Have you ever wondered what kind of results you could get if you did more?

Or maybe you have noticed lately you are sort of half-ass doing the work to stop over-drinking. Well, this episode is for you!

This episode will light you up to consider GOING ALL THE WAY and do what it takes to repair your relationship with alcohol.

In this episode I share about a workshop I attended last weekend called Finish Strong and got coaching myself on my goals for the end of the year.

I had noticed I was just dibble dabbling into things instead of going all the way and doing them. And I know what I learned there is going to help you stop dibble dabbling and do the damn thing, already!

Links mentioned in this podcast:

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When we decide to pursue any goal, we need to get good at failing. Any goal or project we pursue comes with setbacks, unexpected events, and a whole slew of obstacles.

But, somehow, we forget about that in the pursuit to stop over-drinking.

Failure is a part of the process.

But many of you are scared to fail, and that fear holds you back from pursuing what you want.

The thing about the fear of failure is that you already know what failure feels like. That's why you aren't motivated to seek it out again.

But failing doesn't have to be the mind-whipping we are used to.

You can learn how to fail better, pick up, keep going, and learn from your missteps. This is where your growth and learning comes from.

Also, letting the fear of failure hold you back doesn't feel good either.

And then we live with a dissatisfaction of where we are with drinking, and then we continue to numb out. So, friends, tune in, and let's dissect and evaluate failures, and then SAY YES to joining Alive AF! and to joining me in a small group coaching experience that includes a trip to Cancun in December!
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Here is the link to the podcast I referred to in this podcast.
https://www.angelamascenik.com/podcasts/stop-over-drinking-and-start-living/episodes/2147641549

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Oh boy.. parenting!!! Parenting is no f'ng joke. It's the hardest thing I have ever done, even harder than stopping over-drinking.

It's relentless, exhausting, overwhelming, and filled with guilt.

You are constantly judging yourself and worried about your kids' future.

And then you get these tiny little nuggets of good times, and it will fill you for a while, and then when you feel like you can't possibly go on and keep doing it anymore, you get another little nugget.

Can you relate?

Tune in and hear how I'm managing being a parent to tweens and teens right now and how getting support and taking care of yourself is the utmost importance.

I'm sending all the love to all the parents and caretakers out there!

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This week is a great episode, as I just came back from a getaway!

I share my experience of not over-eating on a recent vacation and how you can have an even better time on vacation or weekends without over-drinking and overeating.

It's all about being intentional and focusing on how you want to feel.

Do not miss this episode; even if you don't have travel plans coming up, it will help you with weekend over-consumption, too!

I also discuss the details of my 4-month coaching program, which includes a trip to Cancun in December.

For more info, visit:
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One of my amazing clients shared that she turned to her journal when she was having some chatter instead of pouring wine.

She wrote it would have been easier but not BETTER.

And I couldn't agree more.

We are programmed for easy.

But easy isn't better for most things.

Our society wants now, fast, and cheap, and if we don't get things now fast and cheap, we don't like it.

But the growth that needs to happen when you change your relationship with alcohol is a process that takes time and concentrated effort so that it can be EASY after you have established new patterns and behaviors.

Be willing for it to take some time.

Easier is definitely not Better in this case.

Tune in.

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This week, I am joined by Certified Recovery Coach Colleen Kachmann. Colleen and I share some of our stories on how we ended up as non-drinkers and the work we did to get us there. It was a casual conversation that will help open you up about your own relationship with alcohol and what might be or what might NOT be working for you.

We discussed:
-How to listen to your body when it comes to alcohol.
-The mental load required to keep alcohol in your life.
-How to add more things in your life to help you feel good versus focusing on taking alcohol away.

And many other little stories and tidbits..

Tune in and enjoy!

You can follow Colleen:
Podcast: Recover with Colleen https://recoverwithcolleen.com/Podcast
Website: https://recoverwithcolleen.com
IG @Recoverwithcolleen

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We are scared of missing out. So much so that we go to great extents to NOT feel like we are missing out.

But what if we SHOULD feel like we are missing out?
When you listen to this episode, it will change the way you think about it.

And you won't be afraid to miss out on those extra drinks, pieces of cake, or extra social situations you really don't want to go to!

Allowing yourself to feel the missing out feeling at the moment opens up yourself to not miss out on your sleep, goals of cutting back, your energy, and more!

Don't miss!

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This episode explores that we are trading off discomfort tomorrow for comfort today when we choose to drink off plan.

And that the discomfort is not equal.

The discomfort you will feel tomorrow is a lot bigger than the discomfort you will feel today.

If you say yes to a drink today and it's not planned, you will have a little bit of comfort in that you won't have to work through your urges or feelings in that moment.

But tomorrow's discomfort can last a long time, all day or many days and ultimately years, because we are dissatisfied with not honoring the commitment we made with ourselves and the constant breaking of our trust in our own word.

Tune in and hear how I suggest working through those in-the-moment urges we get to drink or when our mind suggests we do, and it's not planned for.

You can still join Say YES to Drinking Less through Saturday, 8/26. Don't wait to say yes to your dreams of drinking less! http://www.angelamascenik.com/say-yes

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Have you heard of my mini-course, Say YES to Drinking Less? Well, if not, tune in and hear about it. It all goes down next week, Aug 21-25, 2023. You can sign up right now for it here: www.angelamascenik.com/say-yes.

And hear what only people who over-drink think to themselves... sounds like 'If I don't drink, I'll worry, I'll be boring...'

People who don't drink, don't think that. People who only have a drink or 2 on very special occasions don't think that. In other words, only people who over-drink have these doubts or worries, and it's because of our minds. The conditioning that we have received in how to think about alcohol.

The alcohol industry wants us to think this way so that we keep drinking. Our families and friends want us to think this way so we don't change, so they don't feel like they will have to change.

It's conditioning, and you don't have to believe it.

We must tell ourselves what we want to think about changing our relationship with alcohol. And it's a lie that you will be boring.

Take it from me, I was hell-bent on NOT BEING BORING when I gave up alcohol. And I became even more adventurous and fun.

The real truth is over-drinking on the regular is actually really boring. We've done it over and over again; it's not new anymore; it's old and stale, BORING.

Sign up for Say YES to Drinking Less and See for yourself!

Also, 5 spots still remain for Cancun, get the info here and sign up!
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Wow! You are in for a very special treat this week as I invited my Alive AF! clients, Amy and Emily on the podcast to share their stories.

 Amy and Emily are sisters-in-law, and they are married to twin brothers! They have known each other since elementary school and ended up marrying twins!

 They share what was going on with their drinking before joining Alive AF! and where they are now, it's nothing short of amazing. 

They also go deep into the complexities of motherhood and marriage and how they both started changing how they spoke to themselves. 

They started with removing the shame when they over-drank, and you must listen to how this catapulted them to where they are now. 

If you have a good friend or family member to share your journey with, it makes all the difference; invite them to work on it with you.

And come join Alive AF! [link] right now, do what they said, and DON'T WAIT!
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Thank you, Emily and Amy; you are official podcast stars!!!

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