You Are Not Crazy

Lee Hammock (MentalHealness) the Self Aware Narcissist, joins me to dissect the Mind of the Narcissist. Lee is a diagnosed Narcissist and we discuss so many aspects of NPD including common questions that come up in client sessions.

We also get into a larger conversation about the danger of Narcissistic Abuse and what can happen/what we've seen happen. This is a really important part of the podcast and I really recommend listening.

You can connect with Lee here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mentalhealness

Website: https://mentalhealness.net/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MentalHealness

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

I'm going to dive into an enormous topic today: No Contact. I carry a different perspective than others because it was so hard for me to get to. It felt like I was literally trying to saw off my hand with a butter knife.

In this podcast, I explain why we go No Contact in abusive relationships and some strategies if the all or nothing feels possible right now.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

On todays podcast, Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., joins me to discuss the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. Dr. McAvoy is a psychologist and writer, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. She's been featured on Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project.

Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She’s also recently published a workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance, designed to help those struggling with a paralyzing mental fog to break free from the confusion and find greater clarity and direction.

You can listen to her podcast here: https://breaking-free-from-narc.captivate.fm/listen

Her books:

Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, and Double Cross: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction-ebook/dp/B09LJ26B5J/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1671138323&sr=8-1

First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance: https://www.amazon.com/First-Steps-Leaving-Narcissist-Dissonance/dp/1956631011/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ZHY0XBLCRKJD&keywords=first+steps+to+leaving+a+narcissist&qid=1671138420&sprefix=First+Steps+to+Leaving+%2Caps%2C100&sr=8-1

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you are in an abusive relationship and are struggling to get out, you are likely trauma bonded. Trauma bonds are part of abusive and Narcissistic relationships.

When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling.

How do you know it is a trauma bond?

Do you feel you need to leave...but you just can't do it? Do you have a deep-rooted feeling of "I know I need to leave. I know he is mean. But if he would just stop yelling and listen to me. If I could just get him to understand that it's abusive, then things could be better...."

If you are accepting poor treatment but can't leave, you are likely in a trauma bond.

This podcast will unpack 10 signs of a Trauma Bond.

You can learn more about my Trauma Bond Recovery Group: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/trauma-bond-recovery-live-course/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns.

You can connect with Misha: www.therapywithmisha.com
And on social media @therapywithmisha 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field.

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1

Instagram: https://instagram.com/manjit_ruprai

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/manjitkaurruprai

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai
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Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method. This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do, they do not sit together and are not expected to communicate. This is contrary to co-parenting which involves more of a team approach. 

When you are in a toxic situation, or a relationship with a narcissist, co-parenting can be a breeding ground for the high-conflict partner to control or manipulate. When you try to co-parent with them, it can leave you feeling exhausted, constantly trying new things to “keep the peace” – but failing. You may feel at a loss because nothing will work as easily as it “should.”

This episode breaks down parallel parenting. I hope it is helpful and sheds light on a very tough topic.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and admiration.

I am a completely different person than I was when I was with my ex - and while I do not wish the pain of a Narcissistic relationship on anyone - this podcast covers a few lessons I learned in healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship. 

I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship.

This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner