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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:49 The Reddit Perspective

02:30 Avoidant Attachment Origins

06:09 Relationship Triggers

07:01 The Wallpaper Connection

10:29 Self-Reflection

11:45 Healing and Conclusion

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro - Having Hard Time With Giving And Receiving Help

10:04 Receiving Help

11:58 Giving Help

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Why You Have No Clue What You Feel and Need Video: https://youtu.be/YoerBrHSdUI?si=CtujMHbajSrNEtz7

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:32 Understanding Avoidant Attachment

03:23 The Nervous System's Brake

07:15 Core Fears Explained

11:03 Changing the Pattern

12:51 Identifying Needs and Emotions

16:16 Staying Connected

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Can Attachment Change

00:54 Attachment vs Personality Disorders

03:55 Roots of Avoidant Behavior

05:16 Repressed Emotions and Needs

07:46 The First Step: Awareness

11:17 Unlearning Avoidant Patterns

14:54 Resources for Further Healing

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style Video:

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Toxic Shame Video:

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Avoidant Attachment, Interest in Alternatives, and Infidelity Paper:

https://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/eli-finkel/documents/InPress_DeWallLambertSlotterDeckmanPondFinkelLuchiesFincham_JPSP.pdf

Attachment Insecurity and Infidelity in Marriage Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3648986/

Sexual compulsion Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4394850/

Attachment Insecurity & Problematic Porn Use Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38898361/

ADHD, Attachment Difficulties & Porn Use Paper: https://cris.tau.ac.il/en/publications/the-contribution-of-adhd-and-attachment-difficulties-to-online-po/

Attachment and substance use disorders Review Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16210236/

Child sexual abuse and subsequent psychopathology Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11344883/

► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Why Noone Talks About This

01:17 Coping Strategies of Avoidants

03:01 Why Do Avoidants Fall For Addictions or Excessive Behaviors?

07:13 Studies on Avoidant Attachment & Addictions

15:21 Sex, Porn, Affairs: 5 Reasons Why It's the Ideal Escape

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:12 Why Feelings Go Numb

02:34 The Role of Attachment

09:04 Do You Still Love Them?

10:57 Breaking the Cycle

12:48 Communicating Needs and Emotions

16:24 Conclusion and Resources

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 "I Feel Guilty When Setting Boundaries"

01:20 Boundaries

05:38 The Roots of Guilt

11:53 Shame and Responsibility

13:35 Overcoming Boundary Guilt

17:35 Building Safety

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:24 Avoiding Relationships Became A Recurring Pattern In Your Life

03:59 You Dream Of A Calm, Harmonious Relationship

06:00 If You Can Relate, You Are Not Alone

09:50 3 Levels To Re-Learn If You Want To Go From Avoidant To Secure Love

10:06 Level 1: Your Copings Became Your Identity, Without You Realizing It

14:47 Level 2: You’re Not Living Free, You’re Constantly Self-Soothing

17:05: Level 3: You’re Not Independent, Support Just Never Was An Available Option

20:57 How To Get From Avoidant To More Secure Attachment

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.