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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen talk all about sibling relationships. They discuss birth order, sibling conflict, only children, reconnecting with your siblings as adults, favoritism and so much more. Emmalee and Jen are both the youngest siblings in their family's of origin and they share some insight into what it was like growing up with older brothers. Dear Em & Jen answers a listener question about a parent favoriting a sibling and how to cope. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Why do we lie? On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into the topic of lying and why people - including us - lie! They discuss different kinds of lies, lies the two of them have recently told in their personal lives, prosocial vs. antisocial lies, when lying becomes self-betrayal, the shame that can come with lying, how to evaluate our intentions behind a lie, and so much more. Dear Em & Jen answers a question about confronting a friend about disliking their new significant other. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen talk all about being alone, their love for it, and ways to become more comfortable with it. They discuss the various benefits of being alone, finding a hobby as an adult, codependency vs. interdependency, the choice to be alone vs. it being circumstantial, what happens if you get too comfortable being alone, avoidance, and so much more! This week's Dear Em & Jen question touches on being the peacekeeper and how to start putting yourself first. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

If you want to watch ShrinkChicks episodes on YouTube, you can find our channel here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Preply: Book a private tutor today at preply.com/shrink and get 50% off your first lesson for a limited time!

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Princess Polly: Head over to princesspolly.com and use the code SHRINK20 for 20% off your next order! Valid for a limited time only and exclusive to ShrinkChicks listeners!

HoneyLove: Get 20% off your second item, plus an additional 10% off at Honeylove.com using code SHRINK!

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Fellow therapists, therapists in training, those wanting to become therapists: this one's for you! On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen discuss their post-graduate journey to licensure, imposter syndrome, and therapist's "firsts." They answer your questions re: worrying about clients when you're off the clock, feeling guilty for charging a client due to a late cancellation, taking care of yourself while learning to be a therapist, therapists in therapy, specializations, joining with clients, and so much more! Tune in if you've ever been curious about the field or want to know what being a therapist is like from the perspective of two therapists!

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Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Princess Polly: Head over to princesspolly.com and use the code SHRINK20 for 20% off your next order! Valid for a limited time only and exclusive to ShrinkChicks listeners!

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into the topic of family dynamics and boundaries and how to navigate them during the Holiday season. Specifically, they discuss the difference of dynamics in our family of origin vs. our in-laws/partner's family, the transition out of our family of origin, expectation setting, and family traditions and rules that may be different from what we’re used to. Emmalee and Jen finish the episode with some tangible examples of boundary setting by doing a role play. Hint: Jen is the mother-in-law. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with the hosts of the Pillow Talks Podcast, Vanessa & Xander Marin, to talk all about sex. Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field and Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. They start by normalizing the idea of scheduling sex and explain why it can be really wonderful for our sex lives. They then go on to answer your sex life questions like: how to approach a conversation with your partner about having more sex, how to work to heal from a past sexual trauma with your partner, the difference between couples therapy and sex therapy, how to increase libido, and working through self consciousness during sex. We learn why Vanessa does not like the word “rejection” when it comes to sex, a story about Xander’s 90 year old Nana listening to their podcast, and why sex doesn't have to be spontaneous to be good. You do not want to miss this one!

You can find Vanessa, Xander, and all of their amazing content @vanessamarintherapy on Instagram and on their website: vmtherapy.com !

If you want to watch ShrinkChicks episodes on YouTube, you can find our channel here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with one of Jen’s best friends, Jason Abel. Jason starts by telling embarrassing stories about Jen from growing up, which you don't want to miss. Then, Jason shares his story of coming out as a gay man at age 24 to Jen - the first person that he told. He explains his thought process in telling Jen, how he told his parents, their reactions, and the expectations he - and many others - had/have before doing so. We hear about Jason's dating and relationship experiences, discuss the differences in talking about sex and sexual compatibility as a gay man vs. a straight woman, society's expectations, and the things we can work to unlearn. At the end of the episode, Jason shares the advice he would give to his younger self, followed by a rapid fire interview of Em & Jen with some thought provoking questions for them!

0:25 - Intro

0:33 - How Jen & Jason know each other 

6:20 - The story of Jen being the first person Jason came out to

17:40 - Telling his family

31:20 - Starting to date men & his first relationships

39:17 - Calling BS

43:04 - Advice Jason would give to his younger self

46:14 - Rapid fire questions Jason has for Em & Jen

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into the topic of forgiveness by explaining the definition of forgiveness and the stages that come along with it. They discuss why forgiveness is for us and not for the other person, the parts of forgiveness that they struggle with, the difference between anger and resentment, and how that resentment can build up (and sometimes explode) if not addressed. Dear Em & Jen is back with a question about how to handle a friend who always has it worse. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action.

0:00 - Intro

0:40 - Jen's favorite quote 

1:29 - The definition of forgiveness 

3:28 - Permission vs. forgiveness 

6:30 - Forgiveness and abuse disclaimer

8:50 - Ruptures that happen in relationships that can lead to resentment

13:55 - The four stages of forgiveness 

26:15 - The difference between anger and resentment 

31:59 - Dear Em & Jen 

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Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from The Therapy Group, Dr. Lindsay Haston. Lindsay is a licensed psychologist dedicated to helping others feel more comfortable being themselves. She strives to assist clients in leading a more full and meaningful life while also managing the pain that inevitably comes with it. Aside from being a wonderful therapist, she is also quite skilled at saying no, hence the title NOvember! Lindsay takes us through her journey to realizing the importance of the word "no" and shares tangible tips on how to do so in our own lives. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

If you want to watch ShrinkChicks episodes on YouTube, you can find our channel here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/shrinks and download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today!

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explain what enmeshment is. You might have heard similar terms used like codependency or fusion, as they can look incredibly similar. They go into what enmeshed relationships look like in families, in romantic partnerships, and even at work. Enmeshment and boundaries go hand in hand, and Emmalee and Jen walk us through how to start setting specific boundaries within enmeshed relationships and how to create consciousness around it.

If you want to watch ShrinkChicks episodes on YouTube, you can find our channel here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Dipsea: Sign up for an extended 30 day FREE trial when you go to dipseastories.com/shrink 

ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/shrinks and download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today!

TrueBill: TrueBill is the new app that helps you identify and stop paying for subscriptions you don’t need, want, or simply forgot about. Go to truebill.com/shrinkchicks to start cancelling today - it could save you thousands a year!

Quip: Quip has completely changed the toothbrushing game! Go to getquip.com/shrink to get your first refill for FREE!

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