Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

You love your dad. He did his best. So why are you still desperately trying to prove you're good enough?

Why do you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? Why can't you stop fixing everyone else's problems? And why does being the person who "has it all together" feel so damn exhausting?

What if the patterns ruining your peace today started with a wound you didn't even know you had?

I'm joined by psychotherapist and bestselling author Terri Cole to unpack the truth about "daddy issues," the invisible father wound, and how childhood experiences can quietly shape your self-worth, relationships, and ability to receive love. And trust me, this conversation got personal.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Here's what I want you to know: You don't have to keep living out patterns you never consciously chose.

If you're ready to understand what's keeping you stuck and finally start changing it, my team of therapist-coaches can help. Book a free consultation to take the first step toward healing your father wound, reclaiming your self-worth, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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They love you. So why does it feel like their job gets the best of them, and you get whatever is left?

Maybe you're always waiting for them to come home. Maybe you've stopped asking for more because they're so busy. Or maybe you're the one saying, “I'm sorry, but I have to work.” Again.

In this episode, I’m talking with Growing Self couples therapist Silas Hendrich, LMFT, about what happens when a career becomes the third in your relationship, and how to find your way back to each other.

You’ll learn:

Nobody has to be the villain for your relationship to be in trouble. You can both be doing your best and still wake up one day feeling more like roommates than partners.

The good news? You don’t have to wait for the job to change, the busy season to end, or life to magically calm down. Small, intentional changes can start rebuilding warmth, trust, and connection now.

If work has been coming between you, book a free consultation with Silas. He can help you understand what’s keeping you stuck and start finding your way back to each other.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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“I need space.”

Three words. And suddenly you’re wondering if your relationship is over.

Are they coming back? Did I do something wrong? Should I give them space or fight for us? Is this actually a breakup and they just don’t have the courage to say it?

That uncertainty can be excruciating.

Because “I need space” can mean I need 20 minutes to calm down. It can mean I don’t know if I want this relationship anymore. And sometimes, it really does mean goodbye.

In this episode, marriage and family therapist and Growing Self clinician Jennifer Cunningham is helping you figure out which one you’re dealing with and what to do next.

You’ll learn:

You deserve clarity, not emotional purgatory.

If your partner is pulling away and you don’t know what it means for your relationship, book a free consultation with Jennifer. She can help you understand what’s happening, what you want, and whether there’s a path forward.

Xoxo,Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Here’s the brutal truth about making friends as an adult: nobody is coming to find you.

You want more friends. You want people who really know you, people you can call, people you actually want to spend time with. You just don’t want to go through the awkward, exhausting process of making them.

And maybe somewhere along the way, you started wondering: Is something wrong with me? Am I too introverted? Too awkward? Too weird?

Nope. But there is an uncomfortable truth: your future best friends probably aren’t going to magically show up at your house. Making friends requires action. The good news? You do not need to become an extrovert, work the room, or reinvent your personality.

I’m joined by psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Suzanne Wallach to unpack why adult friendship has gotten so hard and what actually works when you’re lonely, out of practice, or just really tired.

You’ll learn:

Because you do not need 100 friends. You need a few good ones. And you don’t need to be less weird.

You need to find your specific genre of weirdo.

And if you’re realizing there’s a gap between the social life you have and the one you want, you don’t have to figure out how to close it alone. At Growing Self, our therapists and coaches help people create stronger relationships, build confidence, and make meaningful changes in every area of their lives.

Book your free consultation and get matched with the right expert for you.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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A bad strategy can trick you into giving up on the right dream. The problem isn’t what you want… it’s how you’re trying to get it. 

Turns out, there's a totally different way of planning your life that's going to get you going to get you further faster.

My guest Courtney De Ronde dropped a line in this conversation that stopped me cold:

“We give up on our vision instead of shifting our strategy.” 

You may not have the wrong dream. You may just be taking the wrong road to get there.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why smart, motivated people get stuck and how to build a life plan that actually moves you forward.

You’ll learn:

Courtney's framework moves from a long-term vision to a realistic annual milestone and finally into the days, weeks, and quarters where progress actually happens. 

Before you decide the dream isn’t going to happen, make sure you’re not just stuck on the wrong road.

Take the free “What’s Holding You Back?” quiz to figure out where you’re getting stuck. And if you’re ready for support creating a different path forward, schedule a free consultation with a coach at Growing Self.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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Whose life is this? You built it. You chose it. So why doesn’t it feel like yours anymore?

Maybe you checked all the boxes. Built the career. Created the relationship. Became the responsible one, the successful one, the person everyone can count on. And then one day you looked around and thought, Wait... is this actually what I want?

That’s the uncomfortable realization at the heart of this episode.

My guest, Growing Self therapist Tania Chikhani, knows it personally. Before 30, she was managing a half-billion-dollar brand and headed toward an executive career. On paper, she was wildly successful. Inside, as she puts it, her “joie de vivre” was gone.

Because sometimes the life you built was designed for an earlier version of you. Or around what your family wanted. What your partner wanted. What you thought you were supposed to want. And eventually, you have to ask: Who am I now?

In this episode, Tania and I are talking about how to find yourself again when you genuinely don’t know what you want next.

You’ll learn:

If you’ve been looking around at your own life thinking, How did I get here?, this conversation is for you.

And if you’re ready to figure out who you are now and what comes next, schedule a free consultation with Tania at growingself.com/tania.

Xoxo,Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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The world is already judging your appearance…but the real danger is when you start judging your worth by it, too.

FYI: This is NOT in your head. The way you look really does affect how people treat you (unfortunately).Research shows that appearance can influence who gets hired, who gets helped, who gets the benefit of the doubt, and even the assumptions people make about you in a split second.But that doesn’t mean that you need to buy into the lies our culture is trying to hand you.

In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with psychologist and The Problem With Pretty author Dr. Allycin Powell-Hicks to unpack the uncomfortable psychology of beauty, appearance, and self-worth, and, more importantly, how to stop letting the mirror determine how you feel about yourself.

You’ll learn:

Your appearance may influence how the world sees you. It does not have to define your worth.

If you’re ready to build deeper confidence, strengthen your sense of self, and feel more secure in who you are, schedule a free consultation with a Growing Self therapist or coach at growingself.com.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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What if the resentment you feel toward your partner isn’t actually about what they’re doing wrong…but about what you keep doing?

You do the dishes. You make the bed. You remember everything. You fix problems before anyone asks. And then you quietly think: Why do I have to do everything around here?

Here’s the twist: You may be blaming your partner for resentment that’s actually coming from how much you’ve taken on.

That’s the realization that changed Alyssa Zander’s relationship. After four years of believing her partner needed to change, they broke up, and an unexpected encounter forced her to ask a much harder question: What was my part in this? Today, that same man is her fiancé.

In this conversation, Alyssa and I unpack how over-functioning, unspoken expectations, and trying to manage your partner can quietly create the exact relationship dynamic you’re so angry about.

You’ll learn:

Your resentment might not be asking you to try harder. It might be asking you to put something down.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self 

P.S. If resentment keeps showing up in your relationship and you’re ready to understand what’s really happening (and how to change it), schedule a free consultation with a Growing Self relationship expert at growingself.com.

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You can navigate a difficult conversation with your boss, calm down a frustrated friend, and explain exactly how you feel…so why does one sentence from your partner turn you into someone who suddenly can’t communicate at all?

Here’s the bombshell: You might not actually have a communication problem. Because the words aren’t the real problem.

In this episode, I’m joined by Brandy Buckner, M.S., LMFTA, marriage and family therapist at Growing Self, to expose what’s actually happening underneath those impossible conversations: the communication styles you inherited, the attachment reflexes that take over when you feel threatened, and the private story running through your head before you shut down or lash out.

You’ll learn:

Because sometimes the breakthrough isn’t learning what to say. It’s finally understanding what’s happening inside both of you before anyone says a word.

And if you’re tired of having the same fight on repeat, schedule a free consultation with Brandy. She can help you change the pattern. She works with couples at Growing Self to uncover what’s happening beneath the conflict and build a relationship where you can actually hear, understand, and reach each other. Schedule a free consultation with her. 

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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If love makes you suspicious, compliments make you uncomfortable, and happiness makes you wait for something bad to happen…this episode might explain your entire life.

Because what if your insecurity isn’t a personality flaw? What if your brain learned, somewhere along the way, that feeling good about yourself is dangerous?

Psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa Franco is back with fascinating new science about why insecurity can survive years of therapy, affirmations, self-help, and “working on yourself” (and what can finally begin to change it).

Here’s the mind-bending part: Your memories don’t just record your past. They predict your future. And when your brain expects rejection, humiliation, or abandonment, even love and success can feel threatening.

But those old memories aren’t necessarily fixed. Dr. Franco explains how the science of memory reconsolidation may help change the way the past continues to live inside you.

You'll learn:

If you’ve spent years trying to “love yourself” and wondering why nothing seems to stick, you need to hear this.

You may not need another pep talk. You may finally need to understand what your brain has been trying to protect you from.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

P.S. Ready to stop letting old insecurities run the show? Book a free consultation with a Growing Self clinician and get matched with the right person to help you do this deeper work.

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