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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen have the honor of sitting down with the brilliant Dr. Alexandra Solomon! Dr. Solomon is a therapist, author, teacher, fellow podcast host and relationship expert! They start the episode off by talking about the challenges and nuances of Instagram and TikTok therapy. They then ask Dr. Solomon about the class she teaches at Northwestern University called Marriage 101. This leads them into the episode topic: hard conversations to have with a partner before marriage or that next big step in your relationship and where to begin when approaching them. Emmalee, Jen and Dr. Solomon explore conversations like: acknowledgement that each partner will change throughout the relationship, political differences in marriages and how to handle them - especially in this polarizing political climate, the decision to have children, attachment styles, cultivating compassion for new versions of ourselves and our partners, and SO much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

Dr. Solomon's website where you can find her podcast, e-courses, blog, books, and more: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to have a listener favorite guest, and one of their mentors, Terry Real, back on the podcast to tell us all about his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry shares some stories and concepts from the book, how Bruce Springsteen writing the forward of "Us" came to be, the difference between “us” vs. “you and me”, two parts of our brains: the wise adult and the adaptive child and what they mean, fight, flight, freeze, and fix responses to our partners - and which one Emmalee, Jen and Terry identify with, why Terry believes couples therapists should lovingly take sides, and so much more! 

Link to Terry’s new book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship:

https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1654019537&sr=8-1

Terry’s website & Relational Life Therapy Training: https://terryreal.com

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen share their expertise on how to repair after a rupture in our relationships a.k.a. how to make up after a fight, disagreement, or argument. They discuss why rupture is inevitable in all of our relationships, why being "right" doesn't matter, why tit for tat can be harmful, how to hold onto ourselves when the other person is dysregulated, whether make-up sex is a real thing, how to argue in a healthy way, stubbornness when in a disagreement and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

The book mentioned in today's episode: Why Won't You Apologize by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about emotional boundaries, starting off by defining emotional boundaries and where to begin when setting them. They discuss separating our emotions from others' emotions, how to recognize when you need to do so, and the importance of tone and context. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions like: how to set emotional boundaries when working in a helping field, the concern about coming off as rude or demanding, how to set boundaries when you're scared of hurting others, the fine line between feeling your feelings and setting boundaries around them, plus a Dear Em & Jen about sexuality changing later in life. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

The book mentioned in today's episode: The Whole-Brain Child https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen answer one of our most popular listener questions: how to ask for what you need! They discuss why it can be so hard to ask for what you need, how to begin learning what you need, and give us tangible steps to do so. Emmalee and Jen share how they learned what it was they needed through trial and error, why our childhood experiences can play a big role in asking for what we need, the difference between wants and needs, and so much more! Dear Em & Jen answers a question about needing space from in-laws and how to ask your partner for that. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of The Therapy Group's wonderful therapists, JoAnne Hanson, LMFT! JoAnne is not only a therapist but also an energy healer. Emmalee and Jen talk to JoAnne about WTF energy healing is, her journey to becoming an energy healer, integrating energy healing into traditional talk therapy, what it was like for JoAnne growing up as a highly sensitive person, the "woo continuum," what JoAnne is calling BS on, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action.

To get connected with JoAnne, fill out a contact form here and request JoAnne Hanson, LMFT as your preferred therapist: https://www.thetherapygroup.com/contact

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen cover the topic of rejection. They start the episode off by addressing a listener question that asks “how to get over rejection?” The hard truth is that rejection is inevitable - and so they give us all tangible ways to learn to deal with rejection and the feelings that accompany it. Emmalee and Jen discuss rejection’s connection to shame and embarrassment, the fear of rejection and how to overcome it, how to work on not taking rejection personally, the grieving process that can come after being rejected, their personal experiences with rejection (specifically re: dating), why it’s so hard to get over rejection from an ex, and so much more! Dear Em & Jen answers a question about boundaries as they relate to rejection. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

The Ted Talk mentioned in the episode: https://www.ted.com/talks/jia_jiang_what_i_learned_from_100_days_of_rejection?language=en

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This week, Emmalee and Jen talk about their bread and butter: couples therapy! As Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, couples therapy is one of their favorite topics to demystify. They start by discussing the stigma behind couples therapy and why they wholeheartedly believe in it - from both sides of the couch - because relationships are hard!! They talk about when a couple should seek out therapy, what to expect from couples therapy, the fears going into it, and why it is helpful when their couple clients argue in front of them. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions like what they wish couples would talk about in premarital therapy, how to shift your mindset from thinking that seeking couples therapy = doomed relationship, tips for effective communication and each of their favorites, important questions to ask each other before getting married, and a Dear Em & Jen about moving in with a significant other! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by their wonderful Astrologer, Natalie Levin! Natalie shares her expertise with us and starts off with some Astrology 101. She explains what a birth chart is (i.e. sun, moon, and rising signs) and why some people don't feel aligned with their astrological sign. She then does a deep dive into Emmalee and Jen's charts, individually, and also how they intertwine and complement each other. We learn what parts of their personalities their signs confirm, why they're meant to be business partners, and the roles they fulfill for one another. Natalie gives us all advice for 2022, shares what she is calling BS on, and so much more! Tune in for a fun and insightful episode!

You can find Natalie on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube! And to schedule an appointment with her, go to: www.natalielevinastrology.com

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen cover one of your most requested topics: expectations. They discuss expectations in our romantic relationships, friendships, and with our family members as well as grieving unmet expectations and change and how to categorize this type of grief. They talk about how magical thinking and toxic positivity can play a role in our expectations, realistic vs. unrealistic expectations, and how we develop our own, internal expectations. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions like: how to tell if my expectations are too high, how to grieve former versions of myself, and how to grieve the expectation that my partner would be excited to have kids when they are not. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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