Sometimes others are to busy seeing who you were to see who you've become. Sometimes you are to busy seeing your old self in your head or in the mirror to see the new you. Are your actions, behaviors, attitudes, and words conveying you have changed?

You are already making drastic changes in every area of your life because you are fully embracing sobriety and recovery - now, you know it is time to turn it up. You have realized long before now - continuing with old behaviors, attitudes, and actions, while talking the way you always have will only inhibit your growth. It can block the growth you experience, the growth you see and especially what others experience and see.

A new you is already in you. A newer you blossoms out of the new you and soon a newest you will chrysalis from that version. Do not let the caterpillar you were get in the way of the butterfly you are today. 

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This is a page from a book my therapist uses for our topics on our Monday night meetings. This was the excerpt for April 29th.

We can define who we are by getting to know ourselves in sobriety and recovery. This means we get to re-evaluate what we stand for, our moral character, our belief systems, what we will enjoy, and what we won't tolerate any longer.

We can also stop judging others by no longer judging ourselves so harshly or at all. When we judge others, we find something we do not like in them.

This passage has many layers, and I look forward to covering them with you in this week's episode.

Getting to know Myself

Today, I will cease looking for my face in other people's faces.

If I want to know who I am, I will observe myself in action, watching the inner workings of my mind.

No one has better access to me than me. If I don't know who I am and what I'm about, I certainly can not expect anyone else to tell me.

When I seek to be defined by others, I live from pillar to post, from one person's idea of me to a job description to a title or role to another person's idea of who I am.

I lose my center and seek to find it in people, places, and things outside myself.

Who I am is a changing thing. There is not one version of me to get to know and, finally, be done with it. I let myself change and grow.

I befriend my changing self

The more peculiar his own man's character, the better it fits him.

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This is a page out of a book my therapist uses for our topics on our Monday night meetings. This was the excerpt for April, 29th.

By getting to know ourselves in sobriety and recovery, we get to define who we are. Meaning, we get to re-evaluate what we stand for, our moral character, our belief systems, what we will enjoy and what we won't tolerate any longer.

We also can stop judging others by no longer judging ourselves so harshly, or at all even. When we judge others we are finding in them something we do not like within.

This passage has many layers and I look forward to covering them with you in this weeks episode.

Getting to know Myself

Today I will cease looking for my face in the faces of other people.

If I want to know who I am, I will observe myself in action; I will watch the inner workings of my mind.

No one has better access to me than me. If I don't know who and what I'm about - I certainly can not expect anyone else to tell me.

When I seek to be defined by others, I live from pillar to post, from one person's idea of me to a job description to a title or role, to another person's idea of who I am.

I lose my center and seek to find it in people, places and things outside of myself.

Who I am is a changing thing. There is no, one of me to get to know, and finally, be done with it. I let myself change and grow.

I befriend my changing self

The more peculiar his own a man's character, the better it fits him.

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Emotional Self Regulation

• Attitude: control your and don't get emotionally triggered.

 Ask yourself why are they saying this?

• to make themselves feel better

They will have to look at themselves and ask why aren't they trying as hard as you.

Control the amount of information you are giving them about what you are doing

• what if I work/live/love (with) them?
  

• More tricky but very doable...

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Self-control is the ultimate expression of maturity and character in life. By using self-regulation (Intention - Attention - Distractions - Attitude) in your everyday life you will become more aware of why you do the things you do.

If we are experiencing completely unruly thoughts we will be living our lives like an emotional yo-yo.

Happiness and sadness come from past based thoughts.

Seeing where these above feelings and emotions come at us will help you place them in this model and better understand what it is you are feeling.

There is an INTENTION that underpins every action and every behavior in life.

• what is the intention

Once we understand what it is we are looking to achieve, that self-awareness will allow us to know if what we are actually doing will get us there.

Then we can focus our ATTENTION on what it is we want to achieve and are intending to accomplish - then evaluate and assess our actions to see if they are serving us toward that outcome.

• to see if our Internal Representations are accurate or false

Then we evaluate or assess if there are areas in our life that are DISTRACTIONS to what it is we are working toward achieving.

• we do not want the distractions to keep us from our goals

• distractions can lead to blaming, finger-pointing

Then our focus and ATTENTION is on the DISTRACTION and we lose our sense of INTENTION

How we are moving through the other 3 will determine our ATTITUDE in this cycle.

An outcome you can have with this model is... If I can put these ideas into practice and self-regulate on my end then I can explain and teach this to others.

• this comes from a place of strength and will bring about more of it in every area of your life.

THIS IS A PERPETUAL LOOP THAT GOES ON AND ON IN LIFE ALWAYS... LITERALLY ALWAYS

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Don't fear rejection because it's not about you, it's about them.

How would you act or respond in the conversation if you felt 100% WORTHY!?

1. Why is it important

• When you choose to make a drastic, life-changing decision, you will have to take inventory of the people in your life.

• Are they going to support the new you?

2. What does saying goodbye look like?

• It will end the way you set your intention for it to end.

• you can NOT control how someone responds

• Be honest

3. Do I burn the bridge, stop crossing the bridge, cross the bridge, or ignore the bridge?

• You have to do what's best for you regardless of how it impacts the other person.

• Saying goodbye to a parent, relative, best friend, friend or acquaintance will be difficult if you don't talk honestly with that person and let them know what you are thinking.

The person could feel owed an apology or a grand gesture. You will choose to make amends or not - and once you have made that decision and acted on it, if they are still unable or unwilling to see you differently then you will have to choose whether that works for you in this stage of your sobriety and recovery.

4. How to have that conversation

• Honestly and without a lot of emotional triggers.

• If the conversation dissolves into an argument then nothing positive will be attained from that segment of the interaction.

Realize you are arguing over the problem, not one another. The situation between the two of you is the issue at hand and calling back to memories of what each other did rather than figuring out better ways to deal with life moving forward will leave everyone chasing a tail that can't be caught.

5. What if it doesn't go great or what if it does go great?

• The conversation started as one where you are ready to cut ties with the other person for a period of time - a day, week, month, year, FOREVER.

• If it ends in a hug, handshake, fist bump - or anything other than middle-fingers, physicality, and/or violence then consider that a win.

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We've made mistakes, hurt others, hurt ourselves - yes, we know there are many amends to be made, and many that already have been. These errors in our ways do not mean we are no longer worthy or entitled to abundance. We are human and we are perfect when we are acting and behaving imperfectly.

Failure comes from not learning the lessons we were offered through our actions that brought about negative outcomes. In fact, negative outcomes only stay negative when we don't learn the lesson the universe desired from us. 

Abundance isn't taken from us because of our bad behaviors - we are just as worthy as anyone else and after this episode, you will realize that you are worthy of your own forgiveness first and everyone else's later.

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