Freedom from Attachment

Compassion is defined as benevolence, charity, empathy, grace, kindness, and good will.

It’s different from sympathy.

You may think you only deserve compassion once you accomplish something(so you deserve it), but then after you accomplish it, you feel you could have done better. It wasn’t perfect. When you’re in a state of comparing or labeling something as not good enough because it’s not perfect, where can compassion live? It cannot exist.

This idea that we must show up in a certain way and be “perfect” for others to accept us is backwards. You must be compassionate with yourself first, and then with the rest of the world. And to do that, you have to take off the mask. Perfection is an illusion, and it doesn’t force others into compassion for you. Perfectionism keeps us from acceptance.

This week I look at the push and pull between compassion and perfection. The mind is never satisfied when it is looking for the perfect picture. And compassion is necessary for self-acceptance. Learn how to dig yourself and get past that inner judge!

Angry people—we fear them, unsure of when they might blow. Yet at the same time, we have this idea that anger equals strength. While it can certainly bring us to a place of action, is that really the best motivation? There is no shortage of resources and support groups for anger management. It pervades our culture. But the thing is, to really get a grip on anger, you have to look in the mirror and stop blaming others. Our emotional triggers are clues to how we treat ourselves: we didn’t set boundaries, we accepted poor treatment from others, we didn’t value ourselves. Why do we do this? It just makes us powerless. Learn to improve the quality of your life by getting at the root of your anger and living a more peaceful existence. To help with this, I’ve created a free resource: Controlling Anxiety, Anger and Resentment in 3 Steps. Download it at tracycrossley.com/controlanger.

Angry people—we fear them, unsure of when they might blow. Yet at the same time, we have this idea that anger equals strength. While it can certainly bring us to a place of action, is that really the best motivation? There is no shortage of resources and support groups for anger management. It pervades our culture. But the thing is, to really get a grip on anger, you have to look in the mirror and stop blaming others. Our emotional triggers are clues to how we treat ourselves: we didn’t set boundaries, we accepted poor treatment from others, we didn’t value ourselves. Why do we do this? It just makes us powerless. Learn to improve the quality of your life by getting at the root of your anger and living a more peaceful existence. To help with this, I’ve created a free resource: Controlling Anxiety, Anger and Resentment in 3 Steps. Download it at tracycrossley.com/controlanger.

We do not trust ourselves. Our value is at stake. We’ve failed before—what will be different this time? We beat ourselves up about what didn’t work. Our mind starts second guessing what we want to do and what we’ve done in the past (our successes and failures). As a result, we stay stuck, and for a long time. Perhaps a lifetime. We do this with relationships, work and even something as simple as going out to dinner. The worst part is it keeps us away from our dreams. Learn how to stop second guessing your decisions and trust yourself. And feel free to download this checklist of tips on how to stop after you listen to the show. http://bit.ly/1WP8BkG

We do not trust ourselves. Our value is at stake. We’ve failed before—what will be different this time? We beat ourselves up about what didn’t work. Our mind starts second guessing what we want to do and what we’ve done in the past (our successes and failures). As a result, we stay stuck, and for a long time. Perhaps a lifetime. We do this with relationships, work and even something as simple as going out to dinner. The worst part is it keeps us away from our dreams. Learn how to stop second guessing your decisions and trust yourself. And feel free to download this checklist of tips on how to stop after you listen to the show. http://bit.ly/1WP8BkG

I’ve brought back Psychic Medium Maria Saganis to talk about self-love: what it is and what it isn’t. While it’s a serious topic that deserves awareness and attention, we had some funny, light-hearted moments discussing boundaries (or lack thereof!) and keeping our mouths shut so as not to disappoint someone. Self-esteem is directly linked to how much you love yourself, so it’s time to step up the self-care. To learn about Maria, visit http://www.tracycrossley.com/psychic-medium-maria-saganis-podcast-interview/.

I’ve brought back Psychic Medium Maria Saganis to talk about self-love: what it is and what it isn’t. While it’s a serious topic that deserves awareness and attention, we had some funny, light-hearted moments discussing boundaries (or lack thereof!) and keeping our mouths shut so as not to disappoint someone. Self-esteem is directly linked to how much you love yourself, so it’s time to step up the self-care. To learn about Maria, visit http://www.tracycrossley.com/psychic-medium-maria-saganis-podcast-interview/.

Many people live a life of quiet desperation; settle for mediocrity and tell themselves it's OK. I know I've done it. It could be a lifestyle, a relationship, or financial freedom based off someone else's income or your own (but you dislike your life--tremendously); you could feel horrible, because you don't exercise regularly or have 'bad' habits...whatever it is that keeps you in a tug of war with yourself. The little things, are BIG things.

Whether its working out or what we do for a living…or the relationship we’re stuck in, fear can make what is mediocre appear to be enough. We fear loss most often.

Letting go of the ideas around loss are the hardest mental concepts for us to release. So listen to find out how to not only let go of the small things keeping your life mediocre, but the big things too. Learn how there's timing and small steps involved (so you don't grasp onto what you fear letting go) in the process. If you really want to attract abundance, love, happiness and the life you dreamed, please tune in.

Many people live a life of quiet desperation; settle for mediocrity and tell themselves it's OK. I know I've done it. It could be a lifestyle, a relationship, or financial freedom based off someone else's income or your own (but you dislike your life--tremendously); you could feel horrible, because you don't exercise regularly or have 'bad' habits...whatever it is that keeps you in a tug of war with yourself. The little things, are BIG things.

Whether its working out or what we do for a living…or the relationship we’re stuck in, fear can make what is mediocre appear to be enough. We fear loss most often.

Letting go of the ideas around loss are the hardest mental concepts for us to release. So listen to find out how to not only let go of the small things keeping your life mediocre, but the big things too. Learn how there's timing and small steps involved (so you don't grasp onto what you fear letting go) in the process. If you really want to attract abundance, love, happiness and the life you dreamed, please tune in.

Want to create a happy relationship or prepare yourself for a future partner? Whatever we ask of another, we must be for ourselves first., and that starts within ourselves. Love is universal. We love others, but we allow so much to get in the way, like conditions based on our limiting beliefs.

If you want a relationship based in giving, receiving, love, and experiencing ourselves unconditionally, then no one is stopping you but you. So why not listen in and get the ball rolling NOW.