Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

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In this discussion, we're exploring the recurring question of whether someone is in love with the reality of their relationship or if they're enamored with the potential of their partner. The speaker delves into scenarios where individuals might be facing challenges and repeating patterns in their relationships. The central question posed is whether one loves their partner for who they are or if they're holding onto an idealized vision of what the partner could become.

The talk emphasizes three key considerations:

1. Love Bombing and Grand Gestures: The speaker urges listeners to examine if there has been an element of love bombing in the relationship, where partners shower each other with extravagant affection, possibly masking underlying insecurities. Grand gestures, while appealing, may not be sustainable or reflective of day-to-day reality.
2. Self-Esteem and Acceptance of Bad Behaviors: The discussion highlights the impact of low self-esteem on the perception of worthiness in a relationship. Individuals with insecurities might put their partners on pedestals, accepting harmful behaviors because they feel deserving of such treatment. This leads to tolerating difficul

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

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LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

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Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

In this discussion, I want to talk about the dynamic of victimhood within relationships. It's a challenging topic, and I always aim to be honest, even if the conversation is uncomfortable. My intention is rooted in compassion and love to help you improve, heal, and progress. If you feel triggered, seek support and prioritize self-care.

Victimhood in relationships often involves blaming a partner for causing hurt. While it's valid to acknowledge harmful behaviors, consistently pointing fingers can disempower you. A prevalent trend is labeling behaviors as toxic but continuously blaming the partner. This approach inadvertently gives them power and control over you.

The Karpman drama triangle illustrates that when feeling like a victim, one may identify a persecutor (the bad guy) and wait for a rescuer to save them. This dynamic puts a lot of responsibility on the person who caused the harm. While it's natural to hope for change and apologies, relying on external validation perpetuates victimhood.

The key is to recognize that your emotions are valid without needing someone else to acknowledge them. Empowerment comes from internal resources, and pointing fingers or waiting for valid

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

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Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

today we're delving into the topic of relationships, exploring those moments when doubts and struggles arise. You know those times when you've tried everything, followed the books, but you're left wondering, "Is this relationship worth fighting for?" We often hit this crossroads in distress, questioning the potential and the happiness it brings. So, let me break down three key principles for you to consider.

Firstly, the three commandments for a healthy relationship: "I am happy, you are happy, and the relationship is happy." Simplifying it helps us avoid overcomplicating things. Essentially, it's about both partners committing to personal and mutual happiness, aligning their directions.

Secondly, the importance of distinguishing personal anxieties from relationship dynamics. Self-projections, those doubts and stories we carry, can heavily influence how we perceive our partner's feelings. It's essential to differentiate between what's truly happening in the relationship and what's our own inner narrative.

Finally, core characteristics and values play a crucial role. We often get into relationships for what they bring to us, rather than embracing the traits and values of our partner. Ev

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

In this conversation, I'm diving into the recurring challenges we often face in relationships, asking myself, "Why am I here again?" I'm exploring the concept of relationship homeostasis, comparing it to the idea of maintaining a set point in biology. The discussion is split into two main parts: the subconscious process and neurological imprinting.

On a subconscious level, I'm pointing out that early experiences shape my beliefs about self-worth and lovability. These beliefs, formed during my childhood, create conditions for feeling valued based on certain achievements or behaviors. I'm emphasizing the importance of questioning and unlearning these old beliefs, understanding their origin, and considering self-forgiveness.

On the biological side, it involves regulating hormones like dopamine and cortisol, triggering stress responses when I deviate from my perceived set point. This stress response, rooted in evolutionary survival mechanisms, creates a loop of behaviors aimed at restoring the perceived safety of my set point. I'm suggesting somatic practices to regulate my nervous system and break free from these patterns.

In conclusion, I'm encouraging myself to explore and redefi

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

In this episode I talk about the challenges of having difficult conversations in relationships. The key points include:

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2. The importance of having difficult conversations for the growth of a relationship.
3. Two common challenges: individuals who struggle to express themselves and those whose messages are not understood by their partners.
4. The need to assess and gradually open up emotionally based on the partner's response.
5. The significance of understanding the purpose of communication, which is to share and achieve mutual understanding.
6. Strategies for initiating difficult conversations, such as labelling them and considering the partner's capacity to engage at that moment.
7. The necessity of tolerating uncomfortable information during these conversations for the sake of problem-solving and relationship improvement.

Overall, the intention behind the conversation is crucial, gradual sharing, clear labelling, considering timing, and a willingness to hear uncomfortable truths as crucial aspects of successfully navigating difficult conversations in relationships.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

Let's talk about the muddy ground of what is an attachment vs connection:
Attachment styles, whether secure or insecure, are deeply rooted in the need for safety. Insecure attachments can be problematic, leading to patterns that are hard to break.

Attachments are not limited to interpersonal relationships; they extend to everything in our lives. Unhealthy attachments can emerge when we seek external things to fill internal insecurities. This pattern, rooted in a lack of safety, can lead to power imbalances.

On the other hand, connection involves maintaining ownership over one's power and control while appreciating and embracing differences in others. True connection is about understanding that the true power lies within oneself, making autonomous choices in alignment with personal values and purpose.

Attempting to shape a partner based on one's own preferences stems from unhealthy attachments, as it suggests a lack of acceptance of the partner's natural self. Connection, being a more healthy measure for relationships, involves observing and embracing the partner's characteristics without trying to change them. The episode encourages a shift from attachment to connection for he

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

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In this talk, I explore the common struggles many of us face in balancing our careers and relationships. As we strive for success, certain personality traits like being an achiever, perfectionist, challenger, or individualist can impact our interactions with loved ones. If you're an achiever, you might feel success is never enough; as a perfectionist, you could set high standards at home. Challengers may create power imbalances, and individualists may feel unique but disconnected. Additionally, I discuss the dynamics between helpers (like you) who want to rescue and partners (like me) who may resist or feel overwhelmed. It's crucial to recognize these traits and seek support to navigate relationship challenges successfully. If you ever need assistance, my details are in the show notes below. Until next time, take care.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

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When I tell my clients that they get attracted to the type of person they expect, NOT the person they consciously WANT - they look at me like I'm crazy.

The truth is, your subconscious mind governs 95% of your actions, including the choice in partner.

AND on top of this, the subconscious mind is always looking to heal and solve an old wound, through the person or situation in front of us.

This means that if you fear (wound) you are not good enough just the way you are and you have to work hard for love, you will be attracted to someone who has unattainably high expectations - who may sometimes make you feel like you're enough but you have to work for it.

This is the way the subconscious wound is trying to heal itself and resolve the pain by "being good enough" but expecting "I cannot be good enough as I am".

Here I talk about the paradox of why you get attracted to the person who evokes your wound, and how to start taking steps to solving this internal wound independently with clarity and focus.

There's still time to sign up to my free 5 day workshop - Link is here!
https://mailchi.mp/healtraumabonding.com/rewire-brain-rewire-relationship 

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

In today's discussion, we're delving into the significance of relationships and their impact on our well-being, particularly focusing on the relationship with a spouse. I talk about the challenge of distinguishing whether a relationship is nurturing or draining, highlighting the complexity that arises when individuals bring their past wounds and challenges into the dynamic.

The discussion touches upon the importance of being aware of one's own emotional baggage and past experiences, which shape beliefs and behaviors in relationships. I share an example of a client who ties their self-worth to success, illustrating how childhood programming influences adult relationships.

The conversation also introduces the concept of regulating the nervous system, especially during moments of stress. The I stress the importance of practicing regulation techniques regularly, not just during stressful times, to build resilience and strengthen emotional regulation.

Finally, the discussion explores automatic behaviors in relationships and encourages listeners to examine the underlying fears that drive these behaviors. The ultimate focus is on identifying and pursuing deeper desires, such as emotional

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

If you don't resolve your internal wound, it won't matter what your relationship status is - problems will always re-emerge

In this episode I talk about how current relationships mirror old wounds that are looking to be healed. The old wound that has never been healed (e.g. I'm not enough) will want closure or resolution in people who evoke this vey wound. 

Healing now is vital so that you can make decisions about relationships with clarity, understanding patterns and giving you autonomy of how you would like to act.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts