Are you hoping someone chooses you?  Are you seeking to be chosen?

In codependency, these impulses to get someone to choose us is a reflection of how unchosen we were growing up.

Sometimes we feel chosen by  parent, but not by peers.  Sometimes it is both.  Sometimes it is peers, but not a parent.

When this is prominent, it creates a profound sense of being less-than and that we have to compensate for this perceived lack by trying to get people to see us, value us, and choose us.

People-pleasing, perfectionism, and being a high achiever are ways we try to get that to happen.

Learn how to end the habit of chasing love, inclusion, and approval and what to do to get the attention, care, and inclusion you seek in today's episode.

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. 

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: February 22, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available February 23, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more pain

There are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and inhibit their natural flow and movement through our bodies:

1) We analyze them.  This happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions. We do this thinking if we can understand their cause, we can stop them from happening, or create them over and over again

2) We resist them. This happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions, and it is a signal that we have low capacity and high discomfort with the emotion

3) We attach to them.  This also happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions.  This habit has us trying to keep the emotion close, alive, and constant, either as a form of protection against feeling other things, or having to navigate the loss of the emotion as it fades.

These three habits create emotional paralysis and stagnation, trapping us in loops of trying to control emotions.

Learn what to do instead that creates peace and emotional relief, and ends these three habits at the same time in today's episode!

TOOL: Using the Pause-Acknowledge-Observe Tool will assist you in going deeper in welcoming your emotions. Get it here: https://pao.freetheself.com


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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: February 22, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available February 23, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part One

Creating and nurturing safety is the first and highest priority in the healing of codependency.

We need to have safety in three areas if we're to thrive in our creative and playful ambitions:

1) Physical Safety

2) Emotional Safety

3) Relational Safety

Today is all about Emotional Safety.

Codependency has us believing that safety depends on external factors, namely the physical environment and the people we interact with.  This has us seeking safety through either controlling these factors or avoiding them all together.

What if real safety was found within? 

What if real safety were a result of how we respond to the unsafe experiences we encounter?

These questions led me to discover how I can resource my safety emotionally, physically, and relationally.

Emotional safety is how safe one feels in:

- Acknowledging their own emotions

- Feeling those emotions

- Acknowledging and feeling what comes after those emotions move through

- Expressing or sharing those emotions

- Acknowledging the emotions others communicate

- Witnessing the emotions of others

- Staying boundaried in their responses to the emotions of others

Learn how to start cultivating this and how to navigate the paradox of feeling safer not feeling safe in today's episode!

The Tool: https://pao.freetheself.com

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: February 22, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available February 23, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?

I did. For most of my life.

I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise my skills and achievements, only to have it collapse in the face of failure, uncertainty, or criticism.

This is because believing in one's self isn't the solution.  It is the result.

Learn the real cause of belief in one's self and what to do to have it for yourself in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: February 22, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available February 23, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop:  https://iww.freetheself.com

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Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com

Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Sign up for the The 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

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Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Sign up for the The 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

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Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023:  https://iww.freetheself.com

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Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com