Have you found yourself questioning how someone could lie, manipulate, or provoke you without remorse?

When you're dealing with someone who seems to thrive on pushing your buttons, it’s easy to feel stuck and confused.

In this episode, we unravel the mystery behind their behavior, helping you understand the way their minds work so you can make sense of what feels incomprehensible.

In this episode you will:

• Finally understand if narcissists know that they are hurting you and if they act cruel on purpose
• Learn their deeper motivation for being in a relationship and why conversations and conflict resolution never seem to work with them
• Gain practical tips for identifying manipulation tactics so you aren't second-guessing what is happening in your relationship

Press play now to uncover the truth behind their behavior and learn how to stop their emotional hold over you—it's time to reclaim your power.

MENTIONED:

• Phoenix’s website: https://phoenixcore.ca/
• Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854
• Interest form to work with Bre: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a whirlwind of emotions after betrayal, leaving you torn between the instinct to stay close to someone who has hurt you and the deep knowledge that you deserve better?

In this episode, Heidi Dike Kingston and I explore the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma, the effects it has on your nervous system, and the steps to begin healing so you can move toward a life of safety and emotional freedom (this is part 2 to Heidi’s story).

By listening to this episode, you will:

• Understand why betrayal trauma feels so overwhelming and confusing - like life or death
• Learn how attachment systems play a role in keeping you second guessing your decision to leave and/or going back
• Discover the physiological effects betrayal trauma has on our body and steps to take today to begin to heal

Hit play now to uncover actionable steps and heartfelt insights that will empower you to heal from betrayal trauma and reclaim your emotional strength!

MENTIONED:

• EP 66: How Unhealed Attachment Wounds Lead to Addictive Toxic Relationships with Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 1)
• Heidi’s website: http://heidikingston.com
• Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/#!event-list
• Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.org
• Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA): https://slaafws.org

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns despite your best efforts to move forward?

This episode dives deep into the ‘why’ behind our unmanageable cycles of seeking connection or staying in harmful relationships, and how we can make sense of it all.

Listen as Heidi Dike Kingston shares her personal journey of love addiction recovery in this part 1 of 2.

In this episode you will:

• Understand the key family dynamics that effect our ability to attach in adult relationships (and how to heal yours)
• Finally recognize where the core belief, “I can’t be alone” comes from and how it can lead to a trauma bonded relationship
• Learn how holding onto someone's potential keeps you stuck in toxic relationships & impacts real intimacy

Click play to uncover the roots of your relationship patterns and take the first step toward breaking free and building the love life you deserve.

MENTIONED:

• Part 2 of Heidi’s episode coming next Wednesday! Ep. 67 How Betrayal Trauma Hijacks Your Brain & Nervous System - And How To Break Free With Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 2)
• Heidi’s website: http://heidikingston.com
• Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/#!event-list
• Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.org
• Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA): https://slaafws.org

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Are you wondering if true, healthy love is even possible for you?

This episode dives into the heart of what makes relationships genuinely fulfilling. 

If you’ve ever found yourself questioning what you should expect from a partner or doubting your ability to experience real love after a toxic relationship, this conversation is for you.

In this episode you will:

• Understand the 8 signs of a healthy relationship so you stop wondering what you can/should expect
• Discover the surprising common belief many women have about relationships that keep them stuck
• Learn why focusing on what is possible in relationships will help you experience real love in your next relationship

Hit play now to uncover the tools and insights you need to create the love story you’ve always dreamed of.

MENTIONED:

• EP 49: Am I Codependent? How To Stop Fixing Everyone & Build Self-Esteem So You Can Have Healthier Relationships With Behk & LAH - https://pod.fo/e/27aa88

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Do you want to lose it when people tell you to just “love yourself?”

Loving yourself can be a nebulous thing and can feel far away, especially while moving through heartbreak from a narcissistic relationship, period - but definitely around Valentine’s Day.

In this episode Angela Slade and I have a powerful conversation that will take the confusion out of self-love and show you exactly how you can get there.

In this episode you will:

• Finally understand what "loving yourself" really means and how you can get there
• Know exactly what to do this Valentine’s Day to feel better if you’re smack in the middle of heartbreak and hate everything about love
• Receive tips on how to be with loneliness without it taking you under

Valentine’s Day gets to be about YOU loving YOU. You are worth it. Click play to feel the love.

MENTIONED:

• Stepping Into Your Authentic Self (Angela’s oracle card spread) - www.angelaslade.com
• Ep. 63: The Truth About Healing From The Narcissistic Mindf*ck & Why It Can Feel Hard to Love Yourself Again (my story)

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Are you wondering if anyone can relate to the self-blame, confusion and heartbreak you’re experiencing since you broke up with your narcissistic ex?

This episode shares my story.

I give you an explicit view from my ride on the toxic rollercoaster and how I finally got off and healed from the mindf*ck of it all - all while learning what the heck "loving myself" even meant. So when I say, “You are not alone…” I mean it.

In this episode you will:

• Be validated as sh*t that you aren’t alone by hearing the intimate details of my narcissistic ex’s betrayal, manipulation and emotional abuse and how I healed from it all
• Begin to see the light at the end of your dark tunnel if you are still in the pain of healing - because you will heal too
• Understand what loving yourself actually means and what healthy love feels like so you know what you can expect in the future without sounding like you’re asking for too much

Join me as I uncover how I (and you) can leave the pain behind and step into a future filled with confidence, clarity, and the love you deserve

MENTIONED:

• Episode 40: Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://pod.fo/e/27408e

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Are you struggling to comprehend how your ex could be capable of cheating or living an entire double life?

Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than most wounds.

In this episode Deana and Lizzie from The Matadoras share their emotional journey of discovering they were both entangled in the same man’s manipulative web, how they unraveled his lies and found the strength to move forward.

In this episode you will:

• Understand better how you didn’t see the betrayal and cheating happening while you were in it
• Learn how to approach the dilemma of telling the next woman he’s with about the kind of man he is
• Hear why big-hearted women (like you!) often find themselves healing from betrayal trauma, and what to do to move through the heartbreak

▶️ Listen now to uncover how betrayal trauma survivors Deana and Lizzie navigated the depths of betrayal and found strength to heal—and discover how you can too.

MENTIONED:

• Tiktok & IG: @‌thematadoras
• The Matadoras on Facebook
• Website: http://www.thematadoras.com
• Email: [email protected]
• Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

How many times has the question, "Am I the toxic one?" keep you up at night, spiraling you into self-blame and self-doubt?

If you’ve found yourself replaying arguments, doubting your worth, and wondering if your reactions are to blame, it’s time to get clarity. 

In this episode, you will:

• Finally have an easy way to finally be able to answer the, “Am I the toxic one?” question when you’re lost and dysregulated
• Be able to step outside of self-blame and begin to raise your self-esteem
• Shift your mindset from harsh self-judgment to compassionate self-awareness so you can stop second guessing yourself

Listen now to discover the clarity and compassion you need to silence self-doubt.

MENTIONED:

• EP. 22: Am I Anxiously Attached or In the Wrong Relationship? How to Move Towards Secure Attachment & Healthy Relationships With Eli Harwood - https://pod.fo/e/2747a7

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Are you asking, “Why did he do this to me?!” completely bewildered by a narcissists behavior?

Making sense of it can sometimes feel like you’re trying to understand someone from another planet, and this episode will shine some light on the seemingly non-sensical mindf*ck.

By tuning in, you’ll discover:

• The why behind the behaviors, patterns, and tactics used by narcissistic individuals that leave you second-guessing your reality
• How to identify the key red flags showing someone is a narcissist and the specific things you can do to protect yourself (and your sanity)
• If it is possible to maintain a relationship with a narcissist and how to gauge if you should leave

Press play now to arm yourself with the knowledge and tools to navigate, heal, and thrive beyond the grip of a narcissistic relationship.

MENTIONED:

• Interest form: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes
• Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

How do you recognize when intimacy has shifted from connection to control?

If you've ever felt that your partner's actions didn't align with their words or found yourself using sex to end a fight, this discussion with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde will resonate deeply for you.

In this episode you will:

• Gain clarity on how sex can be misused as a tool for control and manipulation, trapping you further into narcissistic cycles
• Learn how patriarchal narratives might shape your view of intimacy and self-worth and how to reclaim your genuine sexual power
• Discover the steps to grieve and heal from the traumatic mindf*ck of realizing your relationship was built on deceit

Tune in now to uncover the tools and insights you need to break free from manipulation and reclaim your power.

MENTIONED:

• Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand The Heartbreak With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1) - https://pod.fo/e/277854
• Ep. 48: How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2) - https://pod.fo/e/27854a
• Hilary’s website: indwellingduluth.com
• HIlary’s Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluth

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.