You Are Not Crazy

Ben Taylor, a self aware Narcissist, joins me to dive deep into shame, blame and guilt. In this episode, we discuss Ben's healing journey, how Ben defines shame, and how Narcissists will do anything to avoid feeling shame. We also touch on how to know if a Narcissist changed (spoiler alert, they haven't).

Ben is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way to break down some complexities of narcissistic abuse in a way that we can actually really understand it. 

You can find Ben here:

https://rawmotivations.com/

https://rawmotivations.com/podcast

https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations/

https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/

https://www.youtube.com/rawmotivations

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Ashlee Levitch, the host of the popular podcast, The Narc and Me, joins me to discuss her story of surviving Narcissistic Abuse. 

You can listen to Ashlee's podcast here: https://tr.ee/lTfSY1VJ-b

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Divorcing a narcissist requires you to be prepared - mentally, physically, financially AND emotionally.  Tessa of Kind Mama Coaching joins me to talk about the ins and outs of divorcing a Narcissist and what it's like to Co-Parent with one. We talk through strategies to keep yourself sane while navigating insanity. I highly recommend listening to this episode with a pen and paper in hand, especially if you are co-parenting with a narcissist.

Tessa Noel is a certified divorce transition and recovery coach  and certified co-parenting specialist with extensive knowledge in multiple life coaching frameworks. She holds a degree from California State University of San Marcos and  has firsthand experience in the family courts of California.

You can connect with Tessa here: https://beacons.ai/coachkindmama/

Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Love bombing is a controlling and manipulative tactic most often used by narcissists and abusive people.  In this episode, I unpack Love Bombing: what it is, how it feels, how to know if you're being love bombed, and how to begin to let go of the false-potential it creates.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Nat joins me to discuss sexual and marital coercion within marriage. Sexual coercion is an insidious form of abuse in which one person routinely uses guilt, shame, feelings of depression and sadness, as well as anger and frustration to manipulate their partner into unwanted sex and physical touch. Nat breaks down what sexual coercion is and how it shows up in marriage.

Nat emphasizes that sexual coercion can happen in any relationship dynamic, but it seems to be harder to spot in marriage, where society tells us sex is a naturally occurring thing and a great deal of importance is placed on our frequency of sexual encounters. This is a must-listen to episode -- and then go find her on TikTok!

You can follow Nat here: https://www.instagram.com/mending.me/

And learn more about her here: https://bio.site/alwaysmending

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? What does healthy look like?

Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior.

Where you can find Paul:
Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain
MEAN Workbook

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Emmy Marie is a trauma survivor and Certified Trauma Informed coach with the mission to help others reclaim their power, reject shame, and walk boldly towards a life of balance, freedom, and joy. I found Emmy through her Instagram, @bloomingwithemmy, where she posts frequently on healing from abuse. This episode is about learning to heal from abuse and what healthy can look like.

You can find Emmy here: https://www.emmymarie.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

I found the Pamela Anderson Documentary tremendously impactful -- especially through the lens of Domestic Violence. This podcast covers my initial thoughts and realizations. I highly recommend you watch it on Netflix.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner