Earn Your Happy

In this episode we talk about:

• Evans and I reminisce about our Oprah Cruise last week and talk about some of the things we learned while traveling.
• Answers to a bunch of questions from YOU.
• Back-up plans for your life
• How to change the story you feel about how OTHERS view you.
• How to deal with setbacks

Questions Answered in This Episode:

• “Please talk about back-up plans. I feel like having one is telling the universe that it’s ok for me to NOT live out my passion.  I am super conflicted with this and would love to hear your thoughts!” - Holly Dorfman
• “I’ve been gossiped about, not cheered on, etc by other women so I have a bad story about women in my life. How did you change the story about how women see you?” -Amy Burnes
• “How can you sustain self-motivation when you constantly suffer from a lot of setbacks?”  -@NRQuotes94

Favorite Quotes:

• “If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.”
• “Forget your troubles and dance.” -Bob Marley
• “Stay focused on whatever you want to do and don’t doubt yourself.”
• “Focus is more important than intelligence.”

Review of the week:

By “Hauber18” - “Finding yourself if hard. Earn Your Happy podcast is a reminder that you can do it! Lori’s inspiring and so enjoyable to listen to. Want to be the best version of yourself, it starts here!”

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• How Dr. Joe reprogrammed his brain in order to heal his body after a traumatic accident
• Being present with greater intelligence
• Future present reality vs. past present reality
• The creative process
• Going from victim to creator
• Teaching your body emotionally what the future will feel like before it happens
• Causing an effect vs. cause and effect
• Conditioning your body and brain into the future
• The importance of creating on a daily basis
• Losing free will to a “program”
• Getting beyond your environment
• Creating energy to heal
• The natural state of being
• Addiction to emotions
• Blind spots of awareness
• Getting conscious of unconscious thoughts
• Walking meditation
• The delicate balance between intention and surrender
• Loving intelligence
• Neurochemically conditioning your body to work as one
• Dr. Joe’s workshops and retreats

Resources:

• DrJoeDispenza.com
• IG: @officialdrjoedispenza

Show Notes

I am so beyond grateful for today’s guest, Dr. Joe Dispenza. His books and teachings were at the very beginning of my journey and completely shifted everything for me. I believe there are moments in life that impact you so deeply and you’re never the same. In this episode, I talk about that moment and how everything I looked at changed forever. 

As an international lecturer, researcher, author and educator, Dr. Joe believes that each of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities. This is why his passion has led him to educate thousands of people on how they can rewire their brains and recondition their bodies to make lasting changes. I can tell you firsthand that this is what he did for me. I truly believe his teachings were the beginning of rewiring the way I think. With a passion for neuroscience, epigenetics and quantum physics to explore the science behind spontaneous remissions and evolved consciousness. You will be blown away by Dr. Joe’s miraculous stories! 

So please, get comfortable and listen to every single word of our incredible conversation and if this hooks you, I encourage you to go grab one of his books and read it!

Question Highlights:

• Did you always have this mind-body connection or do you feeling like it got awakened after your accident?
• What advice do you give people who are in an environment that isn’t helpful for where they want to go?
• How do you not take things personally or navigate that world of reflection?
• Can you paint a picture of what it looks like when a person knows what to do but can’t quite visualize it?
• What’s the connection between moving your body and getting into a new environment and accelerating that change?
• Can you tell me about your events?

Quotes

"It’s so much easier to forget our vision than it is to remember it.”

“We’re innately wired to be creators.”

“The power that made the body heals the body.”

“Your personality creates your personal reality.” 

“If you’re not being defined by a vision of the future, then all you’re left with are memories of the past.” 

“Wisdom is the memory without the emotional charge.”

“The unknown has never let me down.” 

“My definition of the creative moment is when I forget myself.”

Joe Dispenza, D.C. is an international lecturer, researcher, corporate consultant, author, and educator who has been invited to speak in more than 32 countries on five continents. As a lecturer and educator, he is driven by the conviction that each of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities. In his easy-to-understand, encouraging, and compassionate style, he has educated thousands of people, detailing how they can rewire their brains and recondition their bodies to make lasting changes.

In addition to offering a variety of online courses and teleclasses, he has personally taught three-day progressive workshops and five-day advanced workshops in the U.S. and abroad. Starting in 2018, his workshops will become week-long offerings, and the content of the progressive and advanced workshops will be available online. (To learn more, please visit the events section at: www.drjoedispenza.com.) Dr. Joe is also a faculty member at Quantum University in Honolulu, Hawaii; the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies in Rhinebeck, New York; and Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. He’s also an invited chair of the research committee at Life University in Atlanta, Georgia.

As a researcher, Dr. Joe’s passion can be found at the intersection of the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics to explore the science behind spontaneous remissions. He uses that knowledge to help people heal themselves of illnesses, chronic conditions, and even terminal diseases so they can enjoy a more fulfilled and happy life, as well as evolve their consciousness.

As a NY Times best-selling author, Dr. Joe has written You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter (Hay House, 2014), which explores our ability to heal without drugs or surgery, but rather by thought alone. He has also written Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One (Hay House, 2012) and Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind (2007), both of which detail the neuroscience of change and epigenetics. Becoming Supernatural is Dr. Joe’s fourth book. His film appearances include HEAL (2017); E-Motion (2014); Sacred Journey of the Heart (2012); People v. the State of Illusion (2011); What IF – The Movie (2010); Unleashing Creativity (2009); and What the #$*! Do We Know? & Down the Rabbit Hole, extended DVD version (2005).

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In This Episode We Talk about:

• The need for tests in order to realize our dreams
• Fear of tests
• Supporting yourself

Resources:

• FINAL CALL! Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!

Show Notes

I just returned from being on an Oprah Magazine Cruise with Holland America and am still sitting in the experience. I met so many amazing people and got to speak to and coach a different demographic than I’m used to. And while having lunch and random conversations with so many of these people throughout the week, I realized that we’re all the same, and we’re all tested at one time or another. 

Never be ashamed of your dreams or the thing you want to do the most. There will always be tests along the way that test your faith. And while they’re often super uncomfortable, they are 100% necessary to help you realize your dreams. Instead of giving up, say “bring it!” This is your faith practice. It’s digging in your heels, being scared, and not feeling good – and moving forward anyway. After all how can you be tested if you’re not experiencing it?

“It’s OK to be afraid, but it’s not OK to give up." 

So lean in. Experience it. Let time help you work through it. Your faith is tested by often extreme measures. Learn how to support yourself through it. Who can you call? Can you pray, meditate or read a book? What keeps that faith alive? Just as you would study or prepare for a test, you must prepare (not avoid) the tests that come up around your dream.

“Don’t resist the test, prepare for it – it’s how you pass.”

These tests will strengthen you and help refine what you’re meant to do. Stop avoiding them.

“You don’t get better or get the reward unless you keep showing up – no matter the result.”

So keep showing up. Let go where you can and know that you’re not alone. Something beautiful is just around the corner. Are you ready for it?

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Review of the week:

"Earn your Happy is one of my FAVORITE podcasts! Lori truly speaks from her heart and experience and wants everyone she reaches to ‘earn their happy’! From amazing speakers to a quick 5-minute quote, this podcasts fuels my creativity and grit to do more work with my life! THANK YOU Lori for all this amazing content! If you have not listened, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?!

Questions:

Ally M.

"My question for you is, have you ever faced problems with jealousy, and if you have, do you have any tips on how to overcome those feelings?"

Genevieve L.

"I am a UK-based listener and have been really inspired to become part of a business that has a positive impact on the world like yours and a lot of the guests on the podcast. Do you know of any UK-based entrepreneurs or businesses for people like me to check out?"

Amy W. @amywilford15

"It was so awesome to finally meet you randomly in the courtyard at The Summit of Greatness through our mutual friend Linda! I <3 you, your content, and your authenticity, BUT if you could claim anyone else’s content as your own, whose would it be and why?"

Alex A. @atracktive

"What are some things I can do to put my negative self-talk (aka my inner sh*t talker) on mute?"

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In This Episode We Talk about:

• Amy’s 3 stages/phases of business
• Confidence-boosting in phase 1
• Why you should avoid comparison and protect your space
• The importance of producing content on a consistent basis
• The ideal customer avatar
• Amy’s insecurity at first in the online world
• The two types of people you need in your life
• Keeping things simple and finishing everything you start
• Finding your “sweet spot” in phase 2
• Amy’s early mindset struggles and mind-blocks
• When to push past your pricing comfort zone
• Why you should focus on the opportunities and possibilities when promoting a new product/program – not the features
• Asking for help in phase 3 and building a team
• How Amy is getting uncomfortable to do bigger and better things (membership program)
• Getting support at a high level, and picking and choosing what you need
• Tips for a millionaire launch
• Why Amy loves webinars and how she uses them

Resources:

• Podcast: Online Marketing Made Easy - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/online-marketing-made-easy-with-amy-porterfield/id594703545?mt=2

Show Notes

I’ve been following today’s guest, online marketing expert, Amy Porterfield, for so long and we have so many mutual friends that I feel like we’ve known each other for years…but we’ve never even talked before this interview. I’m not sure how it’s possible, but we definitely made up for lost time with our interview.

If you’ve never heard of Amy and you work with online marketing in some way, shape or form, or you’re just plain curious what it’s all about, you’re not going to want to miss our conversation. We discuss Amy’s three stages of business and all the feelings and tools that go along with each of them. I can’t tell you how much of what she shared helped me and my team as we were right in the middle of one of our own launches.

This episode was filled with valuable tips, tools and advice for all levels, and I can’t wait to hear if any of her tips help move you to the next level, too! If you know of someone who could benefit from this episode, please share!  

Question Highlights:

• Who are we talking to when we say “new” to the online world?
• What are some of the first steps that someone would take to move through the emotions of overwhelm?
• What do you think is important in the early stages? What will help break you through to phase 2?
• What was your phase one like?
• What woman were you at phase 2?
• What advice do you give around plateaus?
• In phase 2, what were your biggest blocks?
• What things came up in phase 2 that you thought were going to take you down?
• What do you experience at the start of phase 3?
• What are the plateaus of phase 3?
• What are some of the biggest tools of phase 3?

Quotes

"You need to surround yourself with people who are doing amazing things and show you what’s possible.”

“Every decision you make is not set in stone – you can pivot and reinvent yourself and do new things.” 

“Stop playing small in the places where there’s opportunity to play big.” 

“If you become the person who finishes what they start, you’re going to be in a prime spot to start scaling.”

“Look for experts who are laser-focused where you want to go.”

Amy is an online marketing expert and educator and the host of the top-ranked podcast, Online Marketing Made Easy. Amy has worked with mega brands like Harley-Davidson Motorcycles and Peak Performance Coach, Tony Robbins, where she oversaw the content development team and collaborated on groundbreaking online marketing campaigns. Through her bestselling marketing courses, thriving social media community and popular podcast, Amy inspires a grounded, tangible and self-affirming sense of “Wow! I really can do this” for over 250,000 online entrepreneurs. She proves that by moving away from “step-by-step” and into “action-by-action”, even the newest online entrepreneurs can bypass overwhelm and self-doubt, and instead generate exciting momentum as they move closer to building a life and business they love.

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Questions answered in this episode:

@stellalunaevents "What was the biggest challenge you had to face to live out your true purpose?"

@Mistyyynnhaar "How do you confidently juggle work and personal life?"

@julie_ann_davey "What's the most pivotal decision you've made in your life that changed everything?"

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In this episode we talk about:

• Navigating the success of Rachel’s book, Girl, Wash Your Face

Resources:

• Instagram: @msrachelhollis

@theholliscompany

• Book: Girl, Wash Your Face | Get it on Amazon!

Show Notes

Oh my goodness, I am geeking-out excited to share my conversation with today’s guest, Rachel Hollis. Author, CCO of The Hollis Company, motivational speaker, podcast host and let’s not forget, a mother of FOUR, she is so incredibly amazing and authentic to her core. And if you don’t already know and love her, you will after our conversation.

After watching Rachel speak at events and reading her most recent book, Girl, Wash Your Face, I knew this interview was going to be off the charts. She is just so authentically real and I love that she remains the same no matter where she shows up. Rachel just wants to give and has share her servant heart with as many people as possible.

We talk all about what’s going on for her in terms of her book’s unexpected success and also the occasional feelings of overwhelm creep in and how it relates to every woman out there and the stories and lies that we tell ourselves day in and day out. But let me assure you, no matter what lie you’re telling yourself, Rachel shares the tools that can help us all rethink and change them. 

I cannot wait for you to join us in our conversation because yes, this one will really make you feel like you’re sitting in a room with both us. Enjoy!

Question Highlights:

• If what is happening right now happened even three years ago, would you have been ready for it?
• What’s the voice in your head saying when you don’t want to confront something?
• What were some of the stories you told yourself growing up?

Quotes

"The only way to get past suffering is to confront it.”

“In order to teach people, you have to interact with people.”

“I would rather try to live life as myself than live a life to please someone else and drown myself in anxiety.”

“Live life for yourself. Don’t let other peoples’ opinions dictate who you’ll become.”

“The closer you get to who you are in your heart is the closer you get to happiness.”

-- 

Rachel Hollis is a #1 New York Times best-selling author of Girl, Wash Your Face, a TV personality, top motivational speaker, top podcast host, CCO of The Hollis Company and mother of four. Rachel was named by Inc. Magazine as one of the “Top 30 Entrepreneurs under 30” and she is deeply passionate about empowering women in business.

Known as "the Tony Robbins for women" because of her motivational, high-energy style, Rachel has a unique ability to empower and embolden a female audience. Motivational, inspirational, and always approachable, Rachel’s tell-it-like-it-is attitude is a refreshing approach that allows her to authentically connect with audiences everywhere.

Her company, The Hollis Company exists to arm people with the tools to make positive and lasting change. They do this by creating media, products, inspiration and community that challenges their audience to reach for a better version of themselves every day. They believe that everyone can benefit from a personal growth mindset-- most especially people who’ve never encountered it before.

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In This Episode We Talk about:

• Releasing expectations
• Being yourself
• Lori’s newest spoken word poem

Resources:

• Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!
• Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html

Show Notes

I have been on a major rollercoaster this year (an awesome, but scary one), and I think it is so vital that I share with all of you why stepping into and becoming the your highest self is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. 

I’ve been tackling some really big things lately – lots of speaking gigs, book tour events etc., and not gonna lie, they’re all freaking me out. But here’s my trick to getting through them all – I’m letting go of any expectations I have around the outcomes.

“In order for me to work through fear, I have to fully accept anything and everything can happen.”

There is no ONE thing that is going to make or break my life. And as I navigate each any every new thing, I gain more and more clarity around being truly me. Full honesty, I feel the most alive and “myself” that I’ve ever felt. You see, there is zero room for being something that you’re not, because eventually you’re going to get caught being yourself. For me, that’s showing the side of me that loves to perform spoken word, sing (future podcast performance?), and swear. Parents, this may mean putting “earmuffs” on the kiddos now and again. Keep in mind, I’m not trying to purposely offend anyone – it’s just how I express myself on occasion.

For example, in this episode I’m sharing a 30-second excerpt of a new spoken word piece I’m working on…I drop the F-bomb once, but it’s because that was the word that moved me in the moment. It’s about being yourself with a bit of discernment for your audience, right? 

So here’s to stepping into a new version of yourself! Who’s with me and how soon do you want to do it? Whenever that moment takes place, please let me know so I can cheer you on!

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Questions answered in this episode:

@sarahitfit "If you only had 4 months to live, would you continue on your journey or stop?"

@chefdarkcocoa "When walking away from situations that no longer serve you, why does it feel so effinecrappy?"

@llindseyschwartz "What has been the most influential thing you've done to elevate your financial mindset"

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I’m so excited for you all to hear my conversation with the magical trifecta that is Betches Media – Samantha Fishbein, Jordana Abraham and Aleen Kuperman. With a following of more than 6 million followers on Instagram, their presence has taken social media by storm with their funny and light-hearted approach to wellness, dating, careers, pop culture, politics and more. If you haven’t heard of them, I highly recommend traveling down their entertaining Instagram rabbit hole (I did and it was incredible).

In an effort to offer the missing female counterpart to the “bro” culture, these three college friends decided to share their voice and opinions with the masses. With an obvious need fulfilled, their website at the time took off and has since morphed into podcasts, an eCommerce store, books and so much more.

With two books already under their belts, a third book, “When’s Happy Hour,” which focuses on careers is set to release Oct. 23. Whether you’re in college, unfulfilled by your job or fulfilled but driven for more, this book will teach you how to succeed in a career and make yourself better – with lots of laughs along the way.

These women are redefining what it means to love what you do, and I’m so happy they’re taking us all along for the ride.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• What Betches Media is all about and how it was founded
• Taking action and creating content
• Taking an honest look what you’re good at – and what you’re not so good at
• Importance of planning
• Self-awareness
• Monetizing what you’re good at
• The ups and downs of eCommerce
• How Betches found their voices through speaking the thoughts that other people were thinking
• How Betches deal with criticism
• How Betches manage their friendships
• Who Betches wrote “When’s Happy Hour” for
• Redefining what it means to love what you do

Resources:

• Instagram: @betches, @shopbetches
• https://betches.com/
• Book: When’s Happy HourFound wherever books are sold or preorder at https://betches.com/Whens-Happy-Hour-Betches-Book/

Question Highlights:

• Could you explain and break down what you’re doing in your business?
• How did you all get started and what was your intention in the beginning – and how has it changed since then?
• Why did you pick the topic for your new book?
• In the beginning of your business, what were the parts you loved to do and what parts were challenging?
• What do you do to protect and nurture your relationships with each other?
• What are your favorite parts of what you’re doing now?
• What is a question you wish more people would ask you?
• What are some new challenges coming up for your business right now?
• Who is your new book, “When’s Happy Hour,” for?

Quotes

"It’s better that people are saying something, even if it’s not good, than not saying anything at all. At least criticism shows that people care.”

“Even the most amazing job that allows you to follow your passion is work.”

“Follow what makes you happy, what you’re good and what moves you, and live in a way that aligns with that.”

Betches is a multi-platform media company for millennial women to experience comedy and empowerment in an honest environment. Founded in 2011 by Cornell University alumni Aleen Kuperman, Samantha Fishbein, and Jordana Abraham, the company was launched as a blog with the core column “Betches Love This.” Betches has since expanded to become a robust, digital destination that boasts a strong social media presence through their cult Instagram with more than 6.2 million followers, @Betches, two New York Times bestselling books, I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies… and Nice Is Just a Place in France, e-commerce platform, Shop Betches, and vast editorial content including multiple pop-culture, political, and new-centric podcasts and video. Visit www.betches.com to learn more.

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