After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Divorce Doesn't Ruin Kids, Conflict Does


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Divorce is one of the most painful decisions a parent can make, and there's one thing that's always top of mind when facing a possible separation or divorce: will my kids be okay? Today's episode will give you a big, firm, YES. And shows you EXACTLY how to move through this difficult chapter to ensure the best outcomes for you, and your kids. Because the truth is, a healthier household is the BEST choice for your kid, and often, this means choosing the difficult path of divorce, not despite your kids, but FOR your kids.


In today's episode, Deena sits down with Gabriella Pomare, a family lawyer, co-parenting expert, and mom who has lived this reality herself. Together, they go far beyond surface-level advice and into the real work of co-parenting when emotions are raw, grief is heavy, and your kids still need you to lead.


This conversation tackles the questions parents are often too afraid to ask:

  • How do you support your kids through separation while you’re still breaking inside?
  • What actually harms kids after divorce, and what protects them long-term?
  • How do you co-parent with someone who won’t cooperate?
  • How do you set boundaries, reduce conflict, and stop kids from carrying adult pain?
  • And how do you grieve the family you imagined… without letting that grief shape your child’s future?


Gabriella shares practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and a powerful reframe: divorce doesn’t create broken families, unresolved conflict does. This episode is about emotional leadership, healing without involving your kids, and redefining what a healthy family can look like after everything changes.


If you’re considering separation, in the middle of it, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or supporting someone who is, you need this episode. You'll walk away with everything you need to have a healthy, happy family - even in this new, different looking stage of life.


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