Have you ever thought you had your life all figured out, only to get hit with a plot twist that leaves you saying, “Wait… what?!”

In today’s episode, I’m spilling the beans on a major life update that even I didn’t see coming. Whether you’re feeling stuck, scared to take the next step, or just wondering if things could ever turn around, this episode is your reminder that life’s surprises can be shockingly wonderful.

In this episode, you will:

• Hear my special announcement on this massive life change! 
• Laugh (and maybe cringe) at my journey of surrendering control
• Get the real-talk about the wild ride I’ve had healing from a being with a narcissistic person and tending to my childhood wounds so that I can now experience a loving relationship where this life change was possible 

Click play to join me in celebrating!

MENTIONED:

• EP. 30: The REBRAND Episode (Behind the Scenes) https://pod.fo/e/27479f
• Ep. 10: Waking Up From a Toxic Relationship Nightmare, Rebuilding My Confidence & Stepping Into Real Love (My Story) https://pod.fo/e/274132

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Where are all my empathetic, loving, codependent ladies at?!

Whether you are tangled in someone else’s addiction, trying to “fix” and manage others' lives, or find yourself spewing passive aggressiveness when your partner loads the dishwasher wrong, codependency takes an emotional toll that is a total doozy.

This episode with my guests Behk and LAH, co-hosts of Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters Oh My!, dives into how to recognize those patterns, set healthier boundaries, and stop sacrificing your own well-being to avoid conflict or chaos.

In this episode you will:

• Hear real life examples of how myself, Behk and LAH all have gone from believing…“everything is mine to fix” to “that’s a big glass of not my f*cking problem” (with compassion and grace)
• Learn strategies to stop the self-blame and guilt when you start to change your codependent patterns
• Steps you can take if you’re just starting your codependent healing journey so that you don’t pass down this trauma response to your children (or future kiddos)

Hit play now and give yourself permission to step away from the drama llama and prioritize your peace! 🦙💥

MENTIONED:

• Online course: Find Yourself Again (to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes
• FREE Relationship Reset Guide that will help you rewire your attachment style to healthy love: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes
• Hear my episode on their podcast Narcissists, Gaslighters and Cheaters, Oh My!: https://www.ngcompod.com/episodes/expert-pov-untangling-the-mindfck-of-narcissistic-relationships-with-bre-wolta
• Behk & LAH’s website: http://ngcompod.com
• Behk & LAH’s socials: @‌ngcompod

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Could the very thing that feels like connection be part of a darker cycle of abuse?

This is a continuation of my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde from Ep. 47 where we explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and her experience of having sex used as a powerful tool for manipulation.

If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic relationship because of the physical intimacy that kept you hooked thinking, “I can’t leave because the sex is too good,” this conversation will resonate deeply and shed light on the emotional entanglements you may not even realize you're caught in.

In this episode you will:

• Understand how narcissistic partners use sex to maintain control and create emotional dependency
• Learn about the psychological impact of sex in abusive relationships and why it’s so difficult to break free
• The surprising role that consent plays in relationships where sexual exploitation is disguised as intimacy

Don’t miss this eye-opening episode that could change the way you view intimacy and control in toxic relationships—click play now and reclaim your understanding of what real love and connection should feel like!

MENTIONED:

• Part 1 of Hilary’s story is episode 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde: https://pod.fo/e/277854 
• Hilary’s website: indwellingduluth.com
• HIlary’s Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluth

Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde, MA, is the founder of Indwelling: A Place to Restore Connection. Hilary is a Sacred Counsel Guide that specializes in trauma healing and narcissistic abuse recovery. She sees clients one on one in private practice and also leads retreats, workshops, and offers trainings and certificate programs.

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Trying to come to terms with knowing that your ex was someone completely opposite of who they presented to be in the beginning?

This dives deep into the experience of falling for someone who presents themselves as the perfect person, only to later realize their true nature. You will hear Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde’s story and what she experienced as her ex narcissistic partner’s masks fell off during their relationship.

If you are moving through the grief and confusion that surrounds this type of deception, asking yourself “Was any of this real?!” this episode is for you.

In this episode you will:

• Understand how love bombing creates an illusion of a "perfect" partner.
• Discover why we overlook the truth when someone tells you who they really are upfront.
• Learn how to heal the worthiness wound that keeps so many of us stuck in unhealthy relationships

THIS IS PART 1 of Hilary's story!

• Catch part 2 - Episode 48. How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2): https://pod.fo/e/27854a

Listen now to feel less alone in your journey of healing from narcissistic deception and low self-worth.



CONNECT:

• Hilary’s website: indwellingduluth.com
• HIlary’s Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluth

Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde, MA, is the founder of Indwelling: A Place to Restore Connection. Hilary is a Sacred Counsel Guide that specializes in trauma healing and narcissistic abuse recovery. She sees clients one on one in private practice and also leads retreats, workshops, and offers trainings and certificate programs.

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Ever find yourself wondering, "Why do I keep dating people who seem to be allergic to basic empathy?" Yeah, you're not alone.

In this episode, we dive into why some of us (no judgment) keep choosing partners who make us question our picker. Spoiler: Childhood. If you've ever felt like your love life could double as a reality show, this one’s for you!

Here’s what you’ll get from this episode:

• A-ha moments about how childhood shapes our idea of love (and why it might be broken)
• Tiffanie’s vulnerable experience being with two narcissistic abusive men in a row and her advice on how to avoid falling into the trap
• How to actually heal the deeper wounds so you can finally have a healthy relationship

Hit play now and get ready to rethink why you’re dating the human version of a red flag—and how to change that!

MENTIONED:

• Find Yourself Again (An online course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again
• Tiffanie’s podcast: True Crime Connections Advocacy Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-connections-advocacy-podcast/id1527939841
• Tiffanie’s website: www.truecrimeconnections.com
• Ep. 42: Why We Don't Walk Away From Red Flags & Continue Cycles of Heartbreak in Narcissistic Relationships https://pod.fo/e/27407f

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Have you ever had a conversation so twisted, you walked away wondering if you’re losing your mind? How about 50 of those convos? How about an entire relationship that had you thinking you were crazy? 

I’ve been there too—stuck in a relationship that messes with your reality so much, you start doubting your own memory. And it totally sucks. 

So, buckle up for this episode where I break down gaslighting and show you how to regain the trust you’ve lost in yourself.

In this episode you will:

• Hear real examples of what gaslighting is and feels like
• Get practical tips on how to rebuild your self-trust after months (or years) of, "Am I crazy?" moments
• Understand why your intuition isn’t broken

Ready to reclaim your reality and sanity? 

Press play now and let’s heal through the mind-f*ck that is gaslighting—don’t forget to stick around for that Oracle card moment at the end!

MENTIONED:

• Find Yourself Again (Online course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently). USE CODE PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

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Why do we stay in painful, confusing narcissistic relationships even when we know they hurt us? 

If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, this episode will shed light on the deeper dynamics at play in trauma-bonded relationships and how early experiences shape these unhealthy attachments.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• How codependency and love bombing are intertwined
• The link between trauma bonds and unresolved childhood grief
• How abusive relationships become falsely associated with safety & why they are so hard to leave

This thought-provoking discussion is fully designed to help you start recognizing the patterns that keep you stuck, so you can begin the journey toward healthier relationships.

MENTIONED:

• PART 2 called Trapped in a Toxic Relationship? How to Break Free from the Fog! Coming Wednesday Oct. 9th on Anthony’s podcast: The Narcissism Decoder
• Get in touch with Anthony: https://www.drmazzella.com/
• Ep. 31: Trauma Bonding: What It Really Is And How To Avoid So You Can Move Towards Healthy Relationships

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Is staying in your relationship leaving you feeling drained, yet the idea of leaving has you feeling powerless?

This episode dives deep into the reality of breaking free from narcissistic and painful relationships, showing how it’s not only possible to heal but how doing so can free up your mental and emotional capacity, helping you feel like yourself again.

In this episode you will:

• Discover how to reclaim your energy, capacity, and resources when you leave a narcissistic relationship
• Understand how to reset your parasympathetic nervous system for emotional recovery and find compassion for who you were in that relationship
• Master the art of stepping out of the rescuer role and choosing you sans the guilt

▶️ Ready to start your healing journey? Click play now and give yourself the gift of clarity and peace.

MENTIONED:

Ep. 40 - Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://link.chtbl.com/MBA1wRF4

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Ever look back on an unhealthy relationship and think, "What was I thinking—was I blind or just a professional red-flag collector?"

(I’ve been there, no shame here.)

If you’ve ever found yourself cringing at your past choices and wondering why you stuck around longer than a bad Netflix series, this episode dives deep into the real reasons behind those decisions—and how you can finally move on without the guilt trip.

In this episode you will:

• Understand what fuels our dissociation from seeing the red flags are waving
• They key you need in order to recognize behavior that isn’t working for you and walk away
• Learn how to stop judging yourself like it’s an Olympic event and start healing for real

It’s time to ditch the red flags and reclaim your peace—no more relationship reruns! Press play for all the goodness.

MENTIONED:

• Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, non-negotiables, and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again
• 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Is it dysfunctional or is it abusive?

Sometimes it can be hard to tell what type of relationship we are (or were) in because abuse doesn’t always leave a mark.

In this episode Khryzza Kelley shares with us how she realized that the relationship she was in was emotionally abusive and how she found the knowing that it was time to leave. She relays her journey through trauma healing and repatterining her behaviors, and beautifully shares how she and her now husband maintain a healthy relationship - giving you a guide on what to look for in a healthy dynamic.

In this episode you will:

• Hear the unspoken reason why verbal abuse is so hard to recognize
• Understand the most vital aspects necessary for a healthy relationship, and how the heck to know you’re in something healthy
• Learn how Khryzza moved out of the trauma responses from her abusive relationship in order to trust herself and date again

▶️ Tune in now to gain some insight on what you can expect from healthy relationships, and what the signs are that something is not right.

MENTIONED:

• My signature coaching program, Becoming: https://www.brewolta.com/becoming
• Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently) USE CODE PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.