Have you gone down the attachment style rabbit hole in hopes of becoming more securely attached so you can fix a painful relationship?

Whether you’re insecurely or securely attached, the right relationship will help you move toward security. This episode delves into the roots of attachment styles and childhood experiences, offering insights on how to navigate towards healthier connections in adulthood.

We explore:

• The fluidity of attachment styles and how we can shift from anxious, avoidant or secure depending on who we are in relationship with
• The attraction we have towards familiar dynamics from childhood and the journey towards healing them in adult relationships
• How it is possible to be secure and healthy and still find yourself in an abusive or toxic relationship (and how to break free of the cycles)
• The 4 practical steps you can take to become more securely attached and how to maintain a secure connection in your next relationship

Hit play now to gain valuable insights and practical strategies for building secure attachment in relationships!

MENTIONED:

• Securely Attached by Eli Harwood: https://attachmentnerd.com/books
• Eli’s on IG, FB, TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/
• Eli’s website: https://attachmentnerd.com

RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠:

• Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ for individual or group coaching

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Is it possible to consciously end a relationship on good terms and remain friends?

Join us for an enlightening discussion on conscious uncoupling, where Sacha Bryce shares her personal journey and invaluable insights on gracefully transitioning from partners to friends after a 5-year relationship.

In this episode, we explore:

- The importance of establishing a conscious relationship foundation and why it takes two to tango in the uncoupling dance

- Peeling back the layers of letting go consciously and the significance of self-honesty throughout

- Flipping the script on societal expectations and reframing relationship endings as opportunities for growth, not failures

- Tips for navigating the grieving process and finding healing (yes, grief comes even if you consciously uncouple!)

- Increasing self-awareness to avoid falling into patterns of jealousy and comparison post-uncoupling

Tune in for a candid conversation on navigating the complexities of parting ways with integrity and insight.

MENTIONED:

• Maiden to Mother by Sarah Durham Wilson
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• Sacha’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/sachabryce.eft/
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• Sacha’s website: https://www.coresoulwork.com/welcome
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RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Not sure how to heal from narcissistic and post-separation abuse while also raising healthy kids?

Join us as Brandi Babin shares her journey of reclaiming power from her narcissistic ex, not just for herself but to cultivate a healthy environment for her children.

If you're navigating post-separation abuse as a mom, this episode is your guide.

Discover:

- Brandi's approach to helping her kids process emotions, debunking the myth of perpetual happiness

- The transformative impact of epigenetics in breaking generational trauma

- Recognizing the cycle of post-separation abuse

- Building a safe haven for children amidst a narcissistic parent

Hit play for insights and empowerment!

MENTIONED:

- Brandi’s first episode on this podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2c3vYDX07rcoB6Sb0cgIyR?si=5f686b274d484571

- My episode on Brandi’s podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/35IANboyXCKWHTrrKH8yN4?si=3a7d32a44cff4e09

- Brandi’s website: http://thereclaimstrategy.com

- Brandi’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandi.babin/

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has become a popular tool for trauma healing, and in this episode Margeaux Groene LPC walks us through the ins and outs of what it is and how this somatic therapy can help unlock your trauma.

This episode lays out examples of the types of issues that you could bring to an EMDR session so that you can put yourself in an imagination station and see if this therapeutic modality might be right for you.

Listen for:

✨ An understanding around what trauma actually is and why it has a bad wrap

✨ A low down on what EMDR is and what you can expect from a session

✨ Why dissociation is a normal part of trauma and how you can widen your window of tolerance to move away from it

✨ How to identify trauma that you may have by looking for heightened responses that aren’t making sense in the context of the situation

✨ Why somatic therapies work to help us with our implicit memories, especially before the age of 5

MENTIONED:

https://www.hollandhearttherapy.com

https://www.instagram.com/margeaux_lpc/

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Is a relationship without any conflict healthy 🤔? How do you have conflict without fighting? And how do you get past your fear of using your damn voice in the first place?!

Athena McCullough LMFT walks us through her own evolution of being shut off from her emotions and conflict avoidant like “an appliance that just plugged in and ran,” to a woman with a voice, opinions, and a distress tolerance wide enough to share them all with her partner. We talk about how to bring up conflict (step by step) in relationships, and especially what to do to stay grounded and sane during a high conflict divorce.

Listen for:

✨ Why rupture without repair is so damaging in relationships

✨ The trap of spending time in the perfectionistic analytical brain during your healing journey

✨ How to have healthy conflict with your partner (step by step) instead of running away, shutting down, or raging

✨ Signs that someone isn’t ready for an intimate relationship

✨ Skills to help you keep your cool if you’re in a high conflict divorce

MENTIONED:

https://www.mcculloughfamilytherapy.com

Email: [email protected]

IG: @mccullough_familytherapy

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Are you worthy even if your partner leaves? What if they don’t want to do the work that they know is necessary for the relationship to work…are you still enough?

Deanne Vincent shares with us her journey moving from the powerless place of “choose me” to balancing her internal feminine energy so that she can show up as a more secure self in relationships. We talk about worthiness, belonging, healthy relationship sex, and liberating our grandmothers' relationship stories so that we aren’t starving for a man to save us from ourselves.

Listen for:

✨Why we feel out of control when we only feel worthy if a man “chooses” us

✨The importance of building internal worthiness so that you don’t settle for breadcrumbs of love

✨How we are shifting away from “needing” men the same way our grandmothers did and what that means about healthy relationships

✨Why you may find yourself repeatedly attracting the bad boy even though you want the healthy man

✨The reason sex in a healthy relationship will blow your mind and be better what you’ve experienced with someone you don’t fully trust

REACH OUT:

On IG: @deannevincent

https://www.deannevincent.com/

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

*Trigger warning 🚨! This episode contains information around miscarriage and abuse that may be hard to hear. If this is sensitive for you, please skip past minutes 16-19.

How do you meet your past self with compassion as you begin to realize what was really happening in your relationship? How do you stop the narratives that your ex used to say about you from becoming your truth and truly heal?

Kate Nelson is a Mental Health Professional and Certified Yoga Instructor and true freaking survivor. She courageously shares with us not only about her journey through miscarriage, abuse, and a total loss of self, but how she is now thriving in her life in ways that she never imagined she would. We talk about the shame she felt as a mental health professional who was knee deep in an abusive relationship and the passion she now has to help other women save themselves.

Listen for:

✨ The red flags she saw but didn’t allow herself to “see”

✨ The final abusive experience and miscarriage that opened her eyes and helped her save herself (This is where that trigger warning applies, minutes 16-19)

✨ The shame she felt that kept her in the relationship and quiet afterwards and how she overcame the gaslighting she was doing to herself

✨ How she finally forgave herself for staying in the relationship for as long as she did and began to really heal her mind and heart

✨ How to share your painful past with a new partner

REACH OUT:

On IG: @‌kateliz18

Email: [email protected]

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

How can you get your partner to agree to go to couples therapy? Is it possible to come back from betrayal? Are there any reasons couples work wouldn’t be a good option?

Jason and I share tips for women who are navigating couples therapy (especially with a resistant partner) so you can feel empowered and lean into the third party support that can help you set boundaries and move from ambivalence to certainty.

This episode will answer many of your frustrating questions and help you see that you, in fact, are not responsible for 100% of the problems in your relationship (and how to take accountability for the ones that you are a part of), and how you can use compassionate curiosity towards yourself and your relationship to change the game.

Listen for:

✨Why both partners need a balance of healthy masculine and feminine energy for a relationship to thrive

✨ How to increase your emotional maturity

✨ What to do if your partner is resistant to therapy

✨ Our thoughts on why finding yourself again in your own individual coaching is as important as couples work

✨ How to know when you’ve tried everything and should call it

✨ What 3 preconditions you need in order for couples work to be effective

MENTIONED:

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Spending a good chunk of her life avoiding feelings and actively numbing with alcohol and chaos, Amanda vulnerably shares how she’s finally found comfort in her emotions and has built trust with herself so she doesn’t have to run and hide anymore.

We chat about her memoir, Trust Yourself to Be All In: Safe to Love and Let Go and how the principles she outlines there have allowed her to not only find meaning in her suffering, but to create an inseverable love for herself. How…? Hint: By welcoming all of her emotions with patience and self-compassion.

If this lands for you, please send it to your friends and leave us a review on the top of our podcast page (it helps other women find it organically) 🙏🏻.

Listen for:

✨ Why we sometimes create chaos so we don’t have to be with our feelings

✨ People pleasing in order to show others she was a good person (so that she could then believe it too)

✨ How she continually chooses self-love over self-hate today

✨ The reason sitting with whatever comes up is a superpower and how it will transform you as a partner, mother and overall woman

✨ Why self-worth is the foundation for grieving healthfully

MENTIONED:

Follow Amanda on IG: https://www.instagram.com/amandamckoyflanagan/

Buy her book 📖 - Trust Yourself to Be All in: Safe to Love and Let Go

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.

Toxic relationships come in all forms, and whether you NEED abs in order to feel worthy, or you NEED your partner to be happy so you feel okay, or you NEED the bottle of wine to decompress every night, dependence on the external thing can cause toxicity to seep through and through.

Sydney shares with us her journey navigating recovery from an eating disorder, substances and codependency. She shares her fears of perfection and how they led her to drastically alter her body and spirit to become someone she was never meant to be, and how finding the self that she was deep within her gave her more freedom (professionally, physically, personally and romantically) than she could have ever imagined.

Listen for:

✨ The ways that addictions and eating disorders become the solution (albeit maladaptive) when you’ve grown up in chaos

✨ The moment she knew that she needed help with the way she was eating and exercising

✨ How she’s moved beyond believing that resting is “bad” and dropped the obsession to become the society’s idealized woman in order to be chosen 

✨ What it is like to outgrow a partner and leave an engagement despite feeling like, “the train has already left the station”

✨ How she silenced her intuition because she didn’t have the tools necessary to cope with the truth in her relationship

MENTIONED:

Follow Sydney on IG: https://www.instagram.com/greenehealth/

On the web: https://www.sydneygreenehealth.com/

🔑 NOW ENROLLING for Becoming, my group coaching program (for only a few more days!):

Only 4 spaces 

Ready? Submit your interest form here: https://www.brewolta.com/becoming

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love⁠⁠

- Learn how to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you don’t anxiously attach

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: ⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form⁠⁠

In this podcast, we unpack the challenges faced by empaths and those struggling with codependency who’ve found themselves healing from the heartbreak and confusion of narcissistic relationships. We’ll explore the meaning of gaslighting and love bombing that comes with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, dive into attachment styles, and learn to build confidence while setting boundaries, improving self-worth, and learning to effectively communicate in future healthy relationships.