Have you looked in the mirror after a relationship ended and actually didn’t recognize yourself anymore?

When you’ve been consumed by someone else’s needs, opinions, and control, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are. This episode dives into why recovery feels impossible after losing yourself in a narcissistic relationship, and the shift that will help you find your way back.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The hidden ways identity loss keeps you stuck
• The lie keeping you tied to him — and the truth that sets you free
• A powerful step to take right now towards finding yourself again

Press play now to learn how to stop drifting in the aftermath of a toxic relationship and finally begin reclaiming the self they tried to erase.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever caught yourself missing your narcissistic ex—even while knowing he manipulated, belittled, and broke you down—and thought, “What is wrong with me?”

If you’ve felt ashamed or confused about longing for someone who hurt you, you are not alone. That pull isn’t proof you’re weak or broken; it’s a human response to the cycle of abuse. 

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The 3 reasons you miss your ex despite how bad he hurt you
• What you really are craving when you are missing him
• Tangible exercises to shift away from missing him

Press play now to uncover the real reasons you still miss your narcissistic ex, and how to turn that painful longing into powerful self-reconnection.

QUICK LINKS FROM THE EPISODE:

• Ep. 92: Why You Keep Going Back... Even When The Narcissistic Relationship Feels Like An Addiction That Is Killing You : https://pod.fo/e/3185cd

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

What do you do when the sadness and anger feel endless, and no matter what you try, nothing makes it stop?

Emotional overwhelm can make you feel stuck, disconnected, and hopeless—but it doesn’t have to be permanent.

In this episode, you’ll discover how to:

• Understand why your sadness and anger keep coming back, no matter what you try
• Break free from the self-blame and shame that deepen emotional pain.
• Learn the first steps toward safely releasing pain and restoring joy, presence, and emotional balance.

Press play now to start learning how to release the grip of emotional overwhelm and reclaim your life from the sadness and anger that have been holding you back.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever found yourself swept up in the obsessive highs of a new relationship, only to crash into confusion and self-doubt?

This episode explores the difference between the addictive rush that can keep you stuck in unhealthy relationships and the steady, secure feelings of genuine attraction.

By listening, you’ll discover:

• How to tell the difference between healthy chemistry vs. toxic attraction
• Why early attachment wounds can make you more vulnerable to love bombing and toxic dynamics
• The key signals in your body and nervous system that can help you recognize when attraction is crossing into something unhealthy

Press play now to learn how to tell the difference between addictive obsession and authentic connection—so you can protect your heart and move toward real love.

QUICK LINKS FROM THE EPISODE:

• Free Love Bombing Guide (recognizing the red flags): https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes
• Hilary’s IG: @‌indwelling.duluth and @‌hilary.buckwalterwilde
• Hilary’s website: http://indwellingduluth.com

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever wondered if you’ll ever be able to trust again after betrayal — especially when right now, you can’t even trust yourself?

Betrayal can leave you feeling like you’re drowning in doubt, hypervigilance, and shame — convinced that you’ll either pick the wrong person again or keep missing the red flags. 

So in this episode you will discover:

• The reason we overlook red flags instead of act on them
• What you actually need to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal
• The steps that will allow you to date again without being hypervigilient and stuck in fear (when you are ready!)

Press play now to learn how to process betrayal, trust yourself again, and open up to healthy love without losing your sense of safety.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:⁠

• Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

What do you do when the person you thought was your soulmate reveals a side of themselves you never saw coming?

The hardest part of healing from a narcissistic relationship isn’t just leaving, it’s reconciling the loving, attentive person you fell for with the controlling, dismissive, or cruel partner they became.

In this episode, you will discover:

• The survival mechanisms that keep you holding onto hope
• How to grieve someone who’s still alive but was never who you thought they were
• How to reclaim control of your mind and your life post separation

Listen now to uncover how to finally reconcile the fantasy with the facts so you can stop questioning your reality and start reclaiming your life.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• Get the free LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you gone back to someone who’s hurt you even when you swore it was the last time?

If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a loop of breaking no-contact, unblocking him at 3 a.m., or restarting a relationship you know is toxic, it’s time to understand what's really going on in your brain and body.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why no-contact keeps failing (it’s not just willpower)
• The brain chemistry behind why he feels like a drug
• How to finally stop hating yourself, and start breaking free

Listen now to finally understand the addiction cycle you’re caught in—and how to step off of the roller coaster.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship far too long because you believed your love, support, or patience could save or fix him?

If you’ve felt emotionally trapped in a relationship with a narcissist, convinced that with just the right therapist, one more book, or enough compassion, you could help him change—this episode is for you.

In this episode you will discover:

• The one mindset shift that can finally set you free from trying to “fix” him
• How to tell if a narcissistic person is using therapy language and trauma narratives to manipulate you
• The emotional truth about how good-hearted women like you get trapped and how narcissists use your vulnerabilites against you

Press play now to discover the mindset shift that will help you finally lay down the burden of saving him—and set yourself free.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• Schedule a free Intro Session with Bre: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod
• Shauvan’s Nightbird memoir: https://www.shavaunscott.com/nightbird-a-memoir/

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻Schedule a free Intro Session with Bre: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you pulled away from friends who stopped showing up because you “always went back,” or you’ve convinced yourself it's safer to just figure out the pain of your relationship alone?

This conversation is for you if you’re silently suffering and craving connection but don’t know how to reach for it anymore.

In this episode, you’ll uncover:

• How narcissistic abuse leads to painful isolation that’s hard to explain
• The real reason you’ve stopped asking for help—even though you desperately want support
• The price you're paying by hiding yourself from everyone

If you’re tired of hiding in the dark with your pain and just want to feel seen, understood, and supported—press play now to hear the conversation that could help you begin to come back to yourself.

Quick Links Mentioned In Episode:

• Free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule a FREE Intro Session with me: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod 

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Is your ex still taking up a ton of space in your head even though it’s over and you know the relationship was toxic?

This episode breaks down why those thoughts keep coming up and what they’re actually trying to tell you about your healing process.

In this episode you will:

• Discover what’s really behind the urge to check your ex’s social media—and how to shift that energy back to your own healing
• Learn how to break free from the mental spiral of trying to make sense of their cruelty
• Uncover how blame was used to control you and begin releasing the belief that everything was your fault

Hit play now to finally understand what your lingering thoughts really mean—and how to start feeling more like YOU again.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

• Interest form: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.