The Empowered Divorce Podcast

Today I'm diving deep into the often misunderstood emotion of jealousy and how to process it, especially in the aftermath of betrayal trauma and divorce. I'll explain jealousy in the context of internal family systems, seeing it as a protective 'manager' that signals vulnerabilities and unmet needs. Radical acceptance and healthy anger release are key strategies we'll discuss, alongside the healing power of gratitude to shift focus from lack to abundance. I'll also guide you through practical ways to incorporate gratitude in your daily life and delve into the seven levels of intimacy to reconnect with yourself and build resilience. Tune in to learn how to manage jealousy, practice self-awareness, and prepare to embrace healthy relationships once again. Don't forget to check out my self-paced program 'Intimacy Within' and the upcoming 'Dating Within' workshop for further support on your healing journey.

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

01:24 Understanding and Naming Emotions

03:35 The Impact of Trauma on Emotions

04:43 Exploring the Emotion of Jealousy

06:32 Jealousy in the Context of Relationships

09:43 Jealousy and Self-Reflection

12:22 Unpacking the Roots of Jealousy

13:19 Processing Grief and Emotions

13:38 Embracing Radical Acceptance

14:48 Channeling Anger Constructively

16:41 Letting Go of Obsessive Thoughts

19:19 Practicing Gratitude

21:49 Building Healthy Intimacy

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. 

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In this insightful and empowering episode, I welcome Darcy Haas, a functional nutritionist and former nurse, to talk with me about the intricate connections between emotional trauma, chronic stress, and physical health in women.

02:39 Darcy's Journey and Transformation

04:28 Understanding Functional Medicine

06:56 Stress and Hormonal Health

11:41 Impact of Trauma on Health

22:04 Connecting Symptoms to Hormones

25:02 Understanding the Cyclical Nature of Our Bodies

25:30 The Importance of Tracking Your Cycle

25:52 Apps vs. Pen and Paper for Tracking

27:15 The Beauty of Our Menstrual Cycle

28:06 Energy and Creativity Through the Seasons

28:58 Navigating PMS and Emotional Clarity

32:48 Embracing Intuition During Menstruation

37:58 Practical Tips for Self-Care and Healing

41:10 Affordable Health Solutions for Women

Website: sitwithmefn.comInstagram: @swmfunctionalnutrition

After years of being underwhelmed by the conventional medical system, Darcy found her place in the functional space where she discovered a beautiful, new medicine, functional nutrition. She focuses her work on finding the “why” for women’s chronic health issues. 

Darcy sees clients in her 1:1 virtual practice and also in her group membership built to support women through their perimenopausal years. 

Her nutrition practice is called Sit With Me Functional Nutrition because she knows first hand the importance of women being seen and having their story heard, and that takes time. Be seen, be heard, be well! 

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⁠⁠⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one January 23rd- 25th 2025

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. 

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What do you do when your kids hear a different story from the other parent? n this episode, I discusses the complexities of navigating high-conflict divorces and the critical importance of protecting children's emotional wellbeing. I talk about the challenges of managing conflicting narratives from ex-partners, how leaning into radical acceptance, emotional stability, and living with integrity can help counter these contradictory narratives. I offer Practical steps for empowering you as their parent and how to guide children towards independence and emotional regulation.

00:00 Welcome and Community Updates

00:47 Supporting Women Entrepreneurs

01:53 Navigating Divorce and Support

03:16 Upcoming Workshops and Events

04:45 Challenges in High Conflict Divorces

06:13 Dealing with False Narratives

09:22 Radical Acceptance and Long-Term Focus

13:50 Living with Integrity and Patience

16:41 Communicating with Your Children

18:41 Empowering Moms to Trust Their Instincts

20:29 Understanding Each Child's Unique Needs

22:20 Maintaining Stability and Open Communication

24:39 Navigating Contradictions and Encouraging Critical Thinking

31:03 Modeling Emotional Intelligence and Healthy Relationships

37:26 Empowering Children with Choices and Independence

38:09 Concluding Thoughts on Long-Term Parenting

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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Today I validate the emotional turmoil following divorce and betrayal, focusing on the pervasive tendency to self-blame and shame our past self for "Not knowing what we should have known". By exploring the cognitive and psychological reasons behind such reactions, including the brain's mechanisms for dealing with trauma, I share a compassionate perspective. The episode offers practical steps for healing and making a shift towards having an EMPOWERED DIVORCE.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:20 The Journey of Ups and Downs

01:17 Feeling Alone in the Divorce Aisle

02:03 Self-Doubt and Blame

02:41 Understanding Trauma and Control

06:01 Cognitive Dissonance and Betrayal

09:37 Impact on Future Relationships

10:12 Acceptance and Healing

11:13 Understanding Emotional Responses to Betrayal

12:02 Shifting Your Mindset: Awareness and Reframing

14:49 Embracing Self-Compassion and Healing

16:08 Empowerment Through Present Choices

17:09 The Gift of a New Day

18:53 Invitation to Brainspotting

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⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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Join me for a deep dive into the journey of redefining 'normal' after experiencing trauma, particularly in relationships. This episode explores the struggle of overcoming the past's chaos and creating a healthier, peaceful life. Learn about the significance of self-compassion, trusting your body and intuition, and setting new personal boundaries. Discover practical steps to break old patterns, rebuild your sense of self, and embrace a new normal that's tailored just for you. Empower yourself to choose happiness and stability in your solo journey towards healing. In this transformative episode I unpack the challenges of feeling normal after experiencing betrayal trauma.

Key Highlights:

00:00 Welcome and Announcements

01:45 Question of the Day: Will I Ever Feel Normal Again?

03:31 Understanding the Feeling of Normalcy

07:10 The Impact of Trauma on Perception

14:12 Rebuilding Trust and Creating a New Normal

19:13 Practical Steps to Embrace a New Normal

28:24 Conclusion and Encouragement

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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I sit down with Kimberly Day, LMFT, to delve into the complexities of navigating second divorces—a topic many of you have expressed interest in, especially as you confront the stigmas and shame often associated with multiple marital endings. Kimberly brings a refreshingly empowered perspective to the discussion, challenging the societal narratives that frame second divorces as failures. Her insights are not just about personal experiences but about the broader implications of how we perceive and internalize these significant life changes.

Episode Highlights:

Self-Reflecting Questions:

01:35 Addressing Shame and Stigmas of Multiple Divorces

05:41 Kim's First Marriage and Divorce

08:09 Kim's Second Marriage and Divorce

16:38 Empowerment Through Divorce

27:30 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward

36:54 The Importance of Healthy Relationships

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BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST 29th

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I address a common yet deeply personal question many face during the life-saving divorce process: What do you do with the physical reminders of a past relationship? This question isn't trivial—it's a significant part of moving forward. Deciding how to handle these items can stir a range of emotions, from sorrow to relief, and is often a crucial step in the healing journey. Whether you're contemplating whether to keep, repurpose, or let go of your wedding ring, dress, or other memorabilia, this episode offers thoughtful insights and practical advice to help you navigate these choices with care and intention.

Self-Reflecting Questions:

Join me as we delve into these questions, offering you support and guidance on how to make these difficult decisions in a way that honors your past and embraces your future.

00:54 The Importance of Self-Connection

02:54 Addressing a Common Question

03:57 Dealing with Wedding Rings and Dresses

08:01 Handling Memorabilia and Photos

12:14 Making Decisions About Keepsakes

18:32 Practical Tips for Sorting Items

24:42 Creating Rituals for Letting Go

26:41 Empowerment Through Decision-Making

28:39 Coaching Membership Invitation

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST 29th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, I continue my conversation with Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as we dive deep into the concept of 'pathological kindness' and its impact on individuals, especially in the context of divorce. We discuss the importance of registering for free divorce support sessions, the significance of emotional self-care, and how to avoid repeating toxic relationship patterns. We also explore the dynamics of kindness and empathy, the complex emotions involved in divorce, and practical steps to reclaim one's identity and self-worth.

03:25 Understanding Pathological Kindness

07:56 Exploring Pathological Traits

17:21 Challenges of Highly Sensitive Individuals in Relationships

22:33 Understanding Narcissistic Discard22:59 The Challenge of Emotional Change

23:32 Exploring Gender and Emotional Depth

25:08 Wise Femininity and Emotional Balance

27:10 Trust and Betrayal in Relationships

30:23 Identity and Chronic Pain

33:37 Finding Your True Self

38:58 Healthy Relationships and Self-Connection

*Reflect on a time when your kindness may have crossed into self-sacrifice. What were the circumstances, and how did it affect your emotional well-being? Moving forward, how can you maintain your kindness while also prioritizing your own needs?

*In what ways have you noticed your identity being overshadowed by the needs of others? Moving forward, what are three steps you can take to reclaim and celebrate your individuality?

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Find more about Tony HERE

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Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

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As the holiday season approaches, let's come together to support each other! Many of our incredible listeners, including divorcees working hard to support their families, have started their own ventures, from crafting adorable knitted animals to organizing engaging flute circles. Before you head to big retailers for your holiday shopping, why not check out our Facebook page to discover unique and heartfelt gifts crafted by members of our community?

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Shop small, support big dreams, and make this holiday season especially impactful!

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Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, I am joined by Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism podcasts. We explore the complexities of breaking free from relationships with narcissists, focusing on the challenges and strategies to regain emotional autonomy. We delve into the concepts of differentiation, trauma bonding, and the importance of self-validation. Tony shares his insights on how narcissistic behaviors escalate during divorce and separation, and how to maintain a sense of self amid these challenges. This episode is divided into two parts, with the continuation airing next week.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:29 Understanding Narcissism and Separation

03:51 Personal Story and Impact of Narcissism

06:42 Emotional Immaturity and Narcissistic Traits

14:19 Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement

20:02 Weaponizing Therapy Tools

24:54 Five Rules for Dealing with Narcissists

25:13 The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

26:00 The Narcissist's Need for Validation

27:40 Therapist's Perspective on Narcissism

30:07 Differentiation in Relationships

36:19 The Concept of Control Bubbles

42:09 Constructing Your Crucible

47:25 The Pathologically Kind Person

49:09 Conclusion and Next Steps

Find More on Tony and his work HERE

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Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST 29th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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