Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Today, joined by Dr Matt Slavin, we delve into the question: "Would you erase your trauma if you could?" Exploring both big and little traumas, we acknowledge their impact on shaping us. Trauma isn't just about life-threatening events but also repeated feelings of betrayal or neglect. Our experiences, good and bad, mold us, propelling us towards achievements or influencing our relationships. Trauma often dictates our choices and behaviors, affecting how we navigate life's challenges.

Through stories like Sir Edmund Hillary's, we see how past wounds can drive us to remarkable feats. Yet, trauma can also trap us in toxic patterns, blurring our perception of reality and hindering growth. Acceptance becomes pivotal, acknowledging the past while embracing the present. It's about radical acceptance—recognizing what we cannot change and focusing on self-improvement.

In a study, 99.9% of respondents, despite enduring severe traumas, opted not to erase them, understanding that doing so would alter their entire life's trajectory. It's a testament to the complexity of human experience, where trauma isn't solely a burden but also a catalyst for growth. By embracing our multifaceted selves and seeking love and safety, we embark on the healing journey, empowering ourselves to choose connections that nurture our well-being. Ultimately, we are observers of our lives, wielding the power to shape our narratives and find solace in love and acceptance.

Contact details for Matt: 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmattslavin/

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

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Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

In the discussion about high achievers and their challenges in relationships, Sarah and Matt highlight the common issue of being overly focused on goals and rationality, neglecting emotional connection. They emphasize that success in relationships relies heavily on emotional and mental connection, which accounts for 80% of relationship longevity. Sarah stresses the importance of prioritizing meaningful values over achieving specific goals in relationships. Matt introduces a practical exercise involving a "values dartboard" to align actions with values. They underscore the need for intentional presence and effort in fostering emotional connection, even when lacking emotional intelligence. The conversation emphasizes the power of showing up for one another and discusses research showing that attunement in relationships leads to brainwave patterns akin to meditative states. This highlights the profound impact of emotional connection on overall well-being. They caution against the endless pursuit of tasks and goals, advocating for prioritizing and committing to nurturing relationships. Ultimately, they assert that genuine commitment, effort, and willingness to understand and support one another are crucial for relationship success, fostering a deeper emotional bond and overall fulfillment.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

Today, we are talking all things about how to deal with heartache and break ups:
- How to grow self-worth and confidence.
- Noticing traits inside of you and stopping sabotaging behaviours
- Difficulties with boundaries and communication
- Are you in love because you need them or you need them because you love them?

Joined by guest speaker Erica Turner, founder of Your Relationship Reset - true blessing to have her join me!

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

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Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

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The most important decision you will in your career EVER make is the person with whom you choose to have a relationship.

Today, I had the pleasure of chatting with Kelly Roach, an 8 figure entrepreneur, owner of 6 businesses, who successfully balances career and family. Kelly emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships and structuring business around personal values. Starting her business part-time while working full-time taught her discipline and time management. She stresses the significance of quality time with family, leaving distractions like phones aside during these moments. We discussed the challenge of maintaining balance in relationships, especially when one partner is highly invested in their career. Open communication about values and roles is crucial for harmony. Kelly advises aligning business with personal values to create a fulfilling life rather than fitting life around work. Prioritizing family and creating space for meaningful connection fosters a healthy balance between personal and professional life.

Contact details for Kelly Roach and her team:
https://kellyroachcoaching.com/

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

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Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

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Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

Welcome back, friends! I'm thrilled to be joined by Neeta Bhushan, author of "That Sucked, Now What?" and co-founder of the Higher Self Institute. Today, we're diving into trauma bonding and how to cultivate healthier relationships, even amidst pain.

Neeta shares her journey, starting from a trauma-bonded relationship characterized by love bombing and codependency, leading to a dark point where she feared for her life. Despite success in her career, she faced internal struggles from early losses and abandonment wounds.

Leaving her toxic marriage marked a turning point, where she embraced vulnerability and sought help, beginning a seven-year journey of self-healing. She emphasizes the importance of making peace with the past and being radically honest about one's emotional awareness.

Neeta reflects on her pattern of seeking validation externally, a common trait among high achievers, and how it led to attracting toxic partners. She highlights the need to shift focus inward, finding self-love and validation rather than seeking it from others.

Drawing from her experiences, Neeta empowers others to break the cycle of trauma bonding by prioritizing self-awareness and emotional capacity. She stresses the importance of healing oneself before seeking validation in relationships, advocating for radical self-honesty and introspection.

Both Neeta and Dr. Sarah share their experiences with unhealthy relationships, emphasizing the journey of self-discovery and healing. They underscore the significance of facing oneself in the mirror and addressing internal wounds rather than seeking healing through external relationships.

Neeta Bushan's book: "That Sucked, Now What?" Available on all good book suppliers.

Instagram handle @neetabhushan

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

Today, we're joined by Hoda Tahoun, a global consultant in talent development, known for her expertise in personal development, especially in business and relationships. Hoda emphasizes the interconnectedness of different aspects of life, particularly relationships, which can significantly impact personal growth.

Hoda shares her daily routine, highlighting the importance of preparation and intention-setting. She starts her day with gratitude meditation and visualizes success in various aspects of life. This practice helps her maintain a positive mindset throughout the day, enabling her to show up fully for her family, friends, coworkers, and clients.

The conversation delves into self-love and its complexities, acknowledging societal misconceptions and cultural influences. They discuss the subconscious conditioning around love and worthiness, emphasizing the need to confront shame and take responsibility for personal growth. They explore how past experiences, particularly in childhood, shape beliefs and behaviors, and the importance of self-awareness in healing and self-love.

They also touch upon the reluctance some individuals face in taking action towards change, whether due to fear, shame, or uncertainty. Despite external support and inspiration, real transformation begins with an individual's willingness to confront their inner struggles and take the first step towards growth.

Overall, the conversation highlights the journey towards self-love as a deeply personal and transformative process, influenced by both internal and external factors, but ultimately driven by individual choice and commitment to growth.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

Hello and welcome back. Today, I'm going to delve a little deeper into the issues we have about our self-worth. The reason for this is because many people come to me with relationship problems, feeling unappreciated or undervalued. Regardless of the relationship issues they present, the common thread is doubt in their self-worth. This doubt manifests in how we view ourselves and what we believe we deserve, ultimately affecting our relationships.

You may relate to the idea that two people can enter the same difficult relationship but respond differently. One might assert themselves while the other struggles with shame or guilt. The success of our relationships reflects what's going on inside us, not just the relationship itself. So, let's talk about self-worth and its limitations.

Our self-worth is based on past experiences, especially during our formative years. Explicit experiences, like critical parents, and implicit ones, like feeling flawed despite parental support, shape our self-worth. We create upper and lower limits for our worth based on these experiences.

The upper limit is what we believe we're worthy of receiving or achieving. Anything beyond this makes us uncomfortable or

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

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Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

Let's talk about self-love today. Why is it crucial? It's necessary in any relationship, whether you're single and looking for a partner or struggling with your current relationship. Social media talks a lot about self-love, but here's my take. Loving yourself isn't easy. If you're listening, you've probably dealt with self-doubt and insecurity, making it hard to love yourself freely. Conditional assumptions about love, like "I'll love myself if I achieve X," add to the struggle. So, how do we love ourselves unconditionally? It's about realizing our worth regardless of achievements or appearances. This can be tough to grasp because we're used to conditional worth.

Breaking out of this cycle is crucial. Self-criticism reinforces conditional worth, creating a negative loop. This loop becomes ingrained in our brains, affecting our emotions and responses. But breaking this cycle changes relationships. It improves communication, boundaries, and confidence. So, how do we break free?

It's about understanding the deeper intentions behind self-criticism. We often criticize ourselves to motivate improvement, but this stems from childhood experiences and circumstances. Forgiving our past selves and rec

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

Today, we're diving into why self-love is crucial for successful relationships, whether you're single, in a committed relationship, or navigating the dating scene. Let's explore why prioritizing self-love is essential for both you and your relationships.

Many people hear the advice to love themselves more, but the true significance of this often gets overlooked. Think of self-love as the foundation of a house you're building. Without a sturdy foundation, your house won't stand strong. Similarly, for a relationship to thrive, you need a solid foundation within yourself.

I've seen countless clients struggle in relationships, experiencing pain and heartache. Often, they blame external factors or their partners, but the truth is, our internal state plays a significant role. Relationships serve as mirrors, reflecting our inner workings. If our internal landscape isn't healthy, our relationships will suffer.

Consider two individuals dating the same person. One may confidently walk away from a toxic situation, recognizing their worth and ability to heal. The other may cling to the hope that their partner can fix them, perpetuating a cycle of unhealthy relationships.

Your foundation dictates

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

 Welcome to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab, where high achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs explore relationship fitness, healing from relationship trauma, and creating secure, trusting, and loving partnerships. Designed for those navigating high-stakes careers and relationships, we dive into trauma-informed coaching, relationship wellbeing, and practical strategies to recover from trauma bonding and build meaningful connections. Save your marriage, start building secure relationships and optimizing your relationship wellbeing.

 

Get your FREE downloadable Relationship Health Quiz here: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

If you would like to book in a free consultation call, please click here: https://calendly.com/healtraumabonding-info/30min

For more information, contact [email protected]

want to talk about something many of us experience. You ever feel like you're working tirelessly, yet things just aren't improving? Maybe in your relationship, you're constantly walking on eggshells, avoiding uncomfortable conversations, or trying to make excuses for your partner's behavior. You find yourself doing more and more, hoping it'll keep your partner happy and the relationship intact.

But let me tell you, I've seen this pattern before. People like you pour their energy into superficial fixes like financial success, physical appearance, or even sexual promiscuity, thinking it'll save the relationship. But the truth is, it's often the wrong focus.

You might feel temporarily relieved when things seem to improve, but soon enough, you're back to feeling anxious and empty. You're stuck in this cycle because you're not addressing the real issues. Instead of diving deep into emotional connection, vulnerability, and trust, you're chasing after surface-level fixes.

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Let’s develop relationship fitness and cultivate fulfilling, secure, and loving relationships.

Specialising in relationships, attachment problems and trauma bonding, Dr Sarah is on a mission to help you end negative cycles, create a secure relationship template, improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional intimacy. Stop self-sabotaging behaviours now and begin to self-actualise.

Working with business leaders, entrepreneurs, high achievers and perfectionists. Whether you are wanting to strengthen your current relationship and save your marriage, or you are healing from heartbreak to start a fresh, set yourself up for relationship success.

Get marriage counselling near you in person or online, sign up to one of Dr Sarah's luxury retreats, and continue your path to success.

www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

Sign up to the exclusive retreat: www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/retreat


Contact: [email protected]

LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) Davies

Instagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy

Find resources on: https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com/relationship-quiz

Subscribe to Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab on Spotify or Apple Podcasts