How To GET THE GIRL - An Ask Women Podcast

Communication is the foundation of every great relationship, but for so many people, it’s also the biggest struggle. In this episode, we’re joined by Suzanne Tabachnick, founder of Social Foundations, a supportive community dedicated to helping people build social awareness, abilities, and confidence. While Social Foundations focuses on individuals navigating life on the autism spectrum, Suzanne’s insights are valuable for anyone who wants to strengthen their communication skills and form deeper connections, leading to chemistry and romance. 

We dive into the essentials of effective communication in dating and relationships: how to notice the areas where you might be falling short, what habits could be holding you back, and practical steps you can take to improve. 

Whether you’ve struggled to express yourself, misread signals, or just want to become more confident in connecting with others, this conversation will help you level up your ability to bond, attract, and sustain meaningful relationships.

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How do you know when to pursue, when to pull back, and when to stop altogether?

In this throwback episode, we sit down with Emmy-nominated producer and casting director Tanya Bershadsly to break down the art of pursuit.

We dive into the signals women give that tell you she’s interested, HOW TO SPOT when you’re pushing too far, and the difference between persistence and pressure.

Tanya brings her eye for human behavior from years in casting to reveal what women are really communicating, often without saying a word.

Whether you struggle to make the first move or aren’t sure when to step back, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to pursue women the right way.

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This week, is a serious DON'T MISS. We sit down with Erin Keating, creator of the brand and podcast Hotter Than Ever, dedicated to dating over 50, to reveal the unfiltered truths men need to hear.

While Erin’s show focuses on dating later in life, the insights she shares apply to any man looking to attract and connect with women.

Erin is no-holds-barred, authentic, and tells it exactly like it is- no fluff, no sugarcoating. We cover the biggest online dating mistakes guys of every age make, how to actually get her to say yes to a date, and what instantly makes a woman give you a chance (or swipe left) on an app.

Packed with insider perspectives straight from a woman’s mind, this episode is your playbook for standing out, making REAL connections, and turning matches into real-life dates.

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This one’s from the vault back when the show was called Ask Women—so don’t be confused by the old name drop! The advice still holds up (and then some).

In this episode, we’re joined by Adam Wayne, Marni’s personal coach, to talk about one of the trickiest topics for men: how to share your vulnerabilities without coming off as self-deprecating, weak, or like you’re making excuses for who you are.

Adam breaks down how to own your truth, express emotion, and connect deeply with women—without ever losing your edge. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just trying to get better at opening up, this conversation is a must-listen as it’s Insightful, honest, and practical, as always!

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In this throwback episode, we get all too relatable talking about making a bad first impression. Made a weird joke? Came on too strong? Forgot how to speak English the second she looked at you? We’ve all been there—and this week, we’re talking about how to come back from a cringey first impression without losing the girl (or your dignity).

Comedian and crowd-reading master K.T. Tatara joins Kristen to break down what actually kills a first impression and more importantly, how to recover with grace, humor, and a little self-awareness. They dig into:

Whether you’ve bombed a banter opener or said something that made her eyebrows do the thing… this episode is your crash course in bouncing back.

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We’re throwing it back to one of our most downloaded episodes with none other than Alpha M, the #1 men’s lifestyle influencer, Aaron Marino.

In this conversation, we unpack the truth about confidence: where it actually comes from, why most guys fake it wrong, and how to build the kind of self-assurance that women feel before you even say a word.

We dive into:

This one’s packed with clarity, no fluff, and high-impact takeaways for any guy ready to stop overthinking and start showing up like a man who knows his worth.

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If you struggle to read women, constantly misinterpret signals, or feel like there’s a disconnect no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you.

We’re joined by Empathetic Leadership Coach Jevon Wooden to unpack the power of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and why it’s the missing link for so many men when it comes to connection, attraction, and trust.

We break down how emotional intelligence helps you actually understand what a woman is feeling, how to respond in a way that makes her feel safe, and why it’s the antidote to being seen as a “trauma dumper.”

You’ll learn how to:

This one’s packed with gems, so you gotta listen. 

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In this episode of How to Get the Girl (formerly known as Ask Women), Kristen and Marni are joined by certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Shermer to tackle one of the biggest silent confidence-killers for men: sexual shame.

Whether it’s shame around performance, desire, past experiences, or just not knowing what’s “normal,” this shame often goes unspoken — but it’s sabotaging your confidence, your connection with women, and your ability to feel powerful in your own skin.

Dr. Shermer breaks down where this shame comes from, how to reframe it, and what to do right now to stop letting it control your dating life. This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever felt like your anxiety in dating or sex is coming from something deeper… because chances are, it is.

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🎙️ Heads up! We’re playing around with new titles for the show! Right now, we’re rolling with "How to Get the Girl" by Ask Women, but stay tuned for another possible rebrand 👀

This week, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating: jealousy. And no, it’s not always toxic. In fact, if you know how to use it, it can be one of the most powerful tools for increasing attraction, creating sexual tension, and deepening connection.

We’re joined by Ally Iseman from Passport2Pleasure.com, and she’s breaking down how to harness jealousy in a healthy way - whether you’re navigating early dating, a committed relationship, or just trying to spark that “charge” back into your love life.

We talk about:

If you’ve ever felt triggered, anxious, or powerless in the face of jealousy, this episode will flip the script—and help you turn it into fuel for connection instead.

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It’s time to STOP sabotaging yourself—and start asking for what you actually want. 

This week, we’re joined by Brad DeMint, host of the How to Win podcast and a powerhouse salesman who knows how to close deals and create clarity.

Brad breaks down the exact mindset shift that will help you stop playing small, speak up, and go after what you truly want—not just in dating, but in life. We also dig into why so many people don’t even know what they want, and how to finally get clear so you can confidently ask for it (and get it).

If you’ve ever held back, talked yourself out of something, or waited too long, this episode is your wake-up call.

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