Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD

What is the role of energy work in CPTSD Recovery?

Energetic stewardship plays a pivotal role in the recovery from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), offering a pathway to healing by focusing on the management and alignment of personal energies. This approach involves key recovery tasks such as unblending, unburdening, integrating, and embodying, which are essential for sustainable healing and achieving a harmonious life. Tanner, who has a background in educational research, emphasizes the significance of energetic stewardship in conjunction with Parts Work to address the manifestations of CPTSD in everyday life. She advocates for a structured framework that guides individuals through their recovery journey, highlighting the importance of clarity and progress assessment. For Tanner, unblending is a crucial early step that allows individuals to differentiate their true self from protective parts and trauma responses, leading to a deeper understanding and stewardship of one's energetic signatures.

Key TakeAways

- Energy work plays a crucial role in CPTSD recovery by unblending self-energy from protective parts and legacy burdens.

- Financial stewardship involves identifying energy leaks, releasing fear-based frequencies, and aligning actions with self-love for efficient management.

- Aligned Action entails making decisions in alignment with Self Energy to avoid unnecessary repairs and unwinding in the future.

- Recognizing one's natural gifts and abilities helps in selecting a calling that aligns effortlessly, leading to a harmonious and fulfilling life.

- Integration in CPTSD recovery involves moving towards a holistic approach that prepares the system for further growth and healing.

Actionable Insights

- Recognize and address Protective Parts, legacy burdens, and wounded younger Parts in CPTSD Recovery

- Identify and release fear-based frequencies in financial management for better stewardship

- Take actions aligned with Self Energy to avoid rumination and wasted time

- Recognize and leverage natural gifts and abilities in selecting a fulfilling calling

- Integrate holistic approaches in CPTSD Recovery for sustainable healing

Quotes:

“[My] purpose [and] mission, at this point in time, is to create an efficient, effective, holistic, CPTSD Recovery curriculum that you can drop into for two or so years and arrive out on the other side ready to live the life of your dreams.” — Tanner  [0:02:30]

“If we want to recover from something as complex and multidimensional as CPTSD, we need frameworks.” — Tanner [0:04:15]

“In my personal opinion, CPTSD Recovery hasn’t even started until you’ve experienced Unblending.” — Tanner [0:07:17]

“[Unburdening work] is so sacred. And this work is so profound, I know that there is something larger than the human experience at play.” — Tanner  [0:14:56]

“Fear. When we are making decisions out of fear and not love, it is always something that is going to need to be unwound or undone in the future. When we are showing up in love everything just unfolds.” — Tanner  [0:30:25] 

“Just because I’m gifted at something doesn’t mean I answer the call. I answer the call because I want to.” — Tanner  [0:33:14]

How can individuals unknowingly absorb darker energies?

The Energetic Stewardship Series explores the crucial yet often overlooked role of managing and transforming energies within oneself and the environment, aiming to foster personal growth and collective well-being. Tanner brings a unique perspective to this series, drawing from his extensive experience working with clients in various therapeutic settings. She highlights the importance of protecting one's own energy and ensuring that any dark energy absorbed is transformed before it can affect others. Tanner's approach is shaped by his deep understanding of the contexts in which darker energies can infiltrate, such as intimate encounters or spiritual practices, and the rigorous self-care required to hold space for others effectively. Her commitment to energetic stewardship is evident in his dedication to preparing individuals for true healing and integration, emphasizing mindful energy management as a cornerstone of his practice.

Key TakeAways

- Individuals can unknowingly absorb and transmit darker energies, highlighting the importance of self-protection and transmuting these energies back to lightness.

- Certain life moments can make individuals vulnerable to absorbing darker energies, necessitating self-awareness and unburdening sequences for reclaiming personal power.

- Developing strong energetic boundaries is crucial to prevent the absorption of harmful energies, especially during moments of vulnerability.

- Identifying and healing from dark energy involves deep inner work, unburdening sequences, and gaining Self Leadership for personal growth.

- Tanner aims to release old masterclasses and videos to create a curated library of resources for her audience, aligning with his commitment to community engagement and support.

Actionable Insights

- Develop strong energetic boundaries to prevent absorption of harmful energies

- Practice energetic protection during vulnerable moments such as deep physical intimacy or altered states of consciousness

- Engage in deep inner work to uncover and address dark energy within oneself

- Reclaim personal power through self-awareness and unburdening sequences

- Utilize curated library of resources for support and guidance in healing journey

Quotes:

“When we don’t learn that natural self-protection, it’s almost as if – there are gaps in our energetic boundaries – that allows us to be susceptible to absorbing the darker energies.” — Tanner[0:05:50]

“I am the path of least resistance to healing.” — Tanner [0:07:53]

“It’s the true act of compassion to hold all but simultaneously learn how to hold it so we ourselves are not being compromised or destroyed or consumed in the process of holding the darkness.” — Tanner  [0:10:00]

Why is ancestral healing important in reclaiming gifts from lineage and connecting to heritage?

The energetic stewardship workshop offers an innovative approach to healing, particularly for those recovering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). This three-day event, led by Tanner, shares seven Divine Archetypal Resonances and focuses on the transformative power of intentionality, planning, and structure in personal healing. Tanner, a participant and advocate of the workshop, views it as a critical tool for organizing daily CPTSD recovery through parts work. Her perspective is shaped by the belief that the workshop provides a structured framework and an embodied experience, empowering individuals to lead their own unburdening sequences beyond therapy sessions. With a focus on intentionality and pushing personal boundaries, Tanner sees the energetic stewardship workshop as a vital opportunity for participants to engage deeply in their healing journey and achieve profound personal transformation.

Key TakeAways

- Participants were able to explore various domains of life, work with protective energies, and facilitate their own healing processes.

- By leaning into personal edges across all 5 Circuits, individuals with CPTSD can successfully unburden, integrate, and transcend past trauma, leading to deepened embodiment and healing.

- This framework offers a structured approach for CPTSD recovery, empowering individuals to navigate trauma-related energies effectively.

- By actively stewarding different energies, individuals can positively contribute to their healing journey and potentially impact the collective evolution of humanity.

- By engaging in Parts Work and inviting ancestors to release burdens, individuals can transmute fear-based frequencies and offer healing to their ancestral line.

- Through integrating Source Energy with Self Energy, a new realm for Attachment Restoration is opened up, facilitating deep healing and transformation across various timelines and realms.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in Unburdening sequences for CPTSD recovery

- Find and lean into personal edges across various Circuits for healing

- Take responsibility for releasing different energies consciously in CPTSD recovery

- Explore ancestral healing and transmute fear-based frequencies

- Integrate source energy with Self Energy for Attachment Restoration

- Create empowering spaces for personal growth and transformation

Quotes:

“Recovery happens in real-time, in our real life. And, we can hasten that process or create stimulations to increase the likelihood that we’ll have opportunities to do deep, unburdening work when we are finding ourselves at our own edge.” — Tanner  [02:03] 

“Instagram, as I experience it, is a very, very potent, helpful guide and structure when you consume it with Self Leadership.” — Tanner  [10:41]

“There are patterns that keep repeating in my life that I don’t even fully understand.” — Tanner [26:29]

“It’s not just turning down the fear-based frequencies; it’s that and transmuting them, alchemizing them, and releasing and integrating the gifts — this is legacy work.” — Tanner  [38:07]

“I am not here to provide you [with] all the answers. I’m here as a guide to open up spaces for you to see, ‘Oh! This is what is possible; this could be my next aligned action; this could be my level up; this could be a space that I play.’” — Tanner  [39:03]

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How can I amplify my Self Energy when working with Parts?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery is a profound journey towards healing and self-discovery, often requiring individuals to navigate the intricate web of past traumas to transform their lives. Tanner, a CPTSD recovery coach and mentor, brings a unique perspective to this journey, shaped by his personal experiences and professional insights. She envisions a life liberated from the protective barriers erected by CPTSD, focusing on achieving genuine intimacy and connection without the burden of overanalyzing. Tanner stresses the significance of breaking free from the chains of intergenerational trauma and survival codes, encouraging a shift towards inspiration and fulfillment that transcends fear. Her approach is rooted in helping individuals attain closure and completion in their recovery process, empowering them to embrace the present moment fully and live life with renewed purpose and grace.

Key TakeAways

- Tanner emphasizes the importance of grounded recovery based on desires and possibilities.

- Individuals can effectively navigate and address deep-seated trauma and legacy burdens within their internal system by understanding and amplifying self energy.

- Andrew stresses the significance of living as one interconnected system, recognizing that all parts of oneself can generate self energy.

- Tanner offers healing containers like DEVOTED and 5 Circuits of Healing Power for CPTSD recovery and connecting to source energy.

- Building a community for CPTSD Recovery involves providing dedicated resources and support for individuals on their healing journey.

Actionable Insights

- Embrace novelty in working with Parts to amplify Self Energy

- Recognize interconnectedness of all parts within oneself for healing

- Utilize simple structures as pathways to connect with Source Energy

- Join a community for CPTSD recovery with structured resources and support

Quotes:

“Notice and try to get in touch with what Part bumped you out of staying with me. What Parts still don't feel like it's safe to be in stillness, to give yourself some time to be held, to be nourished, to be inspired, to be supported, to be motivated.” — Tanner  [08:05]

“The first time I was integrating elemental medicine into my Parts Work, I felt so stupid. I felt like I was pretending. I felt like I was performing. It just felt so awkward.” — Tanner  [22:12] 

“As I stuck with it, and I continued to try it, I then released myself from it having to look the way that I'd seen other people do it. And I started to just do it the way that truly resonated with me. And then it started to become more authentic.” — Tanner  [22:28]

“It helps to be exposed to a lot of different ways of connecting with Source Energy. So that you can pick and choose from different mentors, different examples, what really lands and has resonance in your experience.” — Tanner  [23:12]

“If you don't embrace the novelty and get past the awkward, ‘this is ridiculous’ stage, you won't come to discover what Medicine is truly meant to be yours.” — Tanner  [23:41]

“We're all one system that has been fragmented, and some parts may not realize that they're you fragmented off, and the sooner your system can realize that you're all one entity under your leadership, the sooner massive Unburdening can happen.” — Tanner  [26:11]

“This is a community. We are building a new paradigm of CPTSD recovery that when the next human discovers they have CPTSD they don't go online and have no resources to turn to.” — Tanner  [39:10]

Ready for your next powerful step? Amplifying your Self Energy transforms not just your healing journey, but how you lead yourself, your family, and your lineage into sovereignty. The Self Energy as Sacred Leadership 4-part email series introduces you to the CPTSD Medicine perspective on Self Energy, helping you see how to dissolve trauma energies through intentional amplification of your innate Self Energy.

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In what ways can Unburdening help in healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)?

In complex PTSD healing there is a "meeting yourself for the first time" stage that includes the intricate process of reconnecting the Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit to facilitate healing and personal growth. This stage emphasizes radical honesty and embracing all facets of oneself, especially those influenced by past traumas, to foster self-awareness and empowerment. Tanner views this journey as essential for comprehending and accepting one's internal milieu, advocating for a genuine encounter with oneself that is free from the need for external validation or solutions. She stresses the significance of facing internal distortions and misunderstandings, suggesting that by doing so, individuals can discern between their Self Energy and the energies of other internal parts. This introspective approach not only aids in building trust with one's inner self but also leads to a more profound understanding of one's internal landscape, paving the way for integration and authenticity.

Key TakeAways

- By recognizing and understanding protective parts within ourselves, we can facilitate unburdening effectively.

- Acknowledging and accepting all parts of ourselves is essential for achieving inner harmony and healing.

- Self-discovery and radical honesty are emphasized in Circuit Three for internal exploration and healing.

- Unburdening is crucial for healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and requires consent from all parts of oneself.

- Emotional regulation and self-connection are key to building trust with inner parts and staying connected to self-energy for growth and healing.

- Engaging in intentional parts work daily helps build trust within oneself and leads to healing by releasing powerful energies.

- Consistency in unburdening work is vital to expanding energetic capacity and holding space for all aspects of the self.

Actionable Insights

- Acknowledge and accept all Parts of yourself, regardless of familiarity, love, hate, or origin

- Honor internal projections and distorted sense-making for navigating internal complexities

- Engage in daily intentional Parts Work and Unburdening for healing

- Practice emotional regulation and self-connection for growth and healing

- Recognize the interconnectedness of Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit in unburdening work

- Tap into Divine archetypal resonances to strengthen Self Energy and healing

- Initiate the communication process to restore internal attachment and trust-building

Quotes

“Parts [of us] can show up mostly in our mind but they also have a body, heart, and spirit imprint as well, but some of those are harder to access depending on the part.” — Tanner  [10:34]

“No one wakes up and cheers you on. You have to somehow find something inside of you that is so deep, so raw, and so convicted that you wake up and reconnect with nature and your body, and you say to yourself, ‘Okay, begin again.’” — Tanner  [25:00]

“The more challenging it gets the closer I will come to myself. This is a period of the journey that is absolutely solo work.” — Tanner  [34:17]

“You are not separate from your system.” — Tanner e [36:31]

“True Self is not just Self Energy in my experience. True self is an amalgamation of all sorts of things.” — Tanner  [42:18]

What is the role of inner child work in CPTSD recovery?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery often involves reconnecting with one's inner child, a process that can offer profound healing by addressing deep-seated emotional wounds. Tanner, a proponent of integrating inner child work with a broader Parts Work approach, argues that while inner child work can be beneficial, it may not suffice for those seeking comprehensive CPTSD recovery. Drawing from her background in research and Internal Family Systems, Tanner emphasizes the need for recognizing and integrating all parts of the self, including Protective and Wounded Younger Parts, to foster a more holistic, Self-led healing journey. She envisions CPTSD recovery as a multidimensional endeavor, encouraging individuals to see themselves as the main characters in their own transformative journeys, thereby empowering them to break cycles of trauma through self-discovery and consent-based trust-building.

Key TakeAways

- Inner child work in CPTSD recovery emphasizes integrating parts work to address protective and wounded younger parts.

- Encouraging self-led empowerment in CPTSD recovery involves seeking out resources rooted in consent and permission.

- Connecting with wounded younger parts through somatic work and inner journeying can lead to healing from past traumatic experiences.

- Parts work for CPTSD focuses on collaboration with protective and wounded younger parts to facilitate healing.

Actionable Insights

- Integrate parts work to address protective and wounded younger Parts in CPTSD recovery

- Seek out resources that empower individuals to guide themselves through the healing process

- Connect with wounded younger parts through somatic work and inner journeying

- Facilitate a softening and transition to power between protective and wounded younger Parts in the internal system

Quotes

“Wounded Younger Parts are the core or epicenter of where the trauma has been stored. Once you arrive at that place [and] you've gotten permission, access, and trust from Protective Parts, unburdening that and releasing that is ridiculously simple.” — Tanner [10:24]

“What you'll often find with Wounded Younger Parts is they are simply a scared child, a scared version of you, a scared adolescent version of you, frozen in time at a scene of betrayal, rejection, or abandonment.” — Tanner [13:46]

“The bulk of the parts work for CPTSD is building trust and facilitating a softening and transition to power between your Protective Parts running your internal world and you ascending to your rightful seat of power as the leader of your system.” — Tanner [20:34]

“Inner child work with parts work is seeing yourself as a fragmented human with Protective Parts, Wounded Younger Parts, and you leading yourself—separated from these Parts but in collaboration with these Parts—to offer unburdening [and] integration.” — Tanner [22:44]

What are the essential energy work practices for improved Self Energy and inner alignment?

Protective Part energy is a fascinating concept that explores how our inner mechanisms shield us from perceived threats, often at the cost of obscuring our true selves. Tanner, an advocate for integrating energy work with parts work, delves into this topic through the lens of Human Design and other energetic practices to address complex trauma. With a focus on the nine Energy Centers, Tanner underscores the primal survival instincts that give rise to protective parts, manifesting as energetic patterns like 'I must' and 'I won't.' His perspective is shaped by the understanding that these shadowy survival energies, including feelings of disempowerment and rage, can be both personal and inherited. Tanner’s experiences highlight the necessity of recognizing these energies to unburden protective parts, thereby achieving healing and self-alignment.

Key TakeAways

- Energy work practices incorporating the nine Energy Centers in Human Design, elemental medicine, Divine Archetypal Resonance, and visualization are essential for improved self-energy and inner alignment.

- Incorporating energy work alongside Parts Work is crucial in healing processes to address complex trauma.

- Protective Parts connected to survival instincts exhibit energetic signatures that fuel strategies and survival energy, playing a crucial role in our survival instincts rooted in experiences of trauma.

- Understanding and working with Protective Parts is key to starting the healing journey by befriending and collaborating with these Parts to uncover the true self undamaged by trauma.

- The Unburdening process in healing involves a sequence of steps to balance Protective Parts with Self Energy and avoid unconscious control by Protective Parts, leading to consistent recovery for individuals with CPTSD.

Actionable Insights

- Incorporate energy work alongside parts work in healing processes for complex trauma

- Explore and integrate energy practices for improved self-energy and inner alignment

- Release and integrate Protective Parts back into the true self or transmute them into other energy

- Understand and collaborate with Protective Parts to uncover the True Self undamaged by trauma

- Differentiate between traditional Protective Parts and punishing/despairing parts in healing

Quotes

“I don’t think, for CPTSD, self-energy alone is sufficient. At some point when you get to some of the most gaslit, injured, lineage-related, collective-trauma-related parts, energies, or entities inside of us, self-energy alone — is not adequate in its potency to help soften some of those parts.” — Tanner  [0:04:42] 

“I think, and this is what is so powerful about IFS, is that there is a larger context with working with protective parts, that is really important to keep in mind, or else we can get lost in protective part work and lose sight of the key anchoring principle — the True Self.” — Tanner  [0:07:59] 

“Protective parts are native, fragmented, aspects of self that have broken off from the central channel, or inner world, and — are now running their own energy.” — Tanner  [0:11:51]

“The goal of parts work is to unburden protective parts of whatever they are carrying around — that make them want to stay separate from the true self, core, [or] central channel.” — Tanner  [0:12:33]

“This is my major point: it’s not just as simple as working with protective parts. Even though you can receive relief almost immediately working with protective parts, there is a larger, deeper, longer-term process of the unburdening sequence.” — Tanner  [0:16:10]

“Protective parts are connected to our human experience, they are fragmented aspects of our self that separated and came online to run different survival energies when moments happened in our lives, in childhood or adolescence, when it was very clear there was no safe adult to protect us, love us, or nurture us.” — Tanner [0:23:34] 

“Lean in to connect when in distress; that’s the ultimate survival code.” — Tanner  [0:24:27]

“The unburdening sequence is about keeping pace with and matching the protective part energy with equal measures of self-energy, so that your seat of power, your leadership, never degrades or diminishes to the point where protective parts take over.” — Tanner  [0:31:04]

What is the importance of practical energy work in trauma healing?

Complex PTSD (CPTSD) recovery strategies offer a multifaceted approach to healing from trauma, emphasizing the need for a holistic connection with the body, heart, and spirit. Tanner, an advocate of these recovery strategies, believes in the power of awareness and integration across these facets. Her perspective, shaped by personal experiences and a deep understanding of trauma, views CPTSD recovery as a journey of Self Leadership and ownership. By documenting experiences and leveraging internal wisdom, individuals can transform their lives through practical, daily actions that not only heal but also reconnect them with their spiritual essence, ultimately fostering a transformative path towards recovery.

Key TakeAways

- Unburdening trauma-carrying parts cultivates inner safety and promotes healing in daily life.

- Creating safe third spaces for protective and wounded parts to explore trauma stories is crucial for healing and growth.

- Practical energy work alongside other aspects of CPTSD recovery can help unburden individuals and connect them to their true selves.

- Protective parts aim to prevent harm and ensure survival, despite sometimes causing interpersonal challenges.

- Fear-Based Frequencies are intense energies related to trauma that go beyond protective and wounded part instincts.

- Alchemization and Transmutation involve transforming victimization energy into empowering conviction energy for healing.

- Energetic Absorption is important for maintaining balance and well-being by consciously absorbing positive and negative energies.

Actionable Insights

- Create safe third spaces for parts to tell their stories and explore trauma

- Acknowledge and work through fear-based frequencies to alchemize into light and love

- Transform victimization energy into conviction energy through alchemization and transmutation

- Master the ability to absorb energies consciously for inner harmony

- Unburden trauma-carrying parts to cultivate inner safety and promote healing

- Shift from analytical approach to trauma towards a more holistic perspective

- Understand and work with the six energies to effectively absorb energies for healing and recovery

Quotes:

“Energy work is really concrete.” — Tanner [09:48]

“There is no need for you to tell your survivor story any longer.” — Tanner [11:58]

“Your story is one of recovery, your story is one of cycle-breaking.” — Tanner [14:59]

“Energy work is a natural way to move out of thinking and analysis and more into awareness.” — Tanner [18:22]

How can working with Energy Centers aid in healing and releasing burdens?

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery is a multifaceted journey that involves addressing the physical, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of healing. Tanner offers a unique perspective on this journey, advocating for a personalized and meaningful approach to recovery. Their perspective is shaped by the belief that CPTSD recovery is not a linear or perfect system but a sacred process that requires individuals to explore and organize their healing efforts in a way that resonates with them. Through their experiences, Tanner emphasizes the importance of breaking free from old survival patterns and fear-based coding by cultivating new thoughts and images, viewing this transformative process as essential not only for personal healing but also for the benefit of future generations.

Key TakeAways

- A multidimensional approach in CPTSD recovery focuses on physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects.

- Working with Energy Centers can aid in healing Protective Parts, retrieving Wounded Younger Parts, and releasing ancestral legacy burdens.

- The Unburdening and embodiment sequence involves enhancing self-worth, inner reflection, and personal power through working with energy centers.

- The Desire Energy Center plays a key role in regaining personal power, agency, and the ability to choose wisely.

Actionable Insights

- Engage in healing Protective Parts and retrieving Wounded Younger Parts

- Focus on the six Energy Centers within for enhancing Self-worth and personal power

- Utilize mantras like 'full permission' to navigate uncertainty and make informed decisions

- Drop into the Mind Energy Center for clarity and peacefulness during times of confusion

Quotes:

“I believe that all of us, as CycleBreakers, need to resonate with, find the frequency of the Motherless Mother.” — Tanner [01:55] 

“We are energetically very messy, as a human running protective part energy, that has been activated by wounded younger parts.” — Tanner [05:52]

“We really want to rewrite the old coding.” — Tanner  [06:24]

How does inherited family trauma influence individuals with CPTSD?

Self energy plays a pivotal role in the recovery from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), offering a pathway to healing that transcends traditional therapeutic approaches. Individuals with CPTSD often struggle with "Protective Part Shadowy Energy," which arises from coping mechanisms developed due to insecure childhood attachments and inherited family trauma. Tanner, an advocate for a holistic approach to CPTSD recovery, emphasizes the necessity of understanding and accessing Self Energy as an undamaged and integral part of healing. His perspective is shaped by recognizing that traumatic experiences often hinder the development of Self Energy, making its amplification and purification crucial. Additionally, Tanner highlights the importance of reclaiming Source Energy, stressing that the integration of both Self and Source energy is essential for achieving wholeness and liberation in CPTSD recovery.

Quotes:

“My understanding of CPTSD is that it’s a constellation of energies that influence soul and spirit.” — Tanner [03:28]

“If you’re a human with CPTSD, one of the ways to describe what has happened to you, is you did not develop adequate access Self Energy. You didn’t understand how to return to it when things got chaotic or destabilized in your world.” — Tanner  [07:27]

“Dark energy is so incredibly misunderstood. Dark energy is light energy that has been co-opted and actually can be alchemized into the most potent form of source energy, love, and light.” — Tanner  [17:49]