That's Where I'm At

In this episode of the That's Where I'm At podcast, Laura is joined by Mireille Nicole where they talk about Taylor Swift's relationship with Travis Kelce. Laura aims to explore the lessons we can learn about being true to oneself, offering mutual support in a relationship, maintaining friendships alongside romance, modeling healthy partnerships, and navigating scrutiny in the public eye. They emphasize the importance of women sharing stories and supporting each other through difficult times in relationships and encourages us to do our inner work to strive for the kinds of connections we admire.

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Timestamps

[00:00:16] The negative impact of keeping secrets and the importance of sharing stories

[00:01:17] Nicole's passion for empowering women in relationships and dating

[00:02:05] Discussion on the public's reaction to Taylor Swift's relationship

[00:03:52] The pressure on Taylor Swift as a role model for young girls

[00:05:11] Nicole's comment on the importance of support in relationships

[00:05:33] Similarities in public perception and pressure on celebrity relationships

[00:06:18] Comparison of Joe Montana's relationship and public perception

[00:06:50] Discussion on the importance of support in toxic relationships

[00:07:47] Importance of maintaining friendships in healthy relationships

[00:10:12] Importance of having separate interests and friendships in relationships

[00:10:59] Importance of understanding and respecting differences in communication

[00:12:17] Different aspects of Taylor Swift's role model status

[00:13:09] Challenges of navigating a relationship in the public eye

[00:13:52] Importance of learning from positive relationship examples

[00:16:20] Why partners need to have conversations about Taylor Swift's presence in their relationship

Notable Quotes

• The more you can still maintain that friendship with the girls and still do things and still have those connections, that's going to be very healthy.
• Men are created differently. I feel like they can handle less than we can. I think women have a lot more words than men do.
• There's a whole aspect of the role model that Taylor Swift is being for women. There's a whole idea of the role model that the dads, Brads, and Chads, as she calls them, are for their daughters.
• There's a whole different, you know emotional response and biological response and you when you're sharing with your the women in your life too right so that's just going to bring just more richness and fullness to to your relationship at the same time so I love it."
• If we want what we see, if we're emulating that or if we dream of that, there, you know, sometimes there is work to be done and it can be done.

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In this episode, I sit down with Paige Dempsey, a feminist Dating and Relationship Coach for women. Paige is an expert at helping you get past what keeps you stuck in your old, familiar patterns and into something more authentic, empowered, and connected. Paige was certified by the Life Coach School and holds certifications in Advanced Deep Dive and Feminist Coaching. She loves to help women unlock feelings they tend to keep hidden and uncover a path forward, even when the path is unclear. Her mission is to help women feel better in their relationships with others and, most importantly, with themselves. Today, Paige shares her journey of personal growth and how she found her calling in coaching. We discuss the importance of self-love, setting boundaries, and embracing change. In the show, we also talk about the cultural phenomenon of Taylor Swift and the lessons we can learn from her journey. We touch on the importance of resilience, self-expression, and not letting others' opinions define us. Paige emphasizes the need to challenge the default thinking that something is wrong with us and encourages women to unhook from societal pressures and seek validation from within.

For these and many more insights, tune in and learn!

Timestamps

[00:00:27] Benefits of sharing stories and supporting women in difficult situations

[00:01:41] How Paige got into relationship coaching

[00:03:46] How to navigate the dating world

[00:06:06] Importance of defining goals and desires in relationships

[00:09:26] Challenging the default thinking of "what's wrong with me"

[00:10:41] The impact of societal pressure on women's self-worth

[00:13:46] Shifting from blaming to understanding one's responsibility in relationships

[00:15:36] The importance of self-love

[00:21:36] The need to challenge societal pressure on women to be quiet

[00:23:57] The power of listening and understanding others' perspectives

[00:26:44] The societal response to Taylor Swift and the benefits of challenging societal norms

[00:30:06] Benefits of aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions to create lasting change

[00:34:04] The need to trust oneself and take risks to grow and overcome fear

[00:39:16] The importance of self-trust and confidence

[00:41:48] The value of focusing on own goals

[00:44:21] The process of starting over and building new friendships in midlife

[00:46:58] The importance of embracing vulnerability in making new connections

Notable Quotes

• Keeping secrets will make you sick, and they always come to light in the end.
• As women, we're often told to be quiet. Don't share your story. Don't talk about the things we go through. It's making women sick, sad, and suicidal.
• I just really love helping women find a space not to feel crappy all of the time, or a lot of the time, or to sort of unhook some of those longstanding, challenging relationships or ways of doing business and say like, hey, there's this other way.
• Learning how to sort of unhook from this constant societal pressure women have to get approval at every turn and that, you know, somebody else's behavior means something about the state of your value or your worth, right, is just so important.
• Learning to unhook from this constant societal pressure, women have to get approval at every turn, and that somebody else's behavior means something about the state of your value or worth is so important.
• You have to kind of, you know, work your way up. Take a couple of detours. Neutralize. Yeah, things take a little bit to get to the other side. Yeah, I'm not living in that negativity all the time.
• If I could change one thing for women, it would be the very thing that you said, which is our default thinking is always what's wrong with me. There's something wrong with me. I'm like, there's nothing wrong with you.

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https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachpaige

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Tracey Vlahos a Certified Integrative Health Coach and Drugless Practitioner specializing in hormone health. She is also a fully recovered yo-yo dieter and former global executive & business coach for female business leaders. She suffered the consequences of an on-the-go, super-demanding career and finally walked away from all of it to focus on empowering women to be their best selves in their bodies & personal lives. After all, what are we without our health, vitality, and vibrance? She is a high-energy public speaker who empowers women with business, life and wellness skills. Tracey knows what it is like to be in a narcissistic, abusive relationship with two small kids. She details the emotional manipulation she endured, her struggles with emotional binge eating as a coping mechanism, and her eventual realization of the need for healthier means of dealing with the situation. Tracy underscores the vital role of surrounding oneself with positivity, such as uplifting music and empowering literature, in countering the negativity imposed by an abusive partner. She is here to share that you are NOT alone (nor crazy) and that there is life on the other side when you find the courage to create an exit strategy, as she likes to call it, to save yourself (and your family). You are worthy to take care of yourself and end the abusive manipulation!

Timestamps

[00:01:21] Tracy's experience with an abusive relationship

[00:03:38] Narcissism and abusive relationships

[00:04:06] How Tracy felt being silenced and not being able to share experiences

[00:05:43] Walking on eggshells and the constant fear of triggering an outburst

[00:08:49] How financial challenges hindered Tracy from leaving the abusive relationship

[00:10:05] The importance of mental strength and self-care in an abusive relationship

[00:11:03] The pattern of emotional manipulation

[00:12:53] The importance of feeding the mind with positivity and affirmations

[00:13:38] The manipulation tactics used by narcissists to control the narrative

[00:16:08] Coping mechanisms that Tracy employed

[00:18:03] The importance of feeding the mind with positive content

[00:21:20] The power of truth and the importance of standing in one's truth

[00:24:06] The importance of mental well-being and affirmations

[00:29:17] The impact of emotional eating and finding healthier coping mechanisms

[00:40:57] Taking responsibility in relationships

[00:45:35] Therapeutic benefits of making a list

[00:54:03] Personal growth and strength achieved by Tracy dealing with difficult situations

[01:03:21] Why it is essential to feed your mind

Notable Quotes

• Feeding what's on the end of your fork is essential, but what you're feeding your mind is so if someone gets you upset every day on social, It's okay.
• I would encourage everyone to speak the truth about yourself. Not when somebody is trying to feed you to believe. No. No, this is their illness, their sickness.
• I believe in and just become that well-being. Like I said, what's on the end of your fork but what you're feeding your mind and combining the two, right? Because we are so resilient. And I just want to be able to help so many women with that. So that is you, and you're listening, and you're hearing that please one, there's nothing wrong with you. Right? I want to say that. I understand, and there are ways you can reach me. I call them scooches.
• I felt like I had this out-of-body experience where I was screaming at the top of my lungs. Like in this match that is so out of character for me, and if I had this out-of-body experience, and I could look down on this, and I was mirroring him and his behavior, everything that I disliked.
• Truth prevails. Truth prevails. Yeah. People are coming to me almost a year to the day. This is a bullshit saying, Oh my gosh, Tracy. Last year, we thought all this because he said, and I remember saying, you got to stand in your power. Wow. The truth will prevail. So I will say to anybody out there, it's harder than heck. What I just said, it is done. So please hear me.
• What is on the end of your fork is important to your health and well-being on a cellular level, but what you feed your mind is more important than what you're listening to, reading, and watching. And I, again, this was on TV. We didn't have laptops to watch or whatever.

RESOURCES:

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Samara Boss, a certified holistic health coach, AADP, who takes a scientific evidence-based approach to alcohol recovery. After battling alcohol use disorder for over 25 years, Samara found complete and total freedom from addiction through a little-known treatment called the Sinclair Method that uses neuroscience to reverse the habit at the root level, which is in the brain. Samara's story caught national attention when she was featured in the book Living Abundantly (2021) by author James Malenchak, known for his role on ABC's hit show, "Secret Millionaire." Samara is a Sinclair Method Success Story and is a Certified TSM coach on two online platforms: The C3 Foundation and The Alcohol Freedom Program, brought to you by THRIVE. Samara is a freedom fighter on a mission to help others be set FREE from the chains of alcohol, leading them to transform their lives in the process! Samara lives in Florida and practices a wellness-oriented lifestyle! She enjoys taking her dog on adventure walks at the beach and evenings at the park. Join the conversation and learn more about the lesser-known but highly effective treatment for AUD! Timestamps

[00:01:21] Samara's Background and Holistic Health Coaching

[00:02:14] The Role of Faith and Intuition in Recovery

[00:03:09] Understanding the Voices in Our Heads

[00:04:08] Samara's Journey with Alcohol Use Disorder

[00:05:38] The Science of Neuroplasticity and Addiction

[00:10:54] The Traditional Recovery Approach and Its Shortcomings

[00:13:03] Signs of Alcohol Use Disorder

[00:14:43] The Stigma and Challenges of Addressing AUD

[00:18:39] The TED Talk That Changed Samara's Approach

[00:22:16] The Process of Using Medication in the Sinclair Method

[00:25:38] The Importance of Compliance with Medication

[00:28:45] The Benefits of Journaling for Healing

[00:31:30] The Controversy of Drinking While on Medication

[00:33:09] The Sinclair Method's Compatibility with Traditional Recovery

[00:38:11] The Misconceptions and Ineffective Prescriptions

[00:40:44] The Role of Family and Community in Recovery

[00:42:56] Samara's Transition to Coaching

[00:44:29] The Transformative Effects of the Sinclair Method

[00:48:07] The Importance of Options in Recovery

[00:50:24] The Need for Open-Mindedness in Recovery Approaches

[00:52:58] The Importance of Support in Recovery

Notable Quotes

• I believe our intuition is God's voice telling and guiding us on what to do. I've been tuning into my intuition more lately, and its practice makes perfect. Yes. The more you practice, the better you get at it. So yeah.
• I binged for about seven years. Then I noticed that I was developing dependence and what happens, and this is how you kind of know that you have AUD. If you feel like you've been hijacked by the substance, like if you kind of wake up in the morning and you're thinking about drinking, when are you gonna have a drink? And what are you going to drink today? And how are you going to make the drink.
• It takes a few months. It's not a quick fix or instant kind of thing, but if you give it the time that it needs, you stay committed to taking that medication. So that's the critical part. Complete 100% compliance to taking that medication before you're going to drink. Okay, right now or before you're going to drink. And if you do that over time, you will heal the brain.
• Almost everyone knows either a family member, a loved one, a close friend, or a friend who is struggling with alcohol. Almost everybody that I talk to has somebody in their life. So this isn't every family problem. And it's getting worse. So, the number of people with alcohol use disorder after COVID is 28 million that were reported in a year. So, 28 million were reported in a year. I think it was 2021 when they did the last report. And the number before COVID was 14 million people with AUD adults with AUD in the country. And now it's 28 million. So I'll let you figure out what the difference in the number.

RESOURCES:

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PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING WITH C3 FOUNDATION https://yoursinclairmethod.com/coaches/samaraibanez THRIVE ALCOHOL RECOVERY: A private members-only platform, community & app: Treat AUD discreetly from the comfort of your home using naltrexone and the Sinclair Method. https://www.thrivealcoholrecovery.com/a/2147503462/fK9qmzja CONTACT: Samara: [email protected] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samarabosscoaching TEDX TALK: HOW I OVERCAME ALCOHOLISM BY CLAUDIA CHRISTIAN https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts EVIDENCE-BASED RESEARCH AND EFFICACY OF THE SINCLAIR METHOD https://cthreefoundation.org Documentary, "One Little Pill" by Claudia Christian: Showcases real-life experiences with naltrexone and The Sinclair Method. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIxHscTIkpM&authuser=0

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Christina Hernandez, a single white female (with a sense of humor). Former wife, stay-at-home-mom, and homeschooler. Presently single, empty nester, grandmother, and wanna be homesteader. Christina's life and goals have completely taken a 180 in the last decade. She is at a place she never thought she would be when she thought of her future. Christina is also very proud of where she is and what she has accomplished, considering they were not her plans. She believes she has pivoted very well, but still harbors resentment. Christina considers herself a contradiction of pain and joy, anxiety and peace, faith and free will, and fulfillment and discontent. She shares her story of navigating a challenging marriage, finding strength in her faith, and starting over in a new state.

Join Laura and Chris as they discuss the contradictions, pain, and joy of rebuilding a life, and discovering a new sense of self.

Timestamps

[00:22] Christina's background and current life situation

[01:49] How Christina's life has changed in the past decade

[02:45] Christina's relationship before the dissolution of her marriage

[03:00] Unexpected pregnancy in college and her uncertainty about her future

[04:09] Christina's reflection on childhood, parental divorce, and stepfather's impact

[04:35] How Christina met her husband and the initial attraction she felt towards him.

[06:25] The challenges faced in trying to have a baby and their decision to get married [10:23] Signs of issues noticed by Christina in her marriage

[11:13] Ways in which Christina may have abandoned herself in the relationship

[15:21] Things that Christina did to express herself without causing conflict in the relationship

[17:03] Why Christina decided to dissolve her marriage

[21:31] Christina's journey towards self-sufficiency

[25:25] Christina's journey standing for her marriage and acceptance of the irreversible reality

[30:33] The role of faith in Christina's healing process

[37:46] Starting over and reinventing after divorce

[42:59] Christina's current situation

[48:39] Acts of kindness Christina received from others during their journey

[53:19] The impact of Christina's marriage on her youth and dreams

Notable Quotes

• I had no idea what my life looked like. But I knew what I wanted. I wanted the picket fence, the perfect home, the perfect husband, the perfect family.
• My faith was never stronger than when I was going through this. It was never me to do so. Close to God, and I don't even say close like I pray for this now, and it's funny because I mean, I was so dependent, just for every breath I took just to be able to function, just to be able to whatever. And I mean, my longing and my desire for God in my life at that time, because otherwise I was gonna die.
• I just needed to be anonymous. I just wanted to go somewhere where nobody knew me. Nobody knew my history. Nobody knew anything about your story. And yeah, and I didn't have to hear about the sightings and the gossip and or even witness it, you know, just the stuff I was dealing with all the time. I was like, I just don't want this anymore.
• I wanted to fight for my marriage, but there was always this part of me that knew there was no going back.
• I just felt like I needed a clean slate. Yeah, I had already left my church. We talked about that, that I just, um, and I love my church dearly. And I am so grateful for all the support I had, how wonderful everyone was, and how they rallied around me.
• You know, here's what's funny, though, Laura, I said, Now I can be myself again. I can, you know, be the true authentic self that I hid under a bushel for all these years. Yeah. But you know what? She's never come back. She's not coming back. She's gone.

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Beyond Affairs: https://www.beyondaffairs.com Rejoice Marriage Ministries: https://rejoiceministries.org

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In this episode, Laura opens up about her journey of healing after leaving an abusive marriage with a narcissist. Tackling the topic of secondary gaslighting, Laura shares her experiences of not being believed when trying to disclose the abuse to friends and family. She explores the challenges survivors face, including the trauma bond and the incremental nature of narcissistic abuse. Laura emphasizes the importance of understanding complex PTSD and seeking professional help from those trained in the field.

Join Laura as she encourages women to speak up, share their stories, and support each other on the healing journey!

Timestamps

[01:06] What Laura has been experiencing since leaving her marriage

[02:26] What secondary gaslighting entails

[02:54] How secondary gaslighting comes about

[03:43] How someone finds themselves in the trauma bond

[04:45] What helped Laura with her moving forward and her healing

[06:30] Why The National Domestic Violence Hotline advises against couples therapy

[07:50] How some professionals may gaslight you

[08:35] Two things Laura considered at the end of her marriage

Notable Quotes

• Secondary gaslighting is when victims of narcissistic abuse try to tell family or friends what happened, and then they're not believed. They can say things like, I know them, they would never do anything like that. Are you sure that's what happened to you? Now, do you believe that's what happened? Or is that just your perception? Another thing that can happen is secondary gaslighting is treating victims like it was just a bad marriage, a bad match, or a bad breakup.
• The thing about narcissistic abuse is that it is so incremental that you hardly even know it's happening. The abuse is so minimal. Well, it's not minimal, but the abuse is so incremental that it is just almost not known. And then when people don't believe you, it's hard to explain. Then you get into the trauma bond.
• All abusers have issues with their sense of entitlement, their need for control, and their stunning lack of empathy. Rather than focusing on the victim, it's time for society to wake up to the abusive nature of their perpetrators.

Resources

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Psych Central: https://psychcentral.com/

Richard Grannon: https://www.youtube.com/@RICHARDGRANNON

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Amanda, a wife, stay-at-home mama, and former cult member. Although it took years, she has found healing and understanding of the "why" and "how" this could happen to someone like her. She aims to help others avoid her path and know there is hope if they're ON it. In this episode, Amanda shares her story and journey of healing. She discusses her experiences with domestic violence, emotional abuse, church hurt, and infidelity in marriage. She offers insights into the reasons behind her involvement in the cult and how she found healing and understanding. Through her story, Amanda aims to help others avoid similar paths and find hope in their situations. She emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and well-being, highlighting the negative impact of constantly being blamed for someone else's actions.

Listen to Amanda's captivating journey and learn from her resilience and growth.

Timestamps

[00:01:10] Amanda's story

[00:04:07] Losing friends and church community

[00:07:49] Moving from Catholicism to a more engaging, uplifting church atmosphere

[00:14:10] Realizing the allure of belonging and structure, joining a controlling church, and gradual awareness of its impact

[00:16:06] Persecution and finding purpose

[00:21:25] Isolation and breaking ties

[00:24:18] Restricted freedom and isolation

[00:28:39] Frustration with spiritual mentorship

[00:31:46] Losing sense of self

[00:36:00] Disciples' decisions to move

[00:40:11] Freedom in spiritual submission

[00:46:02] Systemic abuses within the church

[00:49:08] Holy gossip and transparency

[00:52:11] Rebuilding Relationships After Leaving

[00:56:32] Holding onto past mistakes

[01:00:47] Marriage struggles and counseling

[01:13:29] Cardboard testimonies

[01:22:37] Considering leaving the marriage

[01:25:09] Abuse and staying in relationships

[01:30:44] Unexpected encounters and a twist of fate that lead to a surprising and joyful love story

[01:34:30] Dealing with infertility and miscarriage

[01:39:07] Boundaries and Safe People

[01:41:05] Toxic churches and what that looks like

Notable Quotes

• It's so much easier than you think to end up in a controlling situation, whether that's a religious situation, a marriage, or a toxic friendship.
• Many times, you don't realize it until you reach that point where you're more uncomfortable with what you're going through than the comfort you're getting from the situation.
• I want people to know that this could happen to you, too. It's really easy.
• I was not a stupid person. I graduated from the best high school in the city with honors. Like, I'm not dumb. That's not what it was. It filled a need for me."You may want to try those things out and whatever they look like.
• Lots of little compromises over time result in you not even knowing who you are anymore.
• I felt like I wasn't worth staying for. I had a lot of health issues. I still do. But they were unknown at that point.
• You're getting something out of it, too. That's why we stay in unhealthy situations.
• Sometimes, it's that we're scared of what we would have to do if we left, and that's still what we're getting out of it.

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Cult Resources: http://www.reveal.org

https://icoc-icclawsuits.com

https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model

https://thecultishshow.com/new-page

https://culteducation.com/warningsigns.html

Domestic Violence Resources https://www.thehotline.org

https://ncadv.org/get-help

https://nnedv.org/content/red-flags-of-abuse

Connect with Amanda's through her website: https://busymamadesigns.com

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Ember Lynn, who is passionate about helping others live life with their soul on fire. She is a coach/mentor who helps her clients discover who they are and what they are passionate about. Ember holds space and guides them through the healing process so they return to themselves and finally release what doesn't serve them. She is passionate about helping others find more pleasure in their daily life, do what they love, and create a life they can thrive in. Ember has a master's degree in professional counseling, is certified in Somatic Breathwork, Beliefetics, and Soul Modes, and has completed advanced coursework in hypnotherapy. She is a mom to a beautiful 18-year-old daughter whom she loves more than anything. Ember has recently overcome a cancer diagnosis her way, which further inspired her to help others find their power and remember they are the CEO of their life. She is a coach and a wellness entrepreneur. Her message to everyone is that you have everything you need inside of you to make your dreams a reality. You just have to go for it!

Ember shares her journey of overcoming trauma, abuse, and mental health issues and explains how she discovered the power of coaching and personal development in her healing process. She encourages listeners to take charge of their lives, reminding them they have everything they need to turn their dreams into reality.

Tune in now and learn!

Timestamps

[03:35] Ember's journey of overcoming trauma and its lasting impact

[04:12] The importance of finding one's passion and dreams

[09:43] Ember's childhood experiences of trauma, abuse, and struggling to find her identity and goals

[10:54] Understanding oneself for the first time

[12:40] Rediscovering ourselves

[15:38 ] The transition from traditional psychotherapy to coaching and personal development work

[17:32] The RRT tapping method and its transformative impact on Ember's life

[20:47] Clearing emotional lenses and transformation

[23:29] Embracing inner work for healing and transformation

[25:54] Linking emotions and physical sensations, a vital aspect of mindful awareness

[26:42] Different ways to heal

[28:00] The ripple effect of doing inner work

[30:37] Personal healing's influence on child relationships and modeling self-growth

[35:30] Ember's cancer journey

[45:10] Understanding and learning to process emotions

[49:40] Bringing pleasure into everyday life

[54:03] Normalizing experiences that are often deemed embarrassing

[56:08] Navigating vulnerability by sharing selectively to gauge reactions and find safe spaces

Notable Quotes

• You have everything you need inside of you to make your dreams a reality.
• We all have the power to change our lives; we just have to go for it.
• When you heal your emotions, you show up differently, and people respond to you differently.
• Healing is a journey, and every day, you're moving forward, even if it feels like you're backtracking.
• Winners quit because they're not afraid to try new things and find what truly lights their souls on fire.
• Feeling and healing is the key to releasing negative emotions and finding true positivity.
• Your body holds onto trauma, but through emotional work, you can clear the lens and see more clearly.
• Healing is not a 50-year process. It's about meeting yourself where you are and taking small steps forward.
• Doing the work allows you to show up more authentically and have more meaningful relationships.
• You have the power to heal and create a life that brings you joy and fulfillment.

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https://emberlynn.as.me

https://emberlynn.thrivecart.com/unleashed

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Heather Speakman, a busy mom of four passionate about sharing her stories of healing and growth. She hopes sharing her struggles will help others feel seen and heard. Heather shares people's stories of bravery on her podcast from Broken to Brave. She recently separated from her husband of 18 years. She believes that even in the pain, there is beauty to come from the ashes. Laura and Heather dive into the complexities of their lives, discussing past relationships, early marriages, and the unimaginable loss of a child. Heather further shares the importance of finding happiness within oneself, especially during challenging times. Reflecting on her journey through divorce, she emphasizes the significance of self-accountability, recounting conversations with her therapist and daughter, Tristan. She bravely opens up about her journey towards self-love and emphasizes the importance of internal validation over seeking external approval. They discuss the power of vulnerability, the impacts of past experiences on relationships, and the significance of acknowledging and learning from one's own story.

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Timestamps

[00:02:46] Heather's background

[00:09:56] Heather's life-shaping relationships and family dynamics

[00:16:09] The challenges of divorcing and the difficulty of reconciling the good times

[00:17:55] The complexities of grieving individually and as a couple

[00:26:37] The importance of making one's own choices in life

[00:28:09] Reinventing ourselves and moving forward.

[00:30:08] The challenges of being in a relationship where one feels restricted [00:34:43] Journaling for personal growth

[00:41:59] The importance of apologizing for past actions and being genuinely honest

[00:44:49] Heather's experience with dating apps and engaging in dating activities after leaving her marriage

[00:47:16] Opportunities for healing through honest apologies and discussions with adult children

[00:51:58] Emotional intelligence and self-awareness

[00:56:55] The importance of vulnerability and honest communication

[01:00:07] The healing power of expressing gratitude and vulnerability in relationships

[01:00:45] EEG brain-training protocol for personal and family healing, growth, and neuropathway development.

[01:07:31] The importance of remembering the negative aspects of the past

[01:10:56] The importance of valuing oneself

Notable Quotes

• It was always difficult because we were always on this healing path. Right. But we could never line it up.
• If you're not working with somebody to tell you where the issues are, you'll never know why it affected you the way it did. We don't make choices in a vacuum. We were taught how to make them.
• Nobody can save you but you.
• It's okay to talk to other people and all those things, but I think in the end, we do not have to ask the opinion of everyone all the time.

RESOURCES:

FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

AMAZON JOURNALS STORE: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

From Broken To Brave Podcast with Heather Speakman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-broken-to-brave-podcast/id1614102331

From Broken To Brave Podcast with Heather Speakman: https://open.spotify.com/show/4hWExRdNaZajrZyxb729zQ?si=7kQvM1lHSLOWqkJnhzhrxA

Save A Warrior Program: https://saveawarrior.org

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Kristin Chevry, a 53-year-old woman who has some life under her belt. She is excited to share some of her life experiences with you. She is happily married to Roody Chevry, and together, they have a blended family of 4 adult kids and six grandkids. Kristin grew up in South Boston and moved to Las Vegas in 1991 at 21 with her first husband, Tom. They married in 1995, with her son being born in 1997 and her daughter in 1999. Kristin has worked in the Salon and Spa industry for over 30 years, mostly with Aveda. She works as an Aveda Spa Educator and is working on opening her own Salon and Spa with her family. In 2020, she and her husband, Roody, moved to Florida to be closer to family. She enjoys cooking for her family and friends. Cooking with organic food is one of her passions. She educates people on eating clean food in her Facebook group, At Home With Kristin.

Together, they delve into her remarkable life story and journey of self-discovery and healing. Kristin bravely shares her background and the emotional encounter that led her to reconnect with her father after years of searching. The conversation also touches on Kristin recounting the events before and after meeting her first husband, reflecting on the signs she had ignored in that relationship and the subsequent challenges and toxicity she endured. The discussion delves into her journey of healing from emotional abuse and finding love again, emphasizing the importance of personal responsibility and setting boundaries in relationships.

Tune in now and learn!

Timestamps

[01:07] Kristin's background

[03:08] Kristin's life story

[04:01] The emotional journey leading to Kristin's meeting with her father after years of searching

[07:18] What transpired before and after Kristin met her first husband

[10:22] Signs that Kristin ignored in her first marriage

[13:50] The challenges and toxicity in Kristin's first marriage

[18:18] Healing after divorce, pursuing a nurturing relationship, and overcoming past insecurities

[20:37] Embracing Independence After Leaving a Challenging Relationship

[26:42] The transformative impact of apologizing to grown children on mental health and relationships

[29:24] Kristin's evolution from self-abandonment to self-empowerment

[02:46] Kristin's journey of healing from emotional abuse and finding love again

[41:03] Understanding personal responsibility and setting boundaries in relationships

[43:13] Embracing vulnerability and learning to set boundaries

[47:07] The Role of Friends and Food in Kristen's Healing Journey

Notable Quotes

• I make some really poor choices. Absolutely. But, you know, I've grown from all of those experiences and have learned in my life that those choices that I've made don't define me but that I can grow from them.
• You know, everything has a time. There's no right or wrong to that, Laura. Some women might say, Hey, it took me 40, 50 years, 60 years before I realized what I was in, and it would no longer work for me. I just don't think that there's a wrong or right. I just feel that we reached that point in our lives.
• It's important to keep that space safe when somebody's being vulnerable with you or sharing a part of what is in them.
• Life is a journey of constantly learning and growing. You know, we, we, uh, so I'm always ready to learn, and I'm never at that point of perfection, you know, but just always striving to, to learn more and to look at things differently and, and to adventure into new arenas and step outside my comfort zone.
• Life isn't just one journey; you can reinvent yourself, and that's a thing that happens. If you don't like what's happening, change the narrative.

Resources

FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

AMAZON JOURNALS STORE: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

At Home with Kristin Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/210558534448415

Kristin's Shop: my.doterra.com/kristinchevry

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