Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨

In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them.

We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too.

Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools

If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help. 

And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity.

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Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱