That's Where I'm At

In this episode, Laura is joined by Marina Fowlkes, a stay-at-home mom of three who has been happily married for 14 years. She runs her ministry "Sons & Daughters" from home while homeschooling her children. Marina talks to children about the importance of living holistically and empowers them with Biblical principles. With her husband, they ran group homes for four years through a parenting agency, and her husband is a youth detention officer helping young boys transition back into society. Marina dreams of hosting children's conferences on her campgrounds while training families through her curriculum and book in churches, schools, and group homes. Today, the mother of three shares her story of restoring her marriage after being on the brink of divorce. She opens up about the challenges and lessons she learned throughout her journey. They further explore the complexities of marriage and the power of resilience.

Join the conversation now and be inspired.

Timestamps

[01:08] Marina's background

[02:46 The importance of sharing one's personal story

[06:38] How Lack of communication about past experiences affected Marina's marriage

[08:33] Marina's discovery of a message on her husband's phone before their wedding

[17:56] The internal struggle and emotional conflict experienced by Marina

[19:18] Marina's anger towards her husband and the resentment

[28:22] The importance of trying different approaches toward solving challenges in life

[31:43] The importance of seeking divine guidance and intervention in relationships

[32:52] The power of resisting negative responses, embracing obedience to spiritual guidance

[36:28] The challenge of reconciling one's true self with external influences

[38:58] The impact of staying, praying, and supporting one another through healing and counseling

[44:13] The value of sharing personal struggles and finding support during the healing journey

[47:13] The emotional struggle and unspoken pain experienced during a miscarriage

Notable Quotes

• If you take care of yourself first, you care for others.
• Marry somebody who has your vision or that will partner with you or support your vision.
• The younger you are, the more naive you are.
• It's okay to fight in front of your kids, but fight fair and then teach them how to fight.
• Let him come in, let him say the things he says, but ask the Holy Spirit for help. Ask God to intervene. And He will, he will fight for you. He will go before you.
• Let the Holy Spirit fight for you and go before you.
• Stay and pray, even in the midst of hurt and anger.
• You need to go through healing. You need to see right where those places of trauma happened or what you were introduced to at such a young age because that does matter and it'll surface and it'll affect the people around you.
• If you want to make a change, there's a lot. There's sometimes there's work to be done.

Resources

Follow the podcast at: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

Amazon journals store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Sons And Daughters Website: http://sonsanddaughters.org

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In this episode, Laura is joined by her friend Becky, a Las Vegas native, twice divorced, a Marketing Coordinator at a strip casino, a Vegas Golden Knights and Cowboys fan, and a fur mom to one dog and three cats. Becky shares her journey through two divorces and takes us on a rollercoaster of emotions, reflecting on her first marriage that ended due to infidelity and fertility struggles. She discusses how she coped with the breakup and leaned on her friends for support. Becky dives into her second marriage, where she unknowingly married a narcissist, and shares the early red flags she missed, like his secrecy around his phone and messaging other women. Despite the warning signs, their wedding was a unique and unforgettable event. She reflects on the challenges of taking her husband back after their initial separation, only to face more betrayal and pain.

Are you navigating the complexities of relationships and divorce? Tune now for an inspirational journey towards healing!

Timestamps

[01:10] Becky's story

[05:25] How Becky coped with the failure in her marriage

[06:49] The importance of forgiveness in healing after a challenging relationship

[11:52] Signs that Becky missed when she started dating again

[13:02] How someone can be swept off their feet by a partner

[17:28] How Becky spotted her husband's behavior shift and their subsequent fall-out

[21:34] Red flags ignored by Becky and in her relationship

[23:15] Becky's choice to reconcile with her partner and the resulting experience

[25:07] Becky's emotions and thoughts regarding her decision to rekindle a relationship

[29:37] Tips to help people dealing with divorce and relationship challenges

[32:20] Benefits of balanced, trusting friendships and active social engagement for personal healing and growth.

Notable Quotes

• Have someone in your life that you can talk to that has no preconceived notions or ideas of your situation.
• You do need friends, but you need trusted friends. And I say trusted friends because not everybody is your friend. But you need those friends to get you through those times to talk you off that ledge.
• Find something to boost your confidence. It's going to push you out of your comfort zone but, at the same time, help you reach your goals.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Healing From Emotional Abuse Resources: https://marissafayecohen.com

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Eboni, a mom of four, a certified life coach, and a resilient business owner who has walked the path of divorce, endured abuse, and faced the daunting task of starting her life over as a single mom. She has made it her mission to empower and uplift other women who find themselves in similar circumstances by sharing her journey, struggles, and triumphs. She believes that no matter what you've been through, you have the strength within to heal, thrive, and create a life filled with joy, purpose, and abundance. Eboni shares her journey, discussing the red flags she ignored early in her relationship, her struggle with imposter syndrome, and the impact of abuse on her business and personal life and emphasizes the importance of sharing our stories to help others who may be struggling in silence.

Tune in to discover how Eboni found the strength to overcome adversity and empower other women.

Timestamps

[01:07] Eboni's journey background

[02:41] How Eboni got to the point of wanting a divorce

[04:17] Eboni's past experiences and how they interpreted certain events

[07:03] Reflecting on past choices and their influence

[08:29] Signs that Eboni ignored in the past

[11:52] Eboni's changes and the impact on the business

[13:06] Dealing with Imposter Syndrome

[15:02] Why Eboni was not ready to share her challenges

[16:21] Challenges of seeking help and dealing with pride in difficult situations

[19:14] Overcoming obstacles when seeking help and recognizing emotional abuse warning signs

[22:43] Eboni's steps toward healing after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship

[26:17] Joining Celebrate Recovery to aid in the healing journey

[31:02] Eboni's journey to healing after escaping emotional abuse

Eboni is a mom of four, a certified life coach and a resilient business owner who has walked the path of divorce, endured abuse and faced the daunting task of starting her life over as a single mom. She has made it her mission to empower and uplift other women who find themselves in similar circumstances by sharing her own personal journey, her struggles, and triumphs. She believes that no matter what you've been through you have the strength within to heal, thrive and create a life filled with joy, purpose and abundance.

Notable Quotes

• I never just gave myself the time to process anything. Like, it was stuff that he did to me. Like, I never cry. I didn't, I wasn't angry. It was as if I didn't have any emotions.
• I didn't rest. I didn't allow myself to feel the feelings. I just kept on going. Right. I kept on going in the midst of everything. I kept on showing up; I kept on doing my business. I kept going to all the games, my kids' games. I kept on volunteering at the schools. I kept on doing all these things. But even that was because, again, even being a workaholic, it was a way for me to cope.
• I think sometimes, we stay in situations because what we have is like, it cannot even be a lot. But it's like, this is a, at least, I would have this thing like, well, at least I have a husband. At least I'm still married.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Eboni's information: https://linktr.ee/coachmommymogul

https://www.celebraterecovery.com

https://nevadalegalservices.org

https://www.lacsn.org

https://www.familylawselfhelpcenter.org

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In this episode, Laura shares an intimate and heartfelt conversation with her guest Karen Murdoch, who opens up about her journey through widowhood after her husband's long battle with chronic pain and subsequent passing 15 years ago. They discuss the challenges of being a caregiver, the emotional toll of watching a loved one suffer, and the complex emotions that come with grief and relief.

Karen shares her journey of coping with the loss of her first husband, Dan, her eventual remarriage, and how she navigated the complexities of honoring her past while building a new life. She emphasizes the importance of seeking support, both professionally and from friends, and highlights the significance of self-care and nutrition during difficult times.

Tune in to discover guidance and inspiration for your journey.

Timestamps

[02:35] Karen's journey to widowhood

[05:57] The overwhelming impact of her husband's persistent pain

[08:56] The challenging caregiving role undertaken by Karen for her spouse

[10:50] Challenges with people not understanding the key issue with Karen's spouse

[15:15] Challenges in discussing caregiving emotions and limits

[20:26] Karen's journey after the death of her husband

[22:53] Coping with loss through sharing memories with friends and joining a grief share class for support.

[26:21] Balancing advice and listening when discussing grief with friends

[27:37] Things undertaken by Karen to help herself with the healing process

[30:45] How Karen met his new husband, John

[39:31] Tips for coping with caregiving and grief challenges

[42:00] Significance of respite care in supporting parents and caregivers

Notable Quotes

• I heard that in Divorce Care, it was the same thing. They're like, wait to date before a year anniversary. Things like that, you know? Yeah. It's an arbitrary number. Like, where do we get this? The overall intent of that is a good thing. Yeah. But everybody's situation is different. Everybody is. You have to think about it.
• Knowing what you know now, you may have done some things differently, but it was always reinforced. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time.
• I would agree that nutrition is super, super important. Yeah. And taking that self-care time for yourself. If it's like going for a walk. Yeah. Like, it doesn't need to be far, it doesn't need to be long. Yeah. But take a half-hour walk around your neighborhood, get out in the fresh air, and have that time to yourself. Make sure that you build those boundaries in your life. You might be a caregiver, but you do need time for yourself. And on top of that, get respite care.
• The one piece of advice I would give to a friend of a widow or someone who has lost someone they love, let them talk about that person. And you talk about that person too. Yes. Share your memories because your memory with that person who's gone on is not known.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Family and Community Support Services: https://fcssaa.org

Karen's Website: https://www.workwithkarenmurdoch.com/yes

Government of Canada Resources: https://www.cic.gc.ca/english/helpcentre/results-by-topic.asp?top=28

The Canadian Pain Society: https://www.canadianpainsociety.ca

Grief Resources: https://www.griefshare.org

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Marissa F. Cohen, the Founder of the Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy™, 6x best-selling and award-winning author, top podcaster, and international speaker. She received the 2023 Purple Ribbon Award from DomesticShelters.org as Survivor of the Year! She was named Top 10 Most Inspirational Female Entrepreneur on International Women's Day and shared a stage with Jack Canfield, Joe Theismann, and James Malinchak. Marissa's award-winning Podcast, Healing From Emotional Abuse, has ranked Top 10% Globally and is a Top Podcast in 25 countries. Marissa's interactive presentations focus on healthy relationships, setting boundaries, and how to be a proactive student leader and advocate for your peers.

Today, she shares her journey of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship that started during college. They discuss the phases of abuse, and Marissa emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags, setting boundaries, and understanding the impact of abuse on the brain's neurological responses. They further discuss the impact of abuse on mental health and share valuable insights and tips for recovery. Marissa emphasizes the importance of speaking about abuse, finding validation, and connecting with others who have had similar experiences.

Tune in, learn, and get inspired!

Timestamps

[00:55] Marissa's background

[02:04] Some of the things that Marissa talks about

[03:59] Marissa's story

[09:05] Some of the red flags that people should look out for in a relationship

[15:42] The three phases of abuse

[20:06] Ways that Marissa feels like she abandoned her real self

[22:31] Why a lot of people gain weight when they leave an abusive relationship

[23:48] Some of the things that Marissa did to abandon herself

[30:34] Some of the little things that translate to abuse

[31:25] The best time to leave an abusive relationship

[36:36] Tips to help you deal with mental health

[38:13] How journaling can be a good tool for emotional healing

Notable Quotes

• When people start def not defending, I'm sorry, uh, accusing you of cheating. Yes. It's usually because they're cheating. Right. They're projecting that on you. They want to make you feel like you are doing something wrong, which then discredits you and justifies your behavior.
• Biologically and neurologically, we change. Our whole body changes from abuse. Our brain will start shooting off dopamine at the wrong times. So we experience joy when we are in conflict.
• People will oftentimes, especially after a sexual assault, make the choice to look differently. They'll start to binge eat because they think they're unattractive or less attractive, which I'm not fat shaming at all. But, like psychology, if you feel like you're less attractive, you are less likely to be targeted again. And that's honestly just not the case because all of these things are not about sexual fulfillment or love. It's about power and control, both scenarios.
• So I don't think there's one clear-cut, aha moment for people to say, okay, now it's time to get out. When you start to see those patterns, abuse is just a pattern of these behaviors. Okay. It's a pattern of abuse, like moments of control and power. And so when you see it and finally recognize it, that's the time to leave.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

www.MarissaFayeCohen.com

www.HealWithMarissa.com

PublishWithMarissa.com

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In this episode, Laura is joined by Dr. Tony Robinson, a prolific strategist, and advisor with a proven track record in serving and training executives, business leaders, and entrepreneurs to hear God's voice for prophetic strategies and solutions for their businesses. From start-ups to multimillion-dollar companies, She has mentored and advised faith-based leaders across the globe on how to activate God's assignment over themselves and their organizations. ​Tony is no stranger to what she calls "dream disruptions," navigating through life's many transitions and challenges, including the sudden and devastating loss of her husband of 25 years.

In the space of these disruptions, she learned to partner with God courageously and walk in His dreams for her life. ​Having learned firsthand what it means to "dream another dream," she has successfully built what was once unimaginable. Now, as a dynamic dream catalyst, she passionately teaches and encourages others to achieve their God-sized dreams with Him. Today, Tony shares her path from navigating immense challenges to partnering with God in her healing journey. We also discuss the importance of grieving authentically, leaning into faith during difficult times, and embracing rediscovering one's identity.

Are you looking to explore vulnerability's far-reaching impact and the rewards of embracing authenticity? Tune in now!

Timestamps

[01:08] Dr. Tony's story

[04:34] Dr. Tony's journey of processing and healing after the loss of her husband

[07:23] Navigating emotions and allowing healing in the grieving process

[12:13] Seeking solace in the divine presence, allowing emotional experiences

[15:03] Embracing a transformative journey from pain to purpose

[18:47] Navigating a journey of self-discovery and embracing authenticity

[22:29] Recognizing the importance of openness and obedience to God's guidance

[24:01] Navigating ministry changes and renewal amid challenges and setbacks

[27:32] Fostering sisterhood through retreats and transforming pain into growth

[31:46] Empowering widows through a retreat, fostering connections, and restoring hope

[37:10] Embracing the call to move forward and find purpose beyond the pain

[45:09] Embracing small steps toward healing and purpose

[53:33] Handling uncertainty and taking bold steps toward fulfilling one's calling

Notable Quotes

• The one thing that I will not do is I will not be sad every day for the rest of my life. I will look for something to be joyful. To be grateful every day for the rest of my life. So, that was a huge place to grab hold to walk out of the process.
• We have permission to be soft and lean into what that healing process looks like.
• Sometimes it looks like a dream disruption, but it is an interruption of something better or greater.
• Every place of pain has become a place of reign. And so when you are going through any type of process, surround yourself with people who will challenge you to live, dream, and breathe.
• We have to let go of how they died to honor how they lived. Because if we get stuck on the thing that died like my business died, and I can't, you know, my husband died, and you know, like my two nieces that were killed. And if I don't let go of how they died, I can't honor how they live because I'll be more married to their death than I am to their life.
• There is no greater love than a man to lay down his life for his friends.
• When we don't take the invitation to get up and live, we dishonor the person we were who fought and struggled. Yeah. Because, no matter what we're going through, we're fighting for love, and we're fighting for freedom, and we're fighting for hope, and sometimes the end of it doesn't look like we thought it would be.
• If we don't get up and live, then that woman inside of you that all the time was fighting for life and hope and life, we dishonor that part of ourselves because now we're in the answer of where the living answer to the prayer we prayed.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Connect with Dr. Tony at www.masterdreamacademy.com

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Welcome to a new episode of That's Where I'm At podcast. Joining me is a special guest, Nancy Gabriel, a skilled mediator with over 11 years of experience in conflict resolution. Nancy shares her inspiring journey of finding her calling as a mediator, driven by a personal experience of facing sudden loss and challenging probate litigation. Her story highlights the importance of patience, kindness, and gratitude while navigating grief and major life changes.

They share the unique ways women and men evolve emotionally, emphasizing the importance of seeking therapy and expressing feelings. The two friends discuss the power of volunteering and how giving back can be therapeutic during challenging times. They stress the importance of seeking therapy and openly expressing feelings as key components of personal growth and healing.

Are you looking to find hope and healing in your life? Tune in and learn!

Timestamps

[01:23] Nancy's background

[03:05] The journey to becoming a mediator

[05:01] What Nancy loves about what she does

[06:34] Nancy's low moments and how what she did to rediscover herself

[08:30] Coping with the losses

[12:02] Tips for people struggling with grief

[13:35] How Nancy got into journaling

[17:14] Insights on how to navigate widowhood

[27:42] How women and men are socialized differently, resulting in varying communication patterns

[29:38] How to help grieving people

[32:23] How volunteering can help with the healing process

[36:39] How keeping a compliment journal can help one in dealing with self-doubt or low self-esteem

[41:59] The importance of a growth mindset in personal development

Notable Quotes

• There's no timetable for grief. We all know that. For me, it took me two years. And what happened first was I wanted closet space. Okay. So that was the first thing I did.
• Say yes to a lot of good things. So that you can figure out what you like and let people take you out. I had so many people taking me out to dinner and stuff.
• You know, people say time heals all wounds. It doesn't; my quote is time helps. Yes. It doesn't heal. It helps.
• A divorce is a death of a marriage, and so, instead of focusing on how awful it was at the end, maybe you can isolate a few happy memories at the beginning or, you know, when your children were born or something like that.
• Tell yourself the truth in the kindest way possible.
• I think mostly, we're both generalizing here, but I think mostly women have an easier time expressing feelings than men do because I think men sometimes equate vulnerability with weakness.
• If you are struggling, give something back. Volunteer whatever is a passion of yours. If you like to read, redo a first-grade class, or go to an assisted living facility. If you like animals, volunteer at a shelter or a veterinary clinic. If you have a medical background, find a free clinic and volunteer there.
• Treat yourself gently, especially when you're in the throes of a challenge. Yes. A light, a, you know, a downward cycle as opposed to an upward cycle. Remember that every down cycle is followed by an up cycle.

After spending more than 20 years as a paralegal and legal administrator, Nancy Gabriel realized that there were ways to resolve conflict other than lengthy and expensive lawsuits. Being a Mediator is a natural fit for Nancy, combining her extensive litigation background with her calm and non-judgmental personality. You will find her personal style to be both approachable and extremely capable. Nancy received her Mediation Credential through Clark County, and is a graduate of Mosten Divorce Mediation Training, a prestigious course offered in Los Angeles. She has been in private practice for more than 11 years, and her company, Mediation Around The Table, was recently named by Expertise.com as one of the top 10 mediation/arbitration firms in Las Vegas. Nancy is also an avid blogger, posting a weekly article for more than seven years on her website and on LinkedIn. She has been a member of the State Bar of Nevada's Fee Dispute Arbitration Panel since 2015. Nancy is passionate about her volunteer position as the Adult Facilitator for Adam's Place, a non-profit helping children deal with grief and loss. Her company, Mediation Around The Table, is the recipient of the Las Vegas Review Journal's "Best of Las Vegas 2019" in the category of Alternative Dispute Resolution. Ms. Gabriel is a graduate of UCLA, a gourmet cook, and a boisterous NFL fan.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

www.mediationaroundthetable.com

www.adamsplacelv.org

Brené Brown https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0

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In this episode, Laura is joined by her friend Christina Kimball, a multi-passionate entrepreneur with a heart to make a massive positive impact in the lives of the people she serves and leads. From real estate to health and business coaching, she endeavors to support, encourage, and equip others as they live their best lives. Together, they discuss the importance of breaking the silence and sharing stories to support women going through difficult times.

They also explore the power of forgiveness and setting healthy boundaries to protect oneself during healing. Christina shares her experience of suppressing emotions, dealing with anger, and finding hope amid grief. She advises why one should not compare their grief to others and give themselves space and time to process their emotions.

Are you struggling with your healing journey and finding strength in vulnerability? This is the episode for you!

Timestamps

[02:53] Christina's story

[11:50] Christina's sudden emotional disconnect from her feelings

[13:59] Experiencing freedom and healing after a 90-minute Zoom call

[14:53] Exploring hidden emotions and healing from within

[18:44] Recognizing the need for boundaries and space to heal

[21:42] Challenges encountered when setting boundaries

[24:14] How comparison can be problematic in various aspects of life

[25:57] Value in sharing and connecting with empathetic experiences

[32:19] How to proactively help those grieving

[44:26] Things Christina is doing to help her in the journey

[48:03] Importance of recognizing how brain fog and other factors worsen grief

[55:38] How journaling has helped Christina handle her grief

Notable Quotes

• For some people, isolation is not going to be good. But for me, I needed some semblance of isolation just to protect all the input that had been coming and the people that had just been take, take, take, take, take.
• Give yourself permission. If you find yourself grieving and it could be anything, any kind of loss; it could be the loss of a person, a job, an opportunity, anything that, not just grief, but any kind of loss to give yourself space to process
• It's the same way with the love language when you understand this, someone's love language, you know, how to love them; one of the best advice I ever received is that don't compare your grief to anybody else's.
• Be selfless. And when the person is grieving, their process is about them and what they need to do to heal. It's not about anybody else.
• Love doesn't fade. Love doesn't go away. Right? It just looks different.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

https://www.christinakimball.com

onpointlifecoaching.com

5lovelanguages.com

https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries

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In this impactful episode, Laura courageously shares her healing journey after enduring a tumultuous marriage with a narcissistic partner. She emphasizes the importance of breaking societal norms by openly discussing women's stories and supporting those in challenging situations.

Laura candidly reflects on the emotional abuse, gaslighting, and manipulation she experienced, resulting in a deteriorating 33-year marriage. Despite her efforts to save the relationship through therapy and personal growth, her partner's unwillingness to change led her to consider extreme measures. Despite the difficulty of sharing her story, Laura believes in the power of speaking out to help others going through similar experiences.

Tune in, share your experiences, and connect with others to foster a community of understanding and empathy!

Timestamps

[02:05] Why it is important for Laura to share her story

[03:00] What it was like to get out of her marriage

[04:12] How the pandemic affected Laura's mental health

[06:04] How Laura sparked a relationship with her ex-husband

[08:12] How things started getting bad for Laura's marriage

[11:17] Dealing with narcissism and gaslighting in marriage

[15:15] How flirting with women in her face was part of the problem

[20:05] What Laura did to save her marriage

[23:19] How the marriage counseling went down for Laura and her ex-husband

[31:00] How the idea of separation came about

[37:05] Finding out the new relationship with a mutual friend

[47:24] Coping with the divorce

[51:03] How therapy has been instrumental l to Laura's healing

Notable Quotes

• Emotional abuse is not always visible. There are no bruises on my body. But you know, as a person, we're going to get into that, but as a person, you just start to feel devalued. And you start to feel less than others, and your self-esteem is slowly eroded. And so that's why it's hard to really share this.
• At some point, they will make you feel less than and that you don't want to be there, or you're going insane things like that.
• You shouldn't beat yourself up for what you've done or not done in how long you stayed and all those things because I know I did everything I could to save the marriage.
• When someone says they were emotionally abused, it is not our job to say, well, let me consider that, and let me look it up and see if you really were.
• You don't have to keep looking to see if your ex is a narcissist. Just know that if he was abusing you emotionally if you were being manipulated, you just need to be done.

Resources

Follow the podcast here: thatswhereimatpodcast.com.

Journals: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Laura-Richards/author/B09TX5ZW46?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

https://marissafayecohen.com/free-resources

https://www.thehotline.org

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/recovering-from-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Learning%20how%20to%20recover%20from,comfort%2C%20validation%2C%20and%20guidance

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