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Your relationship isn’t “making you crazy” but it might be revealing the exact places you’ve been abandoning yourself. We’re joined by Jane, who shares what happened after she left a decades-long marriage, fell deeply in love again, and suddenly found herself flooded with triggers, anxiety, and the kind of emotional whiplash that makes you question your judgment. 

We cover what made her move from constantly looking to her partner for proof that she was loved to finding that security inside herself. We talk about the tug-of-war between stay or leave, what happened when she finally faced her fear of losing him, and how that changed what she was willing to ask for—and the relationship itself.

A beautiful, honest look at what doing your half actually looks like in a real relationship. Not never getting triggered again, but no longer letting those triggers run your choices, your relationship, or your life.

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Episode 200! The perfect moment to unpack a question I get a lot: “How do I do the inner work without ignoring what I need from other people?”

One part of you points outward and insists the other person must change for you to feel safe. Another part points inward and says you should heal harder, need less, and stop making it anyone else’s problem. I share why both protectors make sense, how to stop “siding” with them, and how to become the grown-up in the room who can hear them both without overriding your body.

When that happens, some needs naturally fall away because they belonged to a younger you, and the needs that remain become easier to express as clean requests without the hidden “or else” energy.

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Something shifts when you stop asking, “Who can I trust?” and start asking, “Can I trust something inside me that's always here – no matter what's going on around me?” 

In this episode, I'm bringing you into a recent workshop inside ERA (the Embodied Relationship Academy). I show how your protector parts create a world that feels fundamentally unsafe, and how to reconnect with the part of yourself that remains steady beneath fear, urgency, and doubt.

If you've ever wondered what it actually takes to trust, this conversation offers a very different, and more exciting, answer.

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If attractive people around your partner instantly trigger insecurity, comparison, or anxiety, this episode is for you.

We'll explore why this happens, what your "scanner part" is actually trying to protect, and how old wounds can make attractiveness feel threatening long after the original pain is over.

Most importantly, we'll look at how to stop making beauty a competition and start reclaiming a deeper sense of security, self-worth, and connection.

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My yearlong mentorship into secure relating and leading from love:
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After 20 years of trying to fix herself, Emerson had reached a point where she believed nothing would truly change. The anxiety, the hypervigilance, the patterns in relationships — they felt too deep, too ingrained.

In this conversation, she shares what shifted when the work stopped being something she understood in her mind… and became something she experienced in her body.

We talk about what it actually looks like to move from constant reactivity to grounded presence in relationships — not by forcing change, but by relating to yourself differently.

And what happens when, for the first time, you don’t have to analyze your healing… because you can feel that something is different.

Now enrolling for the fall:

My yearlong mentorship into secure relating and leading from love:
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What does it actually take to move from insecure to secure attachment? In this episode, I lay out the roadmap. Not the simplified version you often hear online — but the deeper process that rewires how you relate.

We look at the three layers that shape how you relate: mindset, emotions, and your nervous system. And why secure attachment isn’t something you think your way into — it’s something you practice into existence.

If you’ve been following the attachment series, this episode connects the dots and shows you how the transformation actually unfolds.

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Secure attachment isn’t the absence of reactions. It’s the capacity to move between closeness and space without spiraling in survival mode. It’s the moment when something that once felt life-threatening simply becomes… workable.

In this episode, I walk through the five signs of insecure attachment we explored earlier in the series and show you what they look like on the other side.

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This week in the attachment series, I sit down with Jessica to explore the anxious strategy—what’s really happening beneath the urge to reach, pursue, obsess, and “make it safe” when someone feels distant. Jessica describes the somatic reality of anxious attachment: the hyper-attunement, the meaning-making in the gaps, and the visceral panic that can erupt when a text doesn’t come back—despite knowing, logically, that you’re “fine.”

We talk about how healing isn’t about becoming less sensitive—it’s about becoming a secure base for yourself. Jessica shares the practices that are helping her move through abandonment waves without collapsing, blaming, or performing for love: nervous system discharge, surrendering to sensation, and reparenting the baby part that’s still waiting to be held. This episode is a compassionate, nuanced look at anxious attachment that will leave you with more understanding—and a clearer path toward secure love.

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I’m joined by my friend Pontus for an honest conversation about the pattern many people label “avoidant”—the push–pull between longing for connection and needing space. If you’re the one pulling away, or if you’re on the receiving end of someone creating distance, this episode offers a rare, compassionate look behind the curtain.

Pontus shares what it’s like when the body says no and the mind rushes in to build a case: “They’re not right,” “I’m broken,” “This will never work.” Together, we slow it down and uncover what’s underneath: the fear of an inner emotional experience—and the survival strategy of pulling away so you don’t have to feel it.

Related episodes:
EP 192: 5 Signs of Insecure Attachment (And How to Use Them to Heal)
EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment

Now enrolling for the fall:

My yearlong mentorship into secure relating and leading from love:
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA)
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Next coaching training cohort starts in October.
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Want tangible ways to move from an insecure to a secure attachment? Follow along in my new series! In this first episode, I lay out five signs of insecure attachment and show how each one points toward your power when met with presence.

Along the way, I offer a compassionate reframe that builds self-esteem rather than diagnoses it away. We practice separating sensations from narratives, listening to protective parts without letting them run the show, and aligning your inner will so choices feel coherent. This is the groundwork for secure attachment: not a theory, but a felt sense of safety that makes love, play, and honesty possible.

If you’re ready to turn insight into embodied change, press play and join this series. Share what lands, send your questions, and help shape the next episodes. Subscribe, leave a review, and pass this along to someone who’s ready to feel safe in love.

Mentioned episodes:
EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment
EP 186: From self-fixing to self-cultivation - a mindset revolution

Now enrolling for the fall:

My yearlong mentorship into secure relating and leading from love:
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA)
2 days in person Sep 30-Oct 1 included!

Next coaching training cohort starts in October.
Read more about the Nagual: mystery school and coach certification

Registration open for 2027 power journey:
Mexico February