Seeing Other People

On this week's Cohosts for Life episode, we're answering your dating questions and talking through some of the situations that come up when you’re getting to know someone. We get into everything from communication to overthinking to figuring out what actually matters early on. We also share your dating wins, from putting yourself out there to big relationship milestones.

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Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

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After years of dating, heartbreak, and learning what she truly needed in a partner, Jess shares how she finally met the man she hopes to marry at 42. From relationships that lacked communication, to staying too long in something that wasn’t right, to navigating health challenges and dating later in life — every chapter led her to a slow-burn connection through matchmaking.

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Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

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In this episode, I’m joined by Therapist and Secure Attachment Coach Trevor Hanson to breaks down what anxious attachment really looks like in dating—and why feeling “not enough” can quietly shape your relationships. We talk about self-sabotage, chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and how to shift from fear to security. If you’ve ever felt unlovable or stuck in patterns you can’t explain, this one will hit home.

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Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor

Website: The Art of Healing by Trevor

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This week we’re talking about Ilana’s half marathon experience and what the race actually felt like compared to training. We get into why running can be such a mental challenge and how expectations going in can shape the experience. Jake shares about his weekend at Mohegan Sun and we talk about gambling, risk, and why it can be so appealing. Ilana also shares her new focus on trying new things, from adult gymnastics to pottery and potentially learning how to sew. We wrap things up with a blind ranking of double date ideas and our thoughts on what actually makes them fun.

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

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TW: this episode includes discussion of body image and suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself and only listen if you feel safe doing so.

In this deeply honest episode, a returning anonymous guest opens up about living and dating with long-term body image struggles as a man. From childhood bullying to the realities of dating apps, he shares how external judgment has shaped his confidence, mental health, and romantic experiences. We talk about height bias, masculinity, gym culture, rejection, and the emotional toll of feeling “seen but not chosen.” 

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

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In today’s solo Q&A, I’m answering your real, messy, specific dating questions. We’re talking about red flags vs. anxiety, high standards, situationships, giving too many chances, and that weird feeling when your friends don’t like him. I also get into spark vs. stability and how to stop spiraling about your timeline. If you’ve ever wondered am I self-sabotaging or am I settling, you’ll want to listen.

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

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This week we’re sharing some of our relationship hot takes and debating a few modern dating questions couples don’t always agree on. We talk about things like whether it’s ever okay to look through your partner’s phone, sharing phone passwords, sharing locations, and whether having crushes on other people is normal. Then we play a blind ranking game where we rank different third date ideas without knowing what’s coming next

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A 36-year-old single woman shares the reality of modern dating: a year-long casual situationship, dating app fatigue, and the pressure of watching younger siblings get married while you’re still searching for your person. We talk about what it’s like designing engagement rings while being single, the aftermath of a toxic long-term relationship, and the unexpected lessons from group therapy. From manifestation lists for a future partner to the brutal honesty of speed dating, this conversation dives into what dating in your 30s actually feels like. 

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Misha Brown joins the podcast to talk about her book Be Your Own Bestie and the real work behind learning to like yourself. We discuss why being a good friend to others starts with being a good friend to yourself, the pressure to shrink ourselves, and how shame shapes the way we move through life. Misha shares her SaaS method for building confidence, the power of “dating yourself,” and why small daily acts of self-care can completely shift how you see yourself.

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week we’re back from Hawaii and immediately thrown into jet lag, daylight savings, and the reality of jumping straight back into work. We talk about how quickly vacation mode disappears once the Sunday scaries hit and real life starts again. We recap some of our favorite moments from the trip, including playing with baby animals and exploring fruit farms in Kauai. Ilana shares some big news and the complicated feelings that came with it, and we spiral into TikTok fame, influencer culture, AI, and what the future might look like.

ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)

Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.