Seeing Other People

On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more. 

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On this solo Q&A I answer listener questions about what makes a good date, rekindling an old situationship, being friends with an ex after ending on good terms, not hearing back from someone after telling them how you feel, what to do if you're always texting first, if they're still active on dating apps after telling you they like you, when to follow up, and how to know if you should stay or go. 

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On this episode, I sit down with Kelly McKenna (@sitwithkelly), a therapist for anxious millennials. We discuss the difference between overthinking and anxiety, how dating rules and games can make you more anxious, boundaries you should be setting, identifying the source of your anxiety, and in-the-moment tools for dealing with your dating anxiety. Kelly shares tips for communicating your anxieties to a new partner and supporting a partner with anxiety.

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Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping.

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On today’s episode I sit down with Kayla Moran, host of the Let’s Get Candid podcast. Kayla opens up about relationship and intimacy trauma, her relationship with sex and her body, and how her childhood and her relationship with her mother impacted her dating life.

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On this episode, I’m joined by @yourbreakupbestie Kendra Allen to discuss how to get through a breakup. Kendra walks us through the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup, if getting back together is ever a good idea, what to do if it’s been a while since the breakup but you still think about them, when and how to get back out there, if you should ever text your ex on their birthday, how to stop watching their Instagram stories, and everything in between.

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Keep yourself and your loved ones safe on your dates and in your daily lives. Head to invisaWear.com and use code seeingotherpeople for 10% off your order of jewelry and accessories that can help save your life, backed by ADT. 

Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping.

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TW: Sexual assault. On this Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares the story of the toxic relationship she didn’t realize she was in, despite all of the warning signs. We hear about gaslighting, manipulation, lying, and other unhealthy behaviors her partner brought to their relationship. We discuss why she was in denial of what was really happening, why she ignored the early red flags, what she wishes she would have done differently, and how she learned from this experience and moved forward to find a healthy relationship with a loving partner.

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On this episode, I sit down with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and founders of the Therapy Group. We hear about early red flags you can look out for to identify if someone might be toxic, manipulative, or abusive, how to realize you’re in an unhealthy situation, and how you can get out of it. We discuss why we want what we can’t have and push away what we can have, dating a narcissist, what to do if our friend is in a toxic situation and more. We close out the episode by hearing how to find the right kind of therapist for you and how to break up with a therapist who isn’t the right fit.

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On today’s episode, I sit down with a 27-year-old woman who recently went through a divorce from her high school sweetheart who she had been with for nine years. We hear about what her life was like before the divorce, why they got divorced, and what it’s been like getting out in the dating world for the first time as a 27-year-old divorcee.

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On this episode I sit down with Talia Goldstein, Founder and CEO of Three Day Rule Matchmaking. We discuss the biggest flaws in dating apps and modern dating, the most common mistakes daters are making, what questions you should be asking on dates, how to determine your dealbreakers vs. “nice to haves,” and whether or not you’re correct about your “type.” Talia shares how the matchmaking process works from getting to know you, to pre-screening dates, setting you up with people who are truly looking for something serious, post-date chats, and more.

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Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping.

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In this solo episode, I answer listener questions about ghosting, unfollowing, and taking things slow. At 15 minutes in, I open up about the constant pressure I feel to be at a certain place in my relationship and how social media leads us down a dangerous path of comparing ourselves to others, no matter what life stage we’re in. At 28 minutes I discuss the precautions you should take when considering dating a close friend. I share a past dating experience where I approached this situation in a way that I regret. I close out the episode with my thoughts on The Tinder Swindler and this week’s Bachelor episode.

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Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. 

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