The Empowered Divorce Podcast

By Amie Woolsey Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, APSATS-CPC, ICF-PCCEducation Self-Improvement

The Empowered Divorce Podcast episodes

July 11, 2024 97. The Difference Between Uncomfortable & Intolerable
In this episode, we delve into the crucial distinction between what is uncomfortable and what is intolerable in the context of healing from trauma and navigating an empowered divorce. Understanding this difference is essential for your healing journey and can significantly impact your ability to manage and process emotions effectively.
I discuss how in my brainspotting sessions, communication and partnership are key. We use the SUD scale (Subjective Units of Distress) to measure the severity of discomfort and ensure that processing remains within a manageable window of tolerance. This helps prevent the overwhelming flood of emotions that many clients fear.
We'll explore why it's important to lean into uncomfortable emotions as a means of expanding your window of tolerance. This process is essential for growth, resilience, and emotional maturity. By differentiating between discomfort and intolerable feelings, you can stay in control, make empowered choices, and avoid being overwhelmed.
Join me as we unpack practical strategies to discern and navigate these feelings, helping you to handle life's challenges with greater clarity and self-compassion. This episode provides valuable insights for anyone on a healing journey or dealing with the complexities of divorce.

"In the journey of healing, every step forward, no matter how small, is a testament to your courage and resilience. Trust your strength, embrace your growth, and remember that you have the power to create the path to your own happiness." Amie
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SWAG SHOP:⁠ Mugs, Hoodie, Empowerment Journal and coming soon.... TRIGGER KIT!
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ :
Find the next Workshop Dates ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

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33 min
July 04, 202496. Your Journey Towards Freedom
HAPPY 4th OF JULY!!
This is one of my favorite holidays and as I know this is a time to celebrate our country's freedom, I love taking time to also celebrate the freedom that myself and so many women have also found in their healing journey.
I am sharing one of my favorite poems called, " The Journey" written by Mary Oliver and breaking it down to how this poem resonates with my journey and so many women that I works with- the journey towards healing, the journey back towards you and the journey towards freedom.

Here is the words to the poem:
One day you finally knew
What you had to do, and began,
Though the voices around you
Kept shouting
Their bad advice‚
Though the whole house
Began to tremble
And you felt the old tug
At your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
Each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
Though the wind pried
With its stiff fingers
At the very foundations‚
Though their melancholy
Was terrible.
It was already late
Enough, and a wild night,
And the road full of fallen
Branches and stones.
But little by little,
As you left their voices behind,
The stars began to burn
Through the sheets of clouds,
And there was a new voice,
Which you slowly
Recognized as your own,
That kept you company
As you strode deeper and deeper
Into the world,
Determined to do
The only thing you could do‚
Determined to save
The only life you could save.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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20 min
June 27, 202495. What Does Healthy Look Like PART 2 w/ Kimberly Day LMHC
Kim and I are back at it with part 2 of what does healthy look like but focusing on the physical domaine in the relationship. Primarily what healthy physical intimacy looks like. Join us today and we have a conversation around some key points to be aware of in this area.
Key Points Discussed:
Understanding Consent and Physical Presence:
Emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and being attuned to non-verbal cues within relationships, highlighting how physical comfort and discomfort can significantly impact one's feeling of safety and connection.

Personal Physical Health:
Discussing strategies for becoming more attuned to one's body, including gentle physical touch and acknowledging one's own physical presence, which can help in setting boundaries and enhancing self-esteem.

The Role of Physical Safety:
Exploring how physical safety is not merely about avoiding harm but also about feeling secure and relaxed in a partner’s presence, which significantly affects one’s psychological and emotional well-being.

Enhancing Personal Growth:
Encouraging personal development by understanding and addressing one’s physical responses in relationships, thereby fostering a healthier approach to physical intimacy and interaction.

Resources for Self-improvement:
Amy highlights her self-paced course on intimacy and other resources that aid in understanding and developing a healthy relationship with one’s body, which in turn can improve relational dynamics.

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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
33 min
June 20, 202494. What Does Healthy Look Like PART 1 w/ Kimberly Day LMHC
My friend and colleague Kimberly Day LMHC share a private podcast on ONE SAFE SPACE where our focus in one supporting women who are navigating abuse in their relationship. I have pulled this episode and a few others that I felt would be just as valuable for you my amazing listeners.
Key Points Discussed:
Healthy Doesn't Mean Perfect:
Exploring what healthy interactions and relationships look like, acknowledging that while perfection isn't the goal, a genuine investment in mutual well-being is essential.

Seven Levels of Intimacy:
Amy introduces the intimacy pyramid, which includes verbal, cognitive, emotional, psychological, spiritual, physical, and sexual intimacy, stressing the importance of nurturing these aspects within oneself first.

Rewiring Thought Patterns:
Discussion on the importance of altering one's thought patterns that have been shaped by past dysfunctional relationships or family backgrounds to foster a healthy self-image and expectations from relationships.

Expectations and Safety:
Emphasizing how setting healthy expectations and creating personal safety are pivotal before inviting another person into one's life, ensuring that these expectations are realistic and self-focused.

Creating Healthy Foundations:
Insights into how personal growth and establishing a healthy baseline within oneself can lead to better relationship choices, allowing one to attract and recognize partners who are equally committed to maintaining healthy interactions.

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SWAG SHOP:⁠ Mugs, Hoodie, Empowerment Journal and coming soon.... TRIGGER KIT!
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

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31 min
June 13, 202493. When The Kids Come Home From The EX's "WORSE"
In this episode, I delve into the common challenge faced by many parents post-divorce: managing the behavior of children when they return from the other parent’s home, often appearing dysregulated or "worse." I discuss the importance of understanding and adjusting our expectations, and how a shift in perspective can transform our response and improve the dynamics at home. Join me as I explore strategies for fostering resilience, maintaining consistent boundaries, and practicing compassionate parenting.
Key Points:
Expectation vs. Reality:
Children often come home displaying behaviors influenced by different parenting styles and environments. Acknowledging that such behaviors are a normal response to their experiences can help parents adjust their expectations.

Managing Emotional Responses:
The episode highlights the importance of managing your emotional responses when children return with challenging behaviors. It encourages parents to move away from frustration and blame towards understanding and patience.

The Role of Consistency:
Consistency in rules and boundaries within your home provides stability and aids in quicker adjustment for children, helping them to re-regulate after returning from a different parental environment.

Encouraging Open Communication:
Promoting open communication and asking thoughtful questions can help children articulate their feelings and experiences, fostering better emotional intelligence.

Practicing Repair and Resilience:
Emphasizes the importance of repair over perfection in parenting. Demonstrating resilience and the ability to recover from parenting missteps teaches children valuable lessons in handling their own imperfections.
SWAG SHOP:⁠ Mugs, Hoodie, Empowerment Journal and coming soon.... TRIGGER KIT!
⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST
Find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

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23 min
June 06, 2024 92. Autobiography In 5 Short Chapters; Creating Your New Path Forward
This poem was given to me early after my divorce and I didn't appreciate it as much as I do now. Now that I have actually created a new path forward in my life after betrayal, abuse and divorce. I didn't see a path forward at the time.
Yet, this poem gave me hope that it's possible. That I could keep learning and growing along the way. Today I break down the meaning , to me, of this poem and hope that it too inspires you and gives you hope that you too can create a new path forward- in having an EMPOWERED DIVORCE!
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SWAG SHOP:⁠ Mugs, Hoodie, Empowerment Journal and coming soon.... TRIGGER KIT!
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ :
Find the next Workshop Dates ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

17 min
June 01, 2024 BONUS EPISODE: Navigating Kids' Events With The Ex & Ex In-Laws
Your children will have events to celebrate for years to come and you want our children to feel loved and supported by as many people as possible. You also, might not want to or feel emotionally ready to be in the ame room with those who caused injury to you.
Join me today and I share some ideas on how you can navigate these events from a place of EMPOWERMENT and how you can still show up for your child in the way you want as well as keep yourself emotionally regulated.
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SWAG SHOP: Mugs, Hoodie, Empowerment Journal and coming soon.... TRIGGER KIT!

⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

24 min
May 30, 2024 91. 5 Steps To Practice Bravery
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the concept of bravery—a vital attribute that combines both psychological insight and physiological management to overcome fear. As you listen, I hope you feel inspired to lean into bravery again, on a whole new level, empowered bravery - especially as we reflect on our innate ability to confront and navigate our fears around divorce.

Key Steps to Cultivating Bravery:
Establish Connection to Self: Focus on self-control and the aspects of life that you can directly influence. Using your agency to make conscious choices is a fundamental part of being brave.
Set Micro Goals:Start with small, achievable goals to help manage the overwhelming feelings that can accompany big challenges. This step-by-step approach builds confidence and resilience as you progress.
Ask for Help:Recognize that bravery doesn’t require going it alone. Asking for help from safe and supportive people can bolster your courage and provide necessary backup as you tackle challenges.
Embrace Creativity:Engage in creative activities to discover innovative solutions and alternative paths. Creativity is a powerful tool in navigating life’s uncertainties and finding joy in exploration.
Practice Vulnerability:Be open about your fears and struggles. Embracing vulnerability can strengthen your resilience and deepen connections with others, fostering a supportive environment that enhances bravery.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠ :
Find the next Workshop Dates ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

27 min
May 23, 2024 90. Victim To Chooser; Part 2
I am continuing the conversation today and sharing the resource I created that helps you to identify if you are stuck in your healing journey. Last week I went over common thoughts that you will have while in VICTIM and EMERGER stages. Today I will cover common thoughts that relate to RECLAIMER and CHOOSER stages.
Remembering that there are NO wrong or bad stages, yet we can get stuck along the way. I offer a few thoughts on how to move forward and ultimately, how to be the chooser in your life and have and EMPOWERED divorce.

Example of Reclaimer Thoughts:
I am learning to trust my body
My truth matters
I am worthy of healthy
I can feel my emotions
I am not my trauma
Example of Chooser Thoughts:
I trust myself, and I've got my own back
My choices reflect my values
I am the creator of my life
I am MORE than enough
What others think and feel about me is none of my business

For FULL list of stages click HERE

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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

47 min
May 20, 2024 SUMMER GIVEAWAY!
One of my favorite things and most commented items I have in my office..... I am giving away to one of YOU, my amazing listeners.
Come find out what, and how to get yours!
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

17 min

About The Empowered Divorce Podcast

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Divorce after betrayal trauma, infidelity, addiction or abuse is different. The Empowered Divorce Podcast meets women wherever they are—questioning whether to stay, preparing to leave, navigating…