Earn Your Happy

This past weekend I was invited to write and share a new spoken word poem at my soul sister, Danette May’s event. To say I was terrified is putting it mildly, but I did it! And while I’m still processing my the journey and the emotions around it, one thing I know for certain is that my fear is always the X that marks the spot when it comes to what fulfills me and makes me feel like I’m living in my highest potential.

I shared a couple clips of the poem on social media, but have gotten several requests to hear the poem in its entirety. Always one to feel the fear again (why?!), I’ve recorded it on this episode and have provided the words below. If my words pull at your soul and you know someone else who would benefit, please share. Thanks so much for all of your support!

Here we go…

I got up today only to find that I’m still not yet where I want to be

A little less “I woke up like this” 

A little more - “existential crisis” – feeling stuck in my reality.

When I think about who I am now, compared to who I think I’m supposed to be 

I wake up every morning, AND INSTEAD of doing things that set me free

I put on a straight-jacket and wear someone else’s identity. 

Not even accepting myself on my own ID 

Height one inch taller

Weight 10 pounds smaller

Anyone else fear a lie detector test at the DMV – or is it just me?

Just the thought of trying to change my life makes me feel defeated 

Like I got the short end of the stick

Or like this bitch over here got all the talent 

And I got cheated.

When I close my eyes, I can see my life’s vision

But when I open them, I can’t see past my email, my thighs, my to-do list and dirty kitchen

I mean what’s it gonna take to reach my dream, be seen, and get attention?

Instead of growing my mind

I put all my energy towards beauty, titles and Instagram mentions.

When will I be enough?

Thanks to Fairytales and Ariel, I’ve spent my whole life chasing people and stuff

“Look at this stuff isn’t it neat? Wouldn’t you think my collection’s complete?”

Still waiting for my Prince Charming, castle and Fairy Godmother

Jerry Maguire said, “You complete me” 

So feeling enough must ONLY come from a love.r

So many mixed messages, it’s no wonder we’re confused

The world tries keeping us busy stressing over low carbs, waist trainers and red-bottom shoes

They sidetrack us from our purpose with diets and promises of youth

But it’s a choice to decide to be committed to finding and living your truth.

The other day I was walking past a man in conversation with his mate

He said, and I quote, “You deserve the life you tolerate”

I just about choked

Cause at that point in my day I was feeling upset

Sorry for myself because there are unlived dreams I haven’t met yet

If what I tolerate is the life that I’m living 

then you’re telling me it’s been my choice to not use these gifts I’ve been given?

They say through ownership I can get my power back

I gotta be honest – easier said than done

I was really hoping this whole personal development thing would be a little more fun…

True story – I was recently at an event like this

Sitting in the audience

And from the stage I felt the speakers words hit me in the soul much like a deliverance:

I am not what you think I am; I am not what I think I am; I am what I think you think I am.”

Let me repeat that….

I am not what you think I am; I am not what I think I am; I am what I think you think I am”

Moral of the story is the only thing that’s stopping us, is what other people think  Get your mind off other people’s shit  And put your soul back in the driver’s seat! 

The only thing wrong with you is that you think something is wrong with you.

Everything is right with you 

In spite of you

Ignoring the higher you

The answers are all inside of you

So why are you

Gripping onto others view

When what they think of you is… 

NOTHING. Because they’re only thinkin’ about themselves.

The truth will set you free,

But first it will piss you off

And the truth is:

If you keep fighting for your limitations, you get to keep them

It’s time to stop choosing suffering 

and choose to fight for your queendom. 

I know the life I’m born for and the woman I’m supposed to be

I’m embarrassed to tell you my soul is an undercover celebrity

So where do I go if I believe the life I have now must be disputed 

It’s like I can see I’m on screen

But my voice has been muted

It’s been so long since I’ve used it, or maybe I never learned how

But lately something’s stirring, rising up telling me my time is now.

What stops us are the lies we choose to believe

It’s an imagined future of pain that we think we perceive 

It’s when I’m alone that my fears go viral

Next is panic, then my anxiety starts to spiral. 

I’m picturing judgment, comparison, an imagined future that’s not even real 

It’s our past informing our future telling us how to feel!

I believe the reason we feel pain is because we need to bridge the gap,

Between our fear and our faith in our source and its unlimited tap.

In order to become the woman I’m chasing

I have to let go of the woman I’m facing

The mirror is the place where you have to fall in love

With all the scars from our past 

Reconfigure them from curses, into gifts from above

Trusting that what you have now is what you need to begin

And who’ll you’ll become will transform as you start to step in.

If I don’t start to take action now, it will be consequential 

Because my biggest fear is dying, without reaching my highest potential

‘Cuz it just takes one to change your family tree

and your bravery and courage is bringing your ancestors to their knees

They may not have been able to use their voice or have what you do

That’s why you must take action,

They have blazed this trail for you.

But we have to wake up from the lie, and emerge from our comas

To stop sleepwalking through life requires more than a kiss from a prince or diploma.

See, the magic of life is that it gives you clues

And if you’re open and seeking you get glimpses of truth

And in case it’s still in question, YES you’ve been chosen, you’re forgiven it’s written

But you gotta SHOW UP - STAND UP - RISE UP - stop sittin’.

The map to your bliss is to follow it, and keep showing up

It’s going to be messy, your hands will shake, you’ll get criticized and you’ll want to throw up

Becoming the biggest version of you is the scariest thing you’ll do 

You’ll have darkness and pain and some friends will leave you.

But I’m going to let you in on life’s ultimate hack

It’s that you get to choose gratitude even when it feels like the universe doesn’t have your back.

God wants to use you

He guides those who are willing

And it’s not up to you to decide if your dream is worth killing

You’ve got a soul contract to live into your life’s call 

Don’t worry about failing, you will, it’s a part of it    

But you’ve got sisters here to catch you when you fall

Choose love

Choose forgiveness 

Choose courage

Choose your truth.

Every single time you show up 

It gives more hope for our youth

Stay close to what makes you feel ALIVE

Don’t just survive 

That’s not why you’re here

But you gotta continue to do the things that help you get clear.

PAY ATTENTION to soul hits, nudges and winks

AND whenever you get them, take action and don’t think

Sometimes when I’m quiet, when I’m running, or if Eminem’s rapping

I’ll lose myself in the music and feel God start the tapping

On three, everybody get up, we’re gonna start clapping

3, 2, 1…

Sister you're a star – you’re a strong girl

Playin’ in your gifts - gonna start to change the world today

You got glitter on yo' face

Your hair’s in place

Spreading your magic all over the place

Singin’

We will, we will rise up

We will, we will rise up

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In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• The power of cleaning up your thoughts
• What it means to be in your “light body”
• How different fears hold us back
• Creating your own dream landscapes
• Using dreams to connect
• The importance of a morning ritual
• The Choice Point
• How to pull yourself out of a “neutral” state
• How being more you unlocks new levels
• Why we’re all one
• Drew’s new book, “You Be You” and the book-writing journey
• Why we need to invest in ourselves

Resources:

• Instagram: @drewcanole

Show Notes

My friend, founder of Organifi and now author, Drew Canole is back on the show and I couldn’t be more happy as I feel a bit like I need to redeem myself after my last interview with him – I can’t believe how nervous I was last time! Since that time, not only have we hung out multiple times, but we’ve participated in a week-long retreat in Costa Rica together as well. I never knew it was possible to laugh so much! Drew has definitely helped me see that fun is a requirement of up-leveling our lives!

Drew has a unique ability to help others tap into different parts of their lives and uncover who they truly are. And one of the primary ways Drew is doing that today is through his new book, You Be You, where he guides readers to “detox their lives, crush their limitations and own their awesome.” Why achieve your goals or present the world with a counterfeit version of yourself when it will never feel completely true to who you are?

Be prepared to have a lot of laughs and hear a lot of wisdom in our candid conversation. And if you’re looking for a way to unlock that next level of being YOU, definitely pick up his book!

Question Highlights:

• Why did you pick the title of your book?
• When you’re in your “light body,” what does that feel like?
• In the past, who did you think you needed to be in order to navigate through life in a successful way?
• Do you ever go through “seasons” – a winter or a dry spell?
• Once you achieve a goal, what do you do next? How do you unlock the next level?
• In your life right now, is there any area where you’re not fully showing up as yourself?
• What are the conversations coming out of your Organifi book club?
• Why is this book making such huge shifts?
• Why should people grab your book?

Quotes

"When you choose to do something in the moment, you have to be present.”

“When you’re present is the only time you can manifest or materialize your goals, desires and dreams.”

“The world doesn’t need a counterfeit you. The planet needs a re-remembering of who you truly are.”

“When you start to give more love to yourself, you open up a world of possibilities.”

Drew Canole is an author, transformation coach, and founder of Organifi. Drew has helped thousands of women and men revitalize their health, ignite their vision, and shift the course of their life forever. After reaching a dead end in his own health, Drew discovered the chasm of difference between going through the motions and living with radical intention. He now helps people tap into the "Big You" to create the change they never thought possible.

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Fair warning to you before you start listening to today’s episode – I am en fuego! Having just attended Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness and being surrounded by 1,500+ big thinkers, there’s no way I couldn’t be. It’s events like these that force me to take chances and go for the things that scare the living crap out of me!

“Fear is your invite for growth.”

The purpose of life is growth and progress. We are all meant to find what makes us fulfilled and happy, but sometimes that’s the thing we fear the most.

As an exercise, I want you to write down the 10 things you’re most afraid of – they can be big or small. These are your next steps. From here, circle the least scary step – or perhaps the scariest step. Whichever you choose, act on it, no matter how uncomfortable or scared you are. Rejection or failure is inevitable, but the biggest gifts are on the other side.

No, I’m not super human, but I will say after receiving 21 rejections on my books, I am grateful for them because they helped me land the publishing company that liked it! Plus, consistently doing the things that I have fear around helps me grow and throughout that process I’m also showing thousands of others that they too can do it.

Most recently one of my fears is about sharing a spoken word poem I wrote for my friend, Danette May’s event this weekend. I love doing this, but I’m terrified of what others think! (Be sure to tune in because I’m sharing a small portion of it with you.) But here’s the thing, I want to grow and I don’t want to leave this world living up to anything less than my highest potential. I do mess up while reading it, but I’ve left it in because I want you to see that sometimes we have to mess up and let others see it in order to free them as well. I hope it gives you some of that freedom, too.

So today, stop playing small. Do something messy, unplanned or share something that doesn’t feel good. And be sure to share it with me over on IG…I love hearing from you!

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Why the purpose of life is growth and progress
• Why the biggest gifts are on the other side of fear
• Her upcoming spoken word performance

Resources:

Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!

Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html

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I am so thrilled today to have Tom Bilyeu on the show! I recently had the amazing opportunity and experience of being interviewed on his podcast, Impact Theory and I couldn’t wait to continue the conversation and learn even more about the similarities in our lives and business – and this time, pick his brain.

Similar to my journey, Tom grew up in a family who struggled with their weight, and broke the pattern by choosing to pave a healthier way for himself and as result change the trajectory of his life at the same time. That’s why today he’s so passionate about helping others who struggle with their weight. However, Tom is the first to acknowledge that it’s not always an easy path. In fact, when it comes to success in weight loss or a business or career, nothing is guaranteed – except the pain or struggle. And to get through any of that, you must take action and also accept that you may not be right about x-y-z right now. We have to be willing to make changes if we want to see change.

Tune in to learn just what Tom does that helps him do just that. He shares so many tangible takeaways for all of us to start looking at what we’re doing right now and more into our next level of life. Please let me know what thoughts or actions you put into place because of them!

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Question Highlights:

• Can you tell us a little about your background and what got you started in studying film?
• What’s the difference between finding knowledge and finding what motivates you?
• What is it in your mind that makes you contemplate what is good and change your path?
• What do you do and what do you look for in order to make sure you’re putting yourself in those spaces?
• What does creativity mean to you and what would your life look like without it?
• Where does the creation of a comic book fit into things right now?
• What’s your grand vision for what you’re doing right now?
• Do you know what that one story is?
• How are you seeking out the people needed for your next level?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Tom’s family history of obesity
• Why Tom’s deeply passionate about helping people who struggle with weight
• Why the brain is malleable until we die
• Embracing inadequacies
• 80/20 motivation principle
• The difference between drive and ambition
• How Quest Nutrition was founded on passion
• Why Tom wasn’t a born entrepreneur
• The concept of renewal in nature and in life
• Cultivating a frame of reference
• Tom’s eagerness to reinvent himself
• Finding fulfillment
• Accepting that you’re wrong about things now
• Why being the smartest person in the room is a trap
• Being “anti-fragile”
• Harnessing adaptability
• Building relationships and making authentic connections
• And so much more…

Quotes

“I’m going to believe the things that empower me.”

“The gap between where you are and what you want to accomplish is a gap of skillset. It is you not being good enough.”

“If you want to get to extraordinary, you’re going to have to realize that we’re rewarded and punished.”

“Drive is the willingness to act on a day-to-day basis in a way that moves you toward your goals. Ambition is having the goals.”

“To develop my drive, I had to suffer.”

“Things that are hard are gonna be the things that develop who you are.”

“What would we do and love every day even if we were failing?”

“The struggle is guaranteed – the success is not.”

“The skillset you already have has already taken you as far as its going to unless you do something that introduces you to a new idea that you turn into a usable skill.”  

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Tom Bilyeu is the co-founder of 2014 Inc. 500 company Quest Nutrition — a unicorn startup valued at over $1 billion — and the co-founder and host of Impact Theory. Tom’s mission is to break people out of the Matrix by sharing transformative content and fostering one-to-one communication within the Impact Theory community. Tom believes that human potential is nearly limitless, but the dual pandemics of mental and physical malnutrition are hindering a realization of this potential. Through in-depth interviews with the world’s top achievers, including Gary Vaynerchuk, Maria Sharapova, and Mel Robbins, Tom explores mindset-shifting tactics, questions accepted belief systems, and uncovers distinctive strategies for success.

Tom regularly inspires audiences of entrepreneurs, change makers, and thought leaders at prestigious conferences and seminars around the world, including Success Live, Hustle Con, Thrive, Abundance 360, Mindvalley’s A-fest, and Freedom Fast Lane. Tom has been featured on numerous top-rated podcasts such the Tony Robbins Podcast, The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes, Bulletproof Radio with Dave Asprey, and the Dr. Drew Podcast, and has been featured in Forbes, Inc., Success, and The Huffington Post. He is currently on the Innovation Board of the XPRIZE Foundation.

Resources:

Instagram: @tombilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu

YouTube.com/tombilyeu

Impact Theory Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/impact-theory-with-tom-bilyeu/id1191775648?mt=2 

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Today I’m talking about the vital topic of taking action and curing those moments where you’re just sitting in pain thinking. The last week (typically in the mornings is when I struggle the most), I’ve been overthinking – everything. Have you ever caught yourself in a downward spiral like this? And it’s during moments like these that I’m really trying to work on shortening the amount of time they last.

“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.”

Here’s my hack – even though I drag my feet sometimes. TAKE ACTION!

“Action cures anxiety.”

Here’s the thing, even something infinitesimally small and new leads to new results. Plus, when your mood is more neutral, and less in a place of suffering, you’re in a better place to welcome new ideas and opportunities. I’m not saying you need to take action all the time…far from it. After all, we need time to relax and connect with other people, but please do not choose suffering! Take the action that will make you feel better. (Trust me, I wouldn’t tell you anything that I wouldn’t tell myself!)

I want you to know that I see you taking uncertain actions despite those doubts in your head, and I’m cheering you on. Thank goodness for tribe because even though I’m scared too, I know I have a group of people that have my back regardless of what’s going on. And I’m here to tell you that no matter what you’re going through right now, I just want you to know that I think you’re magic. We are all magic and we’re not meant to suffer and play small! You need to keep pushing forward and sharing your uniqueness with the world!

Thank you so much for listening and supporting my podcast. If this message resonated with you, please share with a friend and be sure to shoot me a note on IG – I would love to hear how it resonated with you! 

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Taking new action for new results
• Limiting the time between taking action and suffering, and designating a time to rest
• Why suffering is a choice

Resources:

Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!

Join me on the OPRAH Cruise!! Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com 

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You know how every now and then you get lucky and have a conversation with someone who just “gets” you, your journey and how your brain works? Well, today’s guest, Robyn Youkilis checked that box. Growing up in a family that used food as a source of love, comfort and connection, I could completely relate. Don’t get me wrong this is a great thing, however the breaking point for Robyn (and myself) is when we started gaining weight and that warm, fuzzy connection went away and instead turned into a difficult connection.

Once she made this realization, Robyn set out to create a new conversation around food and weight. She didn’t want to view things as “good” or “bad,” rather she wanted to slow things down and figure out what foods would best support her body.

After much trial and error (that still happens on a daily basis), she now teaches others that it’s OK if you don’t have it all figured out – it may even take decades. It’s all about finding a formula that works for your body and adheres to what your intuition is telling you and keeps you in alignment. She also touches on how motherhood impacted her relationship with food and how it led to an impactful shift in her life then and now.

I had such a great time connecting with Robyn during this conversation. If you’re someone who struggles with your relationship with food, this episode is a must listen (and her book, Thin from Within, a must read).

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Question Highlights:

• What is your life philosophy and how did you get to this place?
• What did the process of slowing down look for you?
• How has food become a foundation for everything you’re doing?
• What’s something in your life right now that you’re so excited about that you weren’t able to do before because food/body was taking up so much space in your brain?
• What is lighting you up the most right now?
• What is a question you wish more people would ask you?
• Do you have a secret dream that you envision for your future?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Robyn’s relationship with food and how it changed at age 13
• The emotional and physical weight of not living in alignment
• Food as an experience
• Robyn’s initial resistance with motherhood and how it was a major foundational shift for her
• How Robyn has learned to slow down, connect with her body and intuition and gut, teach from that place and “calm the eff down”
• How to connect with your body
• Setting intention behind activities to achieve alignment
• Finding your intuitive food voice
• Robyn’s power yogurt parfait and Rule of Five Plate
• The connection between your food/body and success in other areas of your life
• Rockstar Coaching Program
• Robyn’s new book, “Thin from Within”
• Why Robyn wants people to how she “does it all”
• And so much more…

Quotes

“You feel good when you're connected to other people.”

“My body is my home.”

“Let your own story and journey be what you want it to be and know that it’s OK.”

“Go with your gut.”

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Robyn Youkilis is an AADP Certified Health Coach, author, speaker, and leading expert in holistic digestive health. For nearly a decade, Robyn has helped clients shed both physical and emotional weight with her straightforward yet supportive coaching style, Your Healthiest You. She is the author of the best-selling books, Go with Your Gut and Thin From Within - The Go with Your Gut Way to Lose Weight, and has been featured by The Cooking Channel, The View, The Today Show, The Wall Street Journal, Health, Mind Body Green, Well Good, The Chalkboard Mag and more.

Robyn currently lives in New York City and Los Angeles with her husband and their daughter. She has been a member of the American Association of Drugless Practitioners (AADP) for nearly a decade and enjoys traveling, music festivals and eating dessert at fancy restaurants (one bite at a time, that is!).

Resources:

RobynYoukilis.com

Instagram: @robynyoukilis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robyn.youkilis

Book: Thin from Within

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I’m fresh off a mastermind call with my closest sister friends and I’ve come to the realization that it’s OK to be a walking, breathing contradiction. Typically, when it comes to being in alignment, we’ve always talked about lining it up with our true purpose or highest potential. While I still believe this is a part of it, I also think a bigger part of it is being aligned with your truth in the present moment.

In order to feel this “truth” though you have to sometimes be out of alignment and feel those feelings, too. Sometimes this means feelings of darkness and ugliness or worry and insecurity. It’s super important though that we not stay in these feelings too long. Acknowledge them and that you feel out of alignment, and make the conscious choice to leave that dark place (or whatever emotion you’re feeling) when the time is right. Remember that this is all a part of the human experience and determine if there is something you could do to make yourself feel better.

Admittedly, I’m in a bit of a dark season right now. I have a ton of amazing things happening in my life now, but there’s this nagging voice in the back of my head that tells me I need to set some more goals and accomplish more. I’m in a season where I need to find self-worthiness without having a ton of goals to prove that I am. Can anyone relate?

Have I navigated my way through this particular season yet? No – I’m still working through it. So, right now I’m giving myself grace and allowing myself to feel all the feels. I’m choosing healthy outlets such as walks, nourishing foods and yes, sometimes crying it out, because choosing a downward spiral isn’t going to serve me in the long run. I’m committing to move forward…period.

I hope this helps you if you’re also going through a similar season. Continue to nurture yourself and one day, when things clear, you’ll realize that it was all meant to help you keep in alignment with your true purpose.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Redefining what alignment means
• Why your value shouldn’t be tied to your accomplishments
• The seasons of life

Resources:

Enrollment for Chris and I’s life eCourse Aligned closes today (Sept. 27, 2018)! Join us today at BecomeAligned.com

Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!

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I love a good story and today’s guest, author Alex Banayan has a great one – so much so that parts of it have become part of my husband Chris and I’s daily walks. Thank goodness I met him in person when Chris interviewed him so I knew whose stories he was actually talking about. ;) Another fun coincidence, we’ve both been on the Price Is Right, but Alex actually WON and used those winnings to fund his new book, The Third Door.

Alex shares with us his seven-year book journey that lead him to interview some of the world’s most successful people to show how they broke through and launched their careers. But let’s not downplay the fears and obstacles that Alex had to navigate through as well. From disappointing his family and losing his father to insecurity and being turned down by potential interviewees, Alex was persistent and now helps others conquer obstacles of all kinds – internal and external.

Alex truly is a gifted storyteller and I know you’ll be able to relate to some many facets of his journey. You don’t want to miss it!

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Question Highlights:

• Now that your book is out in the world, what has been a response that you weren’t expecting?
• What was the whole point of writing your book?
• What does pain with awareness look like for you right now?
• Do you think there’s always a way for anything you choose or just for the moments when your gut pulls you that way?
• Have you ever had to let go of helping someone in your life because they’re not ready to help themselves?
• What was a story that freed you up the most?
• What is something that shook you before your book came out?
• What are you most excited about right now?
• Who is the ultimate person you want to read your book?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Alex’s seven-year book journey
• Using pain as a motivator
• Evolving motivation
• Alex’s insecurity while writing The Third Door

Quotes

“Pain with awareness is our teacher.”

“You can give someone all the best tools and knowledge in the world and their life can still be stuck, but if you change what someone believes is possible, they’ll never be the same.”

“Courage is acknowledging fears, analyzing the consequences and then deciding you care so much about it you’re going to take one thoughtful step forward anyway.”

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ALEX BANAYAN is the author of the national bestseller The Third Door, which chronicles his five-year quest to track down Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Warren Buffett, Maya Angelou, Steven

Spielberg, and dozens more of the world’s most successful people to uncover how they broke through and launched their careers.

Banayan has been named to Forbes’ 30 Under 30 list, Business Insider’s Most Powerful People Under 30, and been featured in major media including Fortune, Forbes, Businessweek, Billboard,

Bloomberg TV, CNBC, Fox News, MSNBC, and CBS News. An acclaimed keynote speaker, Banayan has presented the Third Door framework to business conferences and corporate leadership teams around the world, including Apple, Google, Nike, IBM, Snapchat, Salesforce, Disney, Harvard, and countless others.

Resources:

Instagram: @alexbanayan 

Book: The Third Door

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This past weekend I spoke at the Thrive event in Las Vegas (which was amazing), and I also came to the realization that my life is one big classroom. You see, I got sick the morning of the day I was supposed to speak. I’m not sure if it was food poisoning or the flu, but needless to say I wasn’t going anywhere for a while. It was like life was flashing a big neon sign with a message that was impossible for me to ignore. In fact, there were multiple nudges, messages and signs that day, but I’ll leave those for another episode as I’m still marinating in a few of them. One thing I’ve come to realize though is that:

“Every single thing that happens can be a breakthrough lesson and everyone can be a teacher.”

Now this doesn’t mean that nothing bothers us, but it does mean that we get to choose how we view a particular situation and move through it. Yes, you may struggle and it may be annoying or painful, but the sooner we can accept it, the more quickly we’re able to advance to the next level.

“The sooner we accept the obstacle as a lesson or the person as a teacher, we get to move through it faster.”

As Tom Bilyeu shared with me just the other day, “Struggle is guaranteed, success is not.” In order to get to the next level, we have to experience it all. And if we’re going to struggle, we may as well get something useful out of it, yes?

Compare it to a rookie’s journey to becoming a pro. There’s always that point where the rookie is thrown in the game and the team may win or they might lose. The rookie will learn the do’s and don’ts – most likely the hard way. Whatever they experience though, it’s necessary because the coaches make the decision to move up that particular player if they don’t see them in action.

Once you realize that obstacles and people (yes, even those rude people in traffic) are here to teach us, you will experience a whole new level of freedom. It will be uncomfortable and you might shout expletives now and again, but practice and sharpening the skills of love, compassion, boundaries and saying no will help you step into that next level of your life.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Why life is our classroom
• Why struggle is inevitable
• Viewing obstacles as lessons and people as teachers

Resources:

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I’m so excited, as always, to have my husband, Chris Harder, back on the show and today we’re sharing some of our most impactful stories that have helped lead us to the full-circle rich lives we’re leading now. We’re far from perfect and that’s exactly why we love sharing our ups and downs with as many people possible – even if they’re super embarrassing.

Tune in to hear four+ stories and lessons we’ve learned along the way and let us know if you can relate. Wanna hear more? Be sure to check out our Free Video Training at BecomeAligned.com.

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In This Episode We Talk about:

• “The Great Chicken Nugget Battle of 2006”
• Taking ownership of your life, stories, happiness and dreams
• The gap between good and great
• Why Chris decided to read 30 books in 30 days
• Why giving is the secret to getting everything you want
• Having an attitude of abundance
• Giving with no contingencies or expectations
• Building intentional tribes
• Waffles’ dog training and how it applies to your habits and beliefs
• Why anxiety is a result of no boundaries
• Reinforcing habits and beliefs you want to keep in your life
• Moving away from relationships that are holding you back
• Why ego is your greatest overhead
• Acknowledging and working around your ego
• And so much more…

Quotes

“I believe we were put here to live a really full-circle, rich life.” – Chris Harder

“Action creates clarity.” – Lori Harder

“You are 100% responsible for the outcome of every moment in your life.” – Chris Harder

“Giving is the secret to getting everything you want.” – Chris Harder

“Build tribes for where you are going and not for where you’re at.” – Lori Harder

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Resources:

Aligned Registration Opens soon. Sign up to be the first to know when and to receive a free training at BecomeAligned.com

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.