Is it dysfunctional or is it abusive?

Sometimes it can be hard to tell what type of relationship we are (or were) in because abuse doesn’t always leave a mark.

In this episode Khryzza Kelley shares with us how she realized that the relationship she was in was emotionally abusive and how she found the knowing that it was time to leave. She relays her journey through trauma healing and repatterining her behaviors, and beautifully shares how she and her now husband maintain a healthy relationship - giving you a guide on what to look for in a healthy dynamic.

In this episode you will:

• Hear the unspoken reason why verbal abuse is so hard to recognize
• Understand the most vital aspects necessary for a healthy relationship, and how the heck to know you’re in something healthy
• Learn how Khryzza moved out of the trauma responses from her abusive relationship in order to trust herself and date again

▶️ Tune in now to gain some insight on what you can expect from healthy relationships, and what the signs are that something is not right.

MENTIONED:

• My signature coaching program, Becoming: https://www.brewolta.com/becoming
• Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently) USE CODE PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Unsure how to access that self-love thing everyone is talking about? Or are you feeling overwhelming judgement and distrust in yourself? This episode is here to help.

We’re diving into the magical (okay, evidence-based) world of EFT tapping. If anxiety, self-doubt, or just a bad case of the “I-can’t-think-straight” blues are your current reality, you’re not alone. We’re exploring how this simple technique can help you regain control, feel like yourself again, and show up healthfully in relationships.

In this episode you will:

• Learn how to deactivate your brain’s “security camera” (aka your trigger response) before it sends you into fight-or-flight mode over a text message
• Understand how EFT can help you find self-love and self-trust after a toxic relationship
• Find out why EFT might just be the best relationship tool you didn’t know you needed

Bonus: Get a personalized Oracle card message at the end of the episode—because who doesn’t love a little extra guidance?

Ready to tap your way to tranquility and get lovey dovey with yourself? 🥰 Click play and start your journey to a calmer, more confident you!

MENTIONED:

• Ep. 6: How to Set Boundaries (That Work) & Communicate Effectively Without Feeling Guilty: https://link.chtbl.com/0I7VYtgr

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotes

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Sexual trauma is a violation on the body and mind and to heal it, we have to tend to both.

This episode dives deep into understanding how unresolved sexual trauma and toxic relationships impact our ability to connect authentically with ourselves and others - and how you can heal.

We are honored to hear my friend Shanna Wilton as she shares her journey of finding safety, trust and pleasure again in her body after repeated sexual trauma beginning in childhood. We talk about how the consequences of these traumas led her down a path of toxic relationships (including the relationship she had with herself) and how she found her way out.

Soak in this wisdom, this isn’t an episode you’ll want to miss.

In this episode you will:

• Discover the ‘aha’ moment Shanna had that allowed her to recognize and begin healing from her sexual abuse
• Learn what stands in most women’s way from believing their repressed sexually traumatic memories
• Takeaway easy techniques you can use everyday to integrate pleasure and joy into your healing process

▶️ Tune in now to start your journey toward healing and reclaiming your power. Experience life in full color, not black and white—click play to begin.

MENTIONED:

Shanna’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/shanna.wilton/

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Has your intuition let you down, leaving you questioning your ability to trust yourself and your decisions in relationships?

If you're struggling with self-doubt and finding it hard to trust your inner voice, this episode is for you. We dive deep into understanding how to reconnect with your intuition and rebuild the trust that's essential for making confident decisions, especially after you’ve been burned in a narcissistic or otherwise toxic relationship.

In this episode you will:

• Learn how to prove to yourself your intuition is working (and what you need in order to be able to hear it)
• Be shown the best exercise you can do to rebuild trust with yourself
• Clearly understand why you can’t make a wrong decision

▶️ Ready to rediscover and trust your intuition? Tune in now and take the first step toward aligning with your true self.

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MENTIONED:

Ep. 24: How Do I Know When It’s Time to Leave? How Do I Trust My Decision? :https://link.chtbl.com/5_Gw3ZQZ

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RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

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🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

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In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

If you are ping-ponging back and forth, one moment sure you should leave, and the next feeling waves of guilt and pressure to not hurt your partner by leaving them, this episode is here to help you set down the paddle and cut through the noise.

This quick 20 minute episode will help you reframe breakups and find the confidence hidden in your deeper knowing.

In this episode you will:

• Be able to clearly identify the signs that a relationship isn’t serving you
• Understand on a higher level why breaking up is really benefiting the both of you
• Get an answer to your question, “Does it have to end?”

▶️ Tune in now if your love life feels like a never-ending soap opera and you want clarity around what to do.

MENTIONED:

• Ep. 25: What to Do After the Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through the Grief Process Stages So You Can Move On: https://link.chtbl.com/CqxuYlIF

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

If you’ve been mindf*cked thinking, “IS he a narcissist?”, stuck on not being able to find the answer while second guessing everything, this episode is for you.

I’ve been there, and together we will piece together some understanding around the answer that you seek 💡.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

• 3 simple yet critical questions to ask yourself to help you piece out narcissism
• What you can do to find clarity and truly heal if you do feel like you’re in (or have been in) a relationship with someone who is narcissistic
• An uncommon truth about narcissism and why it matters to your healing process

▶️ Don't stay in the dark—play this episode now and start uncovering the answers you need to move forward with strength and clarity.

MENTIONED:

• Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form
• Stay connected with helpful content on how to heal from the mindf*ck on my email list: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/getemails

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Ready to ditch those wobbly, one-legged toxic relationships for something that won’t tip over at the first sign of trouble?

In this episode, we dive into a a powerful metaphor shared by a client of mine that highlights the stark difference between relationships built on shaky ground and those that offer true stability and balance.

In this episode you will:

- Hear one client’s life changing metaphor describing how they now view healthy vs unhealthy relationships

- Discover the importance of not putting your relationship higher than everything else in your life

- Feel inspired and guided as to how to seek grounded, stable relationships in your own life

▶️ Tune in now to get the lowdown on upgrading your love life from a teetering pedestal to a solid, steady table!

MENTIONED:

- Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

- Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Are you struggling to differentiate between genuine affection and the overwhelming rush of love bombing in your relationships?

If you've ever felt swept off your feet by someone who seemed too perfect too soon, you might be dealing with love bombing—a tactic used in narcissistic relationships to manipulate and control.

In this episode, we break down how to identify love bombing and distinguish it from a healthy relationship, ensuring you're equipped to recognize and avoid getting sucked into narcissistic relationships.

In this episode you will:

• Learn to spot the red flags 🚩of love bombing early
• Discover a practical metaphor to differentiate between unhealthy and healthy relationship dynamics so you can retain this information easily
• Become familiar with the larger narcissistic abuse cycle that follows love bombing

▶️ Tune in now to uncover the truth about love bombing and take the first step towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

MENTIONED:

• Ep. 3: The Psychology of a Narcissist with Narcissism Expert James Marrugo: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heartbreak-to-wholeness/episodes/3--The-Psychology-of-a-Narcissist-with-Narcissism-Expert--James-Marrugo-MA--NCC--LPCC-e2aq589/a-aahf7uu
• Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombing

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse, as hosts share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safetyafter love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Is there fear that consumes you when you think about ending your relationship?

Going back and forth in your decision because of layers of fear you’re feeling is something my former client Laura Herrmann experienced before she divorced her ex husband. We talk about how she moved through it all and came into her knowing, as well as the inner child healing that allowed her to finally get her light (and her groove) back in her romantic and professional life.

In this episode, you will:

- Hear how Laura transcended her fear of leaving and rewrote her narrative around failure

- Understand the important difference between being alone vs being lonely

- See the power of inner child healing and how it enables Laura to now show up in a healthy relationship that is worlds different than what she’s ever experienced

Click play ▶️ for inspiration and tips on how to move through your fear and finally find yourself on the other side.

MENTIONED:

- Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

- Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)

- Navigate triggering moments without shutting down

- Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship

- Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🌻 ⁠Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

Have you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you’ve been through some sh*t?

Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, our 12-step work in an Adult Child of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) program, and how we finally learned to reparent our inner parts so that we could be able to experience healthy relationships.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

- The life experience that Tammy had which was the catalyst for her to dive into her generational trauma work

- What being a people-pleaser ACTUALLY means, and how to shift away from it

- Our top tips for women who are starting to acknowledge the depth of their trauma so you can move through it with grace

▶️ Tune in for a vulnerable conversation about trauma and how to take back control of the impacts it has on your life and ability to securely attach in relationships.

MENTIONED:

- Surviving Alcoholic Parents: A Teens Guide to Thriving in a World of Chaos by Tammy Vincent: https://www.tammyvincent.com/shop/p/surviving-alcoholic-parents

- Tammy’s website: http://www.tammyvincent.com , use code PODCAST for discounted 8-week course

- Relationship Reset Guide: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love

RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod

❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod

🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes

🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first

• https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)

In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.