In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I’m diving into the challenges of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season—especially when you’re dealing with parents who have narcissistic or borderline personality traits. I’ll share actionable strategies for conserving your emotional energy and prioritizing your peace and happiness.

Together, we’ll reflect on past holiday interactions, plan for healthier gatherings, and embrace a mindset that prioritizes your well-being in the new year. Join me as we take steps to reclaim our peace and navigate the holidays with confidence!

Also- if you want to hear about my own challenging Thanksgiving this year, check out the bonus podcast episode I posted

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

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In this episode, I explore how growing up with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders impacts the way we handle political and family stressors. With the holidays quickly approaching, I unpack why these events can feel so overwhelming and how past experiences play a part in our current stress.

Using the power and control wheel, I break down the cycle of narcissistic abuse and how that is more relevant than ever now. With Thanksgiving right around the corner, I share practical tips to help you assess your emotional readiness, set boundaries with toxic family members, and prioritize your mental health. 

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Today I'm going to try to convince you that embracing stress is the secret to your long term peace and happiness. Discover how the cycle of avoidance, driven by the fear of upsetting a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, might be keeping you stuck in a loop of burnout and resentment. 

By shifting your mindset and recognizing this pattern, you can start prioritizing long-term peace over fleeting comfort. This episode promises to guide you through practical strategies that help maintain your boundaries and manage stress, especially during the challenging holiday season.

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In today's episode, I discuss whether you should set boundaries or go no contact with a parent who has unmanaged borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. We'll explore the emotional exhaustion that often leads to the choice of going no contact and the societal pressures that can make you doubt this decision.

Full disclosure- the audio on this episode is not great quality. I ambitiously attempted to do a video recording to post to YouTube and my editing skills are not at that level! Thank you for bearing with me this week. Next week we'll go back to our regular, audio-only episodes with better sound quality!

But, until then, if you want to watch the video of this episode, you can do so here >>>> https://youtu.be/eBi7Afhzl3w

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Emotionally vulnerability with a parent who has unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder is always a bad idea. But, it's hard to not get sucked into those feel good moments- so what should you do?

Listen to this episode of "You're Not Crazy" to hear my thoughts on the many complicated layers of being emotionally vulnerable with a parent who has BPD or NPD.

Also, we talk about our first Patreon group Zoom call which is coming up next Monday! Make sure to sign up at the $20 level to get an invite- I can't wait to see you there :)

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

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Feeling stuck in a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder can be overwhelming. The fear of triggering them can leave you feeling paralyzed and like you have no options. But here’s the thing: doing nothing is making a choice—and it’s probably not the one that serves you best.

In this episode, I share practical strategies for navigating those moments when every option seems difficult (because, let’s be honest, that’s often the reality when you have a parent with BPD or NPD). Join me to learn how to break free from feeling stuck and start making choices that prioritize your well-being.

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Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent at www.confidentboundaries.com/theguide

Grab my free guide, 5 Guilt-Proof Boundaries That Actually Work (Even With a Toxic Parent):
confidentboundaries.com/guilt-proof-boundaries

Download the Confident Boundaries App on iPhone:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

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Today I share about my own childhood growing up with a narcissistic parent. I talk about why it's been such a struggle for me to really accept my mother's narcissism and how becoming a parent myself has made me much less sympathetic to my mother's poor parenting journey.

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In this episode, we talk about self-compassion and why it is so hard to develop for adults who grew up with emotionally unpredictable parents. I dive deep into why an emotionally safe space is essential for developing self-compassion and ways you can practice being kinder to yourself starting today.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.

You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

In this week's special bonus episode, I share about how this little podcast that could is growing- thanks to you! Whether you're seeking extra support, insightful Q&A sessions, or just some good company on bi-monthly Zoom chats, our brand-new Patreon community has got you covered. But, don't worry- our weekly Tuesday podcasts aren't going anywhere! Listen to learn more about this exciting change and what it means for the future of the podcast. 

Also- I forgot to mention on this episode that all members of the Patreon community get 25% off The Boundaries Roadmap, my online course for effectively setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder!

Exciting News: The Confident Boundaries Online Community is Open!
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• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy that give you a deeper look into topics we’ve covered and my own family dynamics
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