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  • Episode 127: Stop Letting Rumination Rule Your Life

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    If you’ve experienced emotional abuse, divorce, or narcissistic abuse, it can feel like your mind is constantly trapped in an exhausting cycle of rumination. Abuse survivors often find themselves replaying painful memories of their ex-partner, their toxic behaviors, or the trauma of the relationship. This mental loop doesn’t just waste time—it keeps you stuck in the past and prevents you from moving forward with your life. Whether you’re dealing with a high-conflict divorce or recovering from narcissistic abuse, these recurring thoughts can feel impossible to shake. But breaking free from rumination is possible, and it starts with addressing the root cause of your emotional pain.

    In this episode, I share the fastest way to stop ruminating in under 3 months and why many survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse find themselves mentally stuck after their relationship ends. We explore how to reclaim your mental energy and regain control over your thoughts, even if you’re still dealing with a difficult ex or legal battles post-divorce. By understanding how rumination works and how to tackle it at its source, you can create a future that’s no longer overshadowed by your past.

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    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    19 min
  • Episode 126: How to Deal with Conflict as an Abuse Survivor

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    If you’ve ever been abused, dealing with conflict can feel super scary! In this episode, we’re going to talk about how abuse survivors can handle conflict better. We’ll look at how the mind tries to protect us after trauma and how these habits might affect how we react to conflict. By understanding these patterns, we can find ways to feel stronger, more confident, and in control. We’ll share tips and ideas to help survivors take back their power and see conflict as a chance to grow and change. This episode is all about learning to face conflict with courage and rewrite your story with strength!

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    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


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    Email: [email protected]
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    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    19 min
  • Episode 125: Unveiling Narcissistic Abuse: The Effects of Withholding on Self-Esteem

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    In this podcast episode I am explaining he insidious nature of narcissistic abuse, specifically focusing on the manipulative tactic of withholding. Exploring the psychology behind withholding, we illuminate the lasting impact on survivors' self-esteem, including diminished self-worth, heightened anxiety, and struggles with trust.  By raising awareness and breaking the cycle if narcissistic abuse, we aim to provide valuable insights and resources for listeners navigating the complexities of this abuse tactic so you can recovery and reclaim your life!


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    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


    Website: www.radiatenrise.com 

    Email: [email protected]
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    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    21 min
  • Episode 124: 17 Signs of Emotional Abuse for Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

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    Have you ever looked back on a relationship and wondered, "Was it really emotional abuse, or am I making too much of it?"

    Even after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, you may still question what you experienced, second-guess your feelings, or blame yourself for things that were never your responsibility.

    In this episode, we're uncovering 17 signs of emotional abuse, including gaslighting, blame-shifting, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, and manipulation.

    We'll explore how emotionally abusive behaviors can undermine your confidence, distort your perception of reality, and leave you questioning your own judgment long after the relationship ends.

    You'll learn to recognize behaviors such as:

    • Verbal put-downs disguised as jokes
    • Isolation from friends and family
    • Dismissing or invalidating your feelings
    • Manipulation designed to make you feel responsible
    • Sabotaging your relationships and independence

    Recognizing emotional abuse is important. But recognizing it and recovering from it are two different things.

    If you've already left the relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, guilt, rumination, or trusting yourself, understanding what they did to you can help you begin separating their behavior from your sense of self.

    You deserve more than simply knowing what happened. You deserve the opportunity to rebuild your confidence, rediscover who you are, and move forward without carrying the emotional weight of the past.

    Schedule your complimentary Alignment Call here: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986

    Register for the FREE Stop Coping, Start Healing Training:

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15

    Support the show

    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


    Website: www.radiatenrise.com 

    Email: [email protected]
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/

    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    1 hr 4 min
  • Episode 123: Your Brain as a Healing Tool: Why It’s Time to Use It

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    In this episode, we explore the incredible power of the brain in healing emotional wounds and trauma responses from emotional and narcissistic abuse. With insights from science, we'll discuss why we often overlook this resource and how we can consciously use our minds to transform unwanted emotions into healing and growth. If you've tried countless methods without success, this episode might just hold the key to unlocking your healing journey.

    Register for the FREE Stop Coping, Start Healing Training:

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    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


    Website: www.radiatenrise.com 

    Email: [email protected]
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/
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    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    13 min
  • Episode 122: Breaking Free: How to Truly Stick to No Contact

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    In the realm of toxic relationships, the decision to go 'no contact' is often misunderstood, plagued by misconceptions that fail to capture its emotional complexity. When dealing with individuals entrenched in narcissism and emotional abuse, severing ties is far from a simple task. Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely about physical distance; it entails a multifaceted process of disentangling oneself emotionally and mentally. The idea that going no contact erases all feelings towards the abuser oversimplifies the depth of emotional attachment that often exists, making it a challenging journey marked by conflicting emotions. Moreover, the misconception that it signifies weakness couldn't be further from the truth; it requires immense strength and self-awareness to recognize the need for such boundaries. Going no contact is not an act of revenge but a vital step towards self-preservation and healing. It's a courageous choice, acknowledging the inherent complexities of narcissistic relationships and emotional abuse, and prioritizing one's own well-being above all else.


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    *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    23 min
  • Episode 121: Shifting Self-Blame with the Power of the Subconscious Mind

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    Today we are getting into the intricate web of self-blame that survivors of emotional abuse often find themselves entangled in. Join me as we unravel the common phrases and beliefs survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse have while exploring the roots of self-blame and the insidious impact of emotional manipulation.

    Let me help you illuminate the path toward healing, helping you rewrite your narrative from victim to survivor. Tune in to learn how to break free from the chains of self-blame, embracing self-compassion and reclaiming your innate worth. Don't miss this essential episode designed to inspire, uplift, and guide you on your journey from self-blame to self-love.

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    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


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    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    30 min
  • Episode 120: Calm the Storm: Regaining Control After Emotional Abuse

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    In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we dive deep into the aftermath of narcissistic abuse and explore how it leaves survivors feeling emotionally dysregulated and out of control. If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are running the show—causing you to lash out, burst into tears, or freeze up—you’re not alone. This episode sheds light on why it's so challenging to regulate your emotions during and after enduring emotional abuse.

    I'll discuss the critical role of your nervous system in this process and introduce powerful nervous system regulation techniques that can help you regain control and find your calm after the storm. Drawing on personal experiences and proven strategies, I will guide you through understanding how to move from emotional chaos to emotional clarity.

    Ready to start healing? I’ll share how these techniques are integrated into my 1:1 coaching sessions, helping women like you reprogram their minds and build a life of peace and empowerment after abuse. If you’re struggling with the lingering effects of narcissistic abuse and are ready to take the next step in your healing journey, this episode is for you.


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    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


    Website: www.radiatenrise.com 

    Email: [email protected]
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/

    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    20 min
  • 🔒 My Top Tips to Communicating with a Narcissist to Alleviate Stress in Your Life

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    In today's Premium episode, we will be diving into the challenging topic of how to communicate with a narcissist. If you are dealing with a narcissistic ex-partner, family member, or co-worker, you know how stressful and draining these interactions can be. But fear not, I'm here to share my personal tips and tricks to help you navigate these challenging conversations, alleviate stress in your life, and avoid getting sucked into the drama with your ex. 

    Dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, but with the right strategies, you can communicate with them in a way that minimizes stress and drama in your life. By understanding narcissism, setting healthy boundaries, using techniques that have been successful for others and customizing strategies to your situation, you can regain control and protect your emotional well-being. 

    Remember, recovery from emotional abuse is a process, and you deserve to prioritize your own healing and well-being. Thank you for joining me on The Be A Better You Podcast (formerly Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast), and remember to subscribe for more helpful tips and insights on your healing journey. Take care!

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    *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    31 min
  • Episode 119: The Real Reason Letting Go Feels so Hard

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    In this episode of the Be a Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney, a best-selling author and subconscious reprogramming coach, dives into the deep-rooted challenges that make letting go feel almost impossible. Whether you're struggling to stop thinking about your ex, wishing you could move on from the past, or feeling stuck in a cycle of rumination, this episode is for you.

    Allison explores common behaviors like overthinking, idealizing the past, and seeking closure, all of which can keep you anchored to emotional pain. You'll discover the real reasons behind these struggles: the overwhelming noise in your mind and the tendency to seek happiness from external sources instead of cultivating it within.

    Through practical tips and a powerful analogy, you'll learn how to reduce mental clutter and build a solid foundation of inner peace. Plus, Allison introduces a simple yet transformative exercise involving solitude and the Schumann Resonance frequency to help you start creating the happiness you deserve, from the inside out.

    If you're ready to break free from the past and step into a future filled with peace and joy, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to begin your journey. Tune in now, and take the first step towards healing and personal empowerment.

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    Ready to Heal Beyond the Podcast?

    If you've left an emotionally abusive relationship but still struggle with self-doubt, emotional triggers, or feeling stuck, personalized mentorship can help you move forward.


    Explore my Private Coaching Program and schedule a complimentary Alignment Call to see if we're a good fit.

    Explore Private Mentorship: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715&appointmentType=63611986


    Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again?
    Get your Free seat at the NEXT Stop Coping Start Healing LIVE Training @7p EST. Replays available to all who register:⬇️

    https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training-dec-15


    Website: www.radiatenrise.com 

    Email: [email protected]
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/

    *Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast*

    26 min

About Be A Better You

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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I…

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