Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

We thought Levi was doing face yoga. Actually? He was looks-maxing. And turns out he's not the only one.

We found out there's a whole subculture here — soft maxing, hard maxing, bone smashing, clip farms, and a guy named Clavicular who ODed on a live stream. We had to look up half of these words in real time. Abe knew more than he should... like usual.

We get into the bigger generational conversation, disagree about some of it, and somehow end up at dumpling hunting and no-phone clubs. Classic us.

Soft maxing is fine by the way. It's just face yoga. The rest of it, well, we'll let you decide.

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We have loooooots to catch up on. Being married in public is its own thing entirely, and this week we're getting into all of it.

We go there on the Summer House drama and the Taylor Frankie Paul situation, and we have thoughts. A lot of them. What happens when you do something very high school while the whole internet is watching, why people feel entitled to your everything once you're a public person, and where the line actually is between what audiences are owed and what's still yours to keep.

If your marriage can survive reality TV, it can probably survive anything.

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Lindsey Metselaar has been in our lives since before she had a following, a husband, or a sleep schedule. Now she has all three, plus a 2.5-month-old. We reminisce about our extremely unproductive work era together, and then somehow spend the next hour covering postpartum bodies, C-sections, cosmetic work, the filler rabbit hole, sobriety, and why today's weed is genuinely not the same conversation it was fifteen years ago.

Abe makes his case against the filler rabbit hole. Lindsay makes her case for a "beauty broker." We cover the NICU, postpartum resentment, and why watching your husband handle a toddler and a newborn at the same time is, apparently, very attractive.

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We’re officially making sex a recurring topic because clearly, no one’s saying what’s actually happening. We get into the so-called “sex recession,” why Gen Z might be having less sex than anyone expected, and how phones, gaming, and living at home are quietly changing the whole dynamic. Then it turns into a very real debate about one-night stands, sleepover etiquette (or lack thereof), and what actually flies vs. what absolutely does not.

And then we get honest about marriage. Kids, routines, exhaustion — all of it — and how that actually impacts your sex life. We talk about the whole “twice a week” narrative, why it feels a little fake, and what matters more than just checking a box.

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We get into Love Story, the JFK Jr. casting (including the lisp debate), and why the whole thing feels like peak ’90s New York. From there, it turns into a bigger convo about dating before phones, why relationships feel harder now, and the myth of the forever honeymoon phase.

We also talk about how social media has completely warped expectations — and why reality TV might actually be the most honest thing left.

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This week we sit down with Vienna Pharon – couples therapist, boundary queen, and someone who will lovingly call you out (spoiler: she definitely did for us). We talk about how the stories we tell ourselves about childhood (“it didn’t affect me”) usually… did, and how those early dynamics show up in our marriages, our nervous systems, and the way we fight. Vienna breaks down her five “origin wounds” — worthiness, belonging, prioritization, trust, and safety — and why conflict isn’t the problem, it’s what happens after that matters.

We get into real-life examples from our own relationship (including an early Ultra Music Festival spiral), how to regulate instead of react, and why modeling repair is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids.

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This week we sit down with Captain Jason — yes, that Captain Jason — and talk about what life actually looks like off the yacht. From filming six weeks straight on Below Deck (with basically no sleep) to building a villa in Bali, launching a gender-neutral fragrance, and structuring his entire career around being present for his daughter, there’s a lot more depth than the slow-mo beach shots suggest. We get into production realities, environmental work in Indonesia, dating while nomadic (and not getting into Raya), and why he skipped drinking at BravoCon. It’s equal parts charming, grounded, and unexpectedly thoughtful — with a little chivalry discourse for good measure.

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Season two, baby.

In this episode, we kick off the new season by looking back at what we learned from season one — and then get into what everyone actually wants to talk about: how to make a relationship last. We break down “the spark,” why it’s overrated if you don’t build something underneath it, how to fight without blowing everything up, and what spontaneity really looks like once you have kids, careers, and responsibilities. We talk celebrity longevity, friends dating in their thirties, and the different phases of marriage — from early heat to that third chapter where the kids are older and you actually get to like each other again.

It’s honest, a little blunt, and very much about playing the long game.

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This week, we cover a very glamorous mix of topics: Erin's back injury, why Dry January is a scam (sorry), and the rise of Analog January—aka putting your phone down and remembering how to be a person. We talk about the chokehold screens have on adults and kids, what parenting looks like in a world of Roblox and endless content, and why boredom might actually be a good thing.

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This week, Abe sits down with Max Cohen, better known as Murray Hill Boy. Max talks about walking away from a legal career at 25, accidentally finding success on TikTok, and why growing up Jewish in New York gave him endless material. They get into what it’s actually like to build a following online, the not-so-fun parts of visibility, and being a gay guy in mostly straight friend circles without turning it into a “thing.” It’s funny, self-aware, and refreshingly honest about the work behind a career that looks effortless from the outside.

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