mental health, and develop strategies to assert your needs and boundaries. This process of self-discovery and empowerment can be both liberating and daunting, requiring courage, self-reflection, and often professional support. By learning to identify narcissistic traits, cultivating self-awareness, and prioritizing your emotional health, you can begin to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship and reclaim your voice in the process.

In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Mireille Nicole, a certified relationship coach on a mission to empower women in their pursuit of happiness. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating narcissistic relationships, offering valuable guidance on trusting intuition, setting boundaries, and making crucial decisions about staying or leaving. Mireille shares her personal journey and professional expertise, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, healing, and maintaining a sense of fun in relationships.

Mireille has been obsessed with anything romantic — books, movies — all of her life. Divorced [by choice] and remarried [but almost failed], she is now navigating "blended family" life with her soulmate. Having gone through a lot in the love department, she's on a mission to help other women ditch the struggle and have their Happily Ever After.

She holds a certificate in relationship coaching from IAP Career College and is a member of the IAPO International Association of Professional Relationship Coaches. In her spare time, Mireille enjoys mountain biking, date nights and being a mom.

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Timestamps

[03:15] How Mireille became a relationship coach

[08:35] Mireille's pivotal moment in her journey

[11:18] The variety of women coming to Mireille for coaching

[14:06] Trusting your intuition

[15:25] How to handle relationship issues

[19:47] Having fun as a woman

[21:14] Healing

[24:09] Mireille's thoughts on Should I stay or should I go situation

[27:40] The decision to either leave or stay

[29:37] The reality about boundaries

[33:43] About Mireille's life now

[36:10] Having the tools to recover

[38:17] Mireille's mission

• "Awareness is key."
• "If your partner is not willing to do couples therapy, you are doomed."
• "When you treat your husband like gold, he will act like gold."
• "When you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems."
• "You can make the decision to leave, obviously, if you are experiencing narcissistic abuse."
• "Sometimes we need to focus really on ourselves and what we are doing and really detach from what the man is doing so that we can discover who we are."
• "Boundaries are for you to express what you need and what you are going to do if something doesn't happen."

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Rewriting your life after experiencing narcissistic trauma in a marriage is a profound and transformative journey. Narcissistic relationships often leave deep emotional scars that can persist long after the relationship has ended, affecting one's self-esteem, trust, and overall well-being. However, true healing is possible through the powerful process of subconscious reprogramming. By delving into the depths of the subconscious mind, survivors of narcissistic abuse can uncover and rewrite the harmful beliefs and patterns instilled during their toxic marriages.

In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Brooke Kekos, a trauma healing coach and a rapid transformational therapist who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Brooke, a survivor of complex PTSD and narcissistic abuse, shares her transformative experience of accessing her subconscious mind to rewrite her life story. Through her struggles with dissociation, self-doubt, and codependency, Brooke discovered the profound impact of positive self-talk and the power of challenging ingrained thought patterns. Her journey from victim to coach demonstrates that healing from narcissistic trauma is possible and that by carefully examining our thoughts and beliefs, we can break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse, reclaim our authentic selves, and live a very happy life.

Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner, Brooke specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her personal path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication.

A sought-after speaker, author, and fervent advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice. With Brooke as your ally, embrace a voyage of transformative healing, armed with potent tools, nurturing guidance, and profound revelations. Step into an existence where authenticity thrives, drawing soul-aligned relationships that foster your truest self.

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Timestamps

[03:15] How Brooke got into coaching

[07:38] Brooke's Complex PTSD

[12:36] How dissociation looks like in someone's body

[14:34] How it was like for Brooke to write her book

[19:02] Does Brooke unpack people when coaching?

[20:23] Rewriting our lives

[23:03] Brooke returns to her family and church

[27:13] Things Brooke talks about in her coaching sessions

[28:36] Cutting ties

[30:37] How Brooke rewrote her life by accessing her subconscious life

[32:14] Talking and thinking positively about ourselves

[38:55] Being co-dependent as mothers

[44:17] Brooke's final remarks

• "A lot of times, you are always doing that thing you are passionate about."
• "You don't need faith for the whole staircase. It's just that first step."
• "Just be careful what you are thinking about because it might not be your thoughts."
• "If you tell yourself the same thing every day, you are going to recreate the same thing over and over."
• "What you judge in another is a reflection of what you judge in yourself."

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BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources

WEBSITE: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachinggoddess/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/brooke.kekos/

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