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► Episode Timestamps:

0:00 Overview

02:42 Stage 0 - Pre Breakup

13:05 Stage 1 - No Contact, but Invisible Connection

16:40 Stage 2 - The First Attempts of Re-Connection

20:00 Stage 3 - Dating again

22:50 Stage 4 - The Decision

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:35 Pathway 1: Genuine Desire

07:46 Pathway 2: Seeking Security

12:06 Pathway 3: Inner Confusion

16:22 Taking Responsibility and Healing

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro - 7 Brutally Honest Lessons From A Healed Avoidant

00:52 Lesson 1: When You Go Cold, You Don’t Lose Feelings, You Deactivate

02:42 Lesson 2: In Dating, Healthy Love Will Feel Boring

06:00 Lesson 3: Your Partner Usually Isn’t Too Much, You’re Just Too Overwhelmed

08:35 Lesson 4: You Can’t Heal Your Avoidant Attachment Wounds Just By Understanding Them

11:35 Lesson 5: It’s Often Not The Wrong Partner, It’s Yor Fear Of Engulfment Giving You The Urge To Escape

14:49 Lesson 6: Freedom Isn’t Your Highest Value Or Your Truth, You Just Build Your Identity On Your Coping Mechanisms

18:44 Lesson 7: You Aren’t “Not Made For A Relationship”, You Are Just Afraid What Happens When You Show Your

Real Self In Connection

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 The Number One Sign

00:53 The Initial Dating Phase

02:15 When Things Get Real

03:51 The Panic Reaction

04:51 Roots of the Reaction

07:39 Navigating Conflicting Emotions

08:32 Overcoming Avoidant Patterns

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:38 Why I Built This AI

03:52 Benefits of AI Reflection

07:42 Privacy and Data Security

10:23 AI vs. Professional Therapy

12:44 Live AI Demonstration

19:48 How You Can Access It

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Avoidant vs. Anxious Attachment Video:

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Attachment Quiz:

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro - No Contact Won’t Save Your Relationship

00:42 What Is The No Contact Rule?

01:47 Goals Of The No Contact Rule

4:44 Can “No Contact” Work?

06:18 The Problem With No Contact

10:18 3 Better Techniques For Anxious-Avoidant Couples, That Can Actually Save Your Relationship

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Limerence & Projecting Fantasies Video: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=eaXGVlJdTCD6XV4V

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:35 The Power of Self-Reflection

01:57 The Avoidant Attachment Trap

04:45 Identifying the Source of Anxiety

05:18 Understanding Attachment with AI

09:01 Untangling Fear and Incompatibility

10:48 Moving Toward Secure Attachment

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Overview

02:00 Subtle Behavior 1

04:15 Subtle Behavior 2

06:05 Subtle Behavior 3

09:30 Subtle Behavior 4

12:05 Subtle Behavior 5

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Attachment Insecurity & Emotional Regulation Difficulties: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38898361/

Avoidant Attachment & Addictions Video:

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Stonewalling Video:

How to resolve conflict Video:

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Hypervigilance Video:

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro - Avoidant Attachment Vs. Anxious Attachment

01:51 Difference 1: Core Fear

04:00 Difference 2: Core Belief

05:55 Difference 3: Strategies

09:07: Difference 4: Personal Agencies

10:07: Difference 5: Dealing With Conflict

13:41 Difference 6: Co-Regulation

15:44 Difference 7: Understanding/Misunderstanding Each Other

18:22 Difference 8: Asking For Help

19:47 Difference 9: Being Asked For Help

21:10 Difference 10: Spending Time Alone

22:17 The Overlap

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:55 Sign 1

03:54 Sign 2

06:00 Sign 3

07:45 Sign 4

11:56 Sign 5

17:05 Healing and Conclusion

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.