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One of the biggest fears many have when considering the divorce option, is how will it effect the children. Of course this is a fear, there can be a lot of impacts that this brings to the child's life. Yet we don't want to underestimate the resources that are available to help children navigate this as well as not to underestimate the children themselves. 

Everyone has a different experience and different story yet, sometimes it can be helpful to hear from the mouth of one who was impacted. Today we have a special guest who will share her own experience as a child of divorced parents. Hear her story, how she was impacted, and how she has navigated her own healing journey. 

We hope that this provides peace in knowing that there is time to heal, that we all have the ability to choose how other peoples choices impact us, and that we get to have do-overs. 

Teen and YSA resources are available HERE

Join Alana today as she shares some helpful insight she learned in a recent training around healthy connection. Sometimes we think that when we are not in conflict with out partner then we are connected, everything is "fine". But that's not the case. 

Being intentional in connecting with your partner and others takes a lot more than just not arguing or negative emotions. Pain free relationships does not mean healthy relationships.  Find out what this really means and how to create real healthy connection in your relationships today by tuning in to todays episode.

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Join Therapist Kimberly Day and Amie Woolsey in their upcoming course to help understand the different elements of abuse that may be showing up in your relationships. To have real healthy connection in your current relationship or a future relationship, learning what healthy behavior looks like and doesnt look like will be so helpful. 

Register HERE

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Join Amie and Alana today as they discuss the different aspect of change. Change in ourselves, change in our partners and why it's so hard when others aren't changing in the way we want. 

They also discuss how sometimes there is an expectation of the addict to have a personality change when they find recovery from their addiction. When this doesn't happen it can bring up a lot of emotions, so Amie and Alana tackle why that is.

Change always starts with you and it's natural to have a resistance to change. Join our conversation today and we hope that you gain new insights to how this applies to you and your particular circumstance. 

Visit Chooserecoveryservices.com for more information on how to get support through your healing journey. 

Check out groups and courses that will be starting soon HERE!

Last week Amie and Alana talked about DARVO and gaslighting so today they tackle the question, "How do I respond to gaslighting?".

As always, where ever you are at in your relationship, even if you are divorced, this episode will be so helpful! Remember to please reach out to someone who is trained in abuse to help guide you through boundaries and other tools to navigate abusive behavior. 

Abuse is nothing to ignore or sweep under the rug so please reach out to someone safe if you are experiencing abuse in your relationship. Help is available and you do't have to navigate this alone. 

Please consider registering for the psycho-educational course, The Elements Of Abuse, with Amie Woolsey and therapist Kimberly Day to better assess your situation in a safe, non judgmental setting. Register Here

Head over to Chooserecoveryservices.com for more information and to get support. 

To work with Amie or Alana specifically around your questions and concerns with abuse in your relationship, please feel free to book a consult. 

We are re-airing last years episode for Mothers Day and wishing all of you a beautiful one. We know that many of you are also struggling this weekend and hope you can feel supported and loved from Alana and I. 

Wherever you are at in your journey, please know that you are the creator of it. You have that right and capability, and one of the main goal for this podcast it to help women step into that power of creation. You are stronger and braver than you perhaps realize. 

Wrap your arm around yourself and give you a big hug. We hope you consider practicing to believe that you are enough, just as you are right now. that you are whole and complete no matter what you do or don't do. That you are infinitely lovable and we love you all for listening. 

Happy Women's Creation Day!

Join Amie and Alana today as they tackle one of our listeners heartfelt question around gaslighting. Recovery is already complicated and so when we add the piece of abusive behavior and character traits to the mix it can be even more confusing. We want to be careful how we use this word in relationship to addiction as well as address the reality that this is a key piece to real recovery. Deflecting and keeping from being found out is what addicts do best. Real recovery comes with a self awareness around this, an actualization of the impact the addiction has had in the lives of their spouse and those around them. Restitution is not just recovery from the addiction but healing the behaviors and flawed value system that produces abusive behavior as well. 

We know that this can be a triggering topic and highly encourage those of you who think. there might be abuse in your relationship to reach out to someone who is qualified to guide you in this area of your recovery and healing. We know that change is possible when awareness is present, acceptance is allowed and application is initiated. 

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Episodes referenced in this episode with Kim Day and Amie Woolsey can be found HERE

The Elements of Abuse Course that will be help in June can be registered for HERE

Should I Stay or Should I Go this Thursday, May5th @9:00am MT can be registered for HERE....More Info HERE

As always, thank you for listening and sending in your questions. 

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Join Amie and Alana as they wrap of this 3 part series on what recovery and healing look like, as well as what healthy relational behaviors look like.

Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward.

Please feel free to send in your questions for topics you'd like us to discuss. send to [email protected]

For those who are interested in the webinar for young single adults on healthy relationships or the Help Her Heal group, you can learn more and sign up here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/events/

Alana and Amie continue their conversation around this topic of recovery for the addicted. It's tough to navigate as there are so many pieces to this. Hopefully today will help shed some light along your journey. the importance of being relational and what healthy looks like. 

Is the addicted taking steps toward being honest, seeking out ways to create new patterns of healthy, or are they minimizing and justifying their behavior?

So many things to consider right? Amie and Alana have your back and are ready to talk about all of it!

Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward. 

Please feel free to send in your questions for topics you'd like us to discuss. send to [email protected]

Visit chooserecoveryservices.com for more information on how to get help with recovery, healing and learning how to choose YOU .

LAST DAY TO REGISTER for the TEEN Believing In You 12 week coaching program with Amie Woolsey

Click HERE to register today!

The YSA WEBINAR is this Sunday April 24th with Luke Gordon and Amie Woolsey- you don't want to miss this! For all those who want to learn how to have a healthy conversation around pornography with the one you are dating. It's not something to ignore or things you don't need. Let's learn how to talk about it and change the way we talk about it from shame to healthy from fear to connection. 

To register click HERE

Join Amie and Alana as they discuss the question of 'Is my partner in recovery?' 

Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward.

Please feel free to send in your questions for topics you'd like us to discuss. send to [email protected]

For those who are interested in the webinar for young single adults on healthy relationships or the Help Her Heal group, you can learn more and sign up here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/events/