Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I don’t know if I should stay, and I don’t know if I should go”? That painful in-between is called relationship ambivalence, and it can quietly drain years of your life if you don’t get clarity.

In this episode, I’m joined by relationship researcher Dr. Merideth Thompson, who knows that limbo all too well. After staying stuck for nearly a decade, she created Partner Lab, a research-based company focused on improving relationships as a cornerstone of overall wellness. Together we’ll explore what the science says about relationship health, the “Clarity Matrix” she developed to cut through the fog, and the real-life questions that matter most when deciding whether to stay or leave.

We also talk openly about staying “for the kids,” how familiar but unhealthy dynamics keep us hooked, and why actions, not words, show you whether your partner is really invested. Our goal isn’t to tell you whether to stay or go. It’s to give you the clarity and confidence to trust yourself again.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Should I Stay or Leave My Relationship?

01:43 Dr. Merideth Thompson’s Story and the Birth of Partner Lab

03:34 Research Insights on Relationship Health

09:51 The Clarity Matrix: Influence, Control, and Deal Breakers

14:06 Communication, Conflict Resolution, and Commitment

18:31 Discernment Counseling: Knowing If Change Is Possible

20:24 Actions Speak Louder Than Words in Relationships

28:02 Finding Clarity and Validation in Ambivalence

36:06 Parenting, Divorce, and Protecting Children

44:11 The Clarity Circle: Community and Support

Want more support as you practice these skills? My free Communication That Connects Training will give you tools to shift out of conflict loops and into deeper connection, along with a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear picture of what’s working and what needs care.

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xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self