Self-doubt caused by gaslighting, lying, and betrayal leaves us highly vulnerable to harm and leads us to question if we know what is real and what is not real.  

We are left to struggle to understand what is happening and what "right" choices to make. 

We turn outward towards others to define reality, and often towards those that are gaslighting and harming us, as we want to feel safe with them.  

We must return to sanity and knowing what is real if we're to experience lasting freedom from codependency, toxic relationship patterns, self-doubt, and the pain these things bring.

Learn the 3 patterns I teach my students to watch for and how they create reliable sanity and reality in their daily lives in today's episode!

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts May 14, 2023]

This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:

- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work
- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"
- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healing

There are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:

- Safety
- Sanity
- Personal Sovereignty
- Trust Yourself
- Know Yourself
- Love Yourself
- Be Yourself
- Share Yourself

I will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".

This includes:

- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care
- Capacity & Emotional Care
- Foundations of Personal Power
- Foundations of Self-Trust
- Fantasy and Reality
- Foundations of Worth
- Foundations of Knowing Yourself
- Detecting Safe People & Building Resources

These eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.

You'll be empowered to create these results because:

- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality
- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions
- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself
- You'll be discovering your real worth
- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others
- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe people

Students that have learned these skills report:

- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves
- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge
- More peace because they can see what is really happening
- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!

Course Details:

Here's the Class Details:

Class start date: Sunday, May 14, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain Time

Class times:  Sundays @ 12pm Mountain Time

Where: Via zoom

End date: July 2nd, 2023

Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.

Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and all current and future live classes.

You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:

- Live attendance (includes all future live versions)

- The r

Stacey and Marshall discuss the origins of codependency, how needs are factored in, and how to actually heal and be free of your codependency.

You can follow Stacey Steinmiller here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCCy1EfJy-VR8XI9yEO6gaw

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

Dating Again?  Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking For

Healing your codependency means you're evolving your nervous system's attunement to choose something different. Put another way, as you heal, you will become more attracted to what your brain may call "boring" because it lacks intensity, threat, and unrealibility.  

Learn why boring is the green flag you are looking for in today's episode!

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

Do you avoid positive outcomes because of pain?

This is really, really, really, normal.

Healing your codependency involves learning how to receive joy again, especially in things that you really want and carry a lot of loss trauma in them, like relationships and love.

Learn how this was formed and how to navigate receiving what you've lost in the past and adapting to having it in your daily life in today's episode.

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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: Restoring Sanity

Is Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?

In codependency, fantasy is a core element of how we cope with relationship systems that are not changing, yet we feel deeply dependent on for our sense of well-being, safety, connection, and worth.

The brain creates fantasy as a way of giving us direction and something to hope for, especially when we do not have the resources or the capacity to confront what is really happening.

Often, these fantasies start very early in childhood.  We might hope that one day the parent will change into the parent we need if we love them just right or just enough, or if we're good enough.

Learn a few of the major fantasies we have in codependency, how to detect them, and what to do when you notice a fantasy happening in today's episode!


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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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The Everything Forever Program is open for limited enrollment!  You can get all the courses, live classes, and support calls I offer FOREVER for $1500 (normally it is $3000).  Get everything I have created, am creating, and will create with a single investment of $1500.

27 out of 30 spots remain (as of 4/12/2023), and enrollment closes April 18th. 

Join here: https://forever.freetheself.com


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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do you feel like there are "people" in your head that tell you what you should be doing, must be doing, or else?

Do you feel like others are watching or scrutinizing you?

When you go to make a decision or do a thing, do you find yourself evaluating if it is the "right" thing to do or find yourself fixated on what others may think or feel about it?

Do you feel like you don't have a right to make choices for yourself, but instead should be following a rule?

These are expressions of internalize oppression of your personal authority.  This is typically injected into your mind and body through "being obedient".

You see, obedience is the idea that we must conform our behaviors to a set of regulations and rules set by a supposed authority outside ourselves.  

This is often how schools, family, and social systems work.  Obedience is paired with fear and threats.  That is where obedience gets its "power".

IN codependency, obedience becomes the avenue for gaining a sense of acceptance, inclusion, approval, and safety.  This comes at the cost of our personal power, autonomy, and really knowing ourselves.

Obedience becomes a power trap, keeping you conforming to others in exchange for your vital needs of inclusion and love.

Learn how to break yourself from this trap in today's episode.

Breaking Obedience Practice v1:

Step One:  Build awareness of the obedience impulse. Use the PAO tool here: https://pao.freetheself.com

Step Two:  When you're aware of the obedience impulse, acknowledge it. "Ah, I see.  I feel like I have to obey.  What would I do if I trusted, just a bit, in my own authority to direct my actions?"

Step Three:  Acknowledge the answer to that and do it.  Observe and record the results.

Sometimes anxiety, fright, panic can emerge in this. I recommend regulation.  Get the Daily Regulation Practice here: https://drp.freetheself.com

Sometimes shame or guilt emerges.  Clear on those emotions using the clearing tools here:

Shame: https://youtu.be/3Uij0WNG0_8

Guilt: https://youtu.be/WoU3HTFAJUs


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Cost: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?

In abusive, harmful systems, we are taught to doubt ourselves and question our feelings, senses, and lived experiences.  This is gaslighting in action. 

To heal our codependency, we must restore sanity back to our daily life.

What is sanity?

Sanity is the act of being consciously in contact with the facts in reality and operating from one's own lived experience and senses so one can make decisions that are accurate to their reality.

Learn how to do this in today's episode!  


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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This Shift

The shift is simple: My responsibility is to love and care for myself and choose connections with people who show they love and care for me.

I am not responsible for getting people to love me, choose me, respect me, or value me.  

Learn how to start implementing this in today's episode!

Caring for yourself:  

- Emotional warmth, respect, and valuing your pain and your pleasure.

- Respecting your lived experiences, senses, and awareness

- Respecting and following through with your boundaries

- Following your values and principles

- Loving yourself despite rejection, success, failure, acceptance


Signals others give off that they care about you:

- Respect boundaries and shares their boundaries kindly, clearly

- Responsive to complaints, requests, and corrections

- Treats you with positive warm regard (doesn't assume the worst about you)

- Connects with you where you're at

- Shares their own feelings and perspectives kindly

- Seeks consent

- Expresses gratitude, concern, and mindfulness of you


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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your Pain

Resistance to pain is often vilified. It is seen as a block, a problem, a thing to solve.  It becomes the problem, the hindrance that is preventing your healing and success!

What if resistance was a teacher?  What if it was a protector?  What if it was a signal for the need for more safety?

Discover how resistance is an ally in your healing and not a problem to solve in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com




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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availab

End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" Practice

We fix, pursue, chase and try to create healing.  We are stuck in transactional relationships with our healing, ourselves, and others.  Often in an effort to have worth and feel lovable.  

This is the trap of transactional love.

Let's start breaking of this with the approach of loving ourselves anyway.  Learn how in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com