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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee is taking you on her fertility journey. The episode begins with Em's story and all the highs and lows that have come with it thus far. She talks about her recurrent miscarriage diagnosis, her misdiagnosis of PCOS, and her two recent egg retrieval experiences. Then, Jen asks Em all of your questions, such as advice for those freezing their eggs alone, what has been most helpful when Em's feeling overwhelmed by the process, how best to support a friend going through infertility, how to respond to advice like "just relax and it will happen" when experiencing infertility, handling the jealousy and envy that creeps in when others around you are getting pregnant, and so much more! Tune in for an honest, vulnerable, and important conversation! PS: Fast forward to around 4:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

Emmalee's Book Recs:

1. The Trying Game by Amy Klein

2. Infreakinfertility by Melanie Dale

3. It Starts with the Egg by Rebecca Fett

4. Fat and Fertile by Nicola Salmon

5. Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen

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In light of the holiday weekend, today's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorites. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. In the episode, Emmalee and Jen talk all about change and why it can be so challenging and scary! They share how they each process change and why it works for them. Then, they discuss how to move through the fear of change, the loss of control that comes with change, why we need time to adjust to change, and why even positive change can be difficult. Emmalee and Jen dig into topics like why it's natural for us to miss the old versions of ourselves, the "grass is always greener" mentality, why there isn't always a "right" decision, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are myth-busting the idea of unconditional love. They explain the difference between conditional and unconditional love and which kinds of relationships fall into either category. Then, they answer the #1 listener question: can love be unconditional in romantic relationships? Plus, they dive deeper into the way we put unconditional love on a pedestal as a society. Em and Jen discuss the grief process in accepting the reality that our parent's love is conditional, deep love vs. unconditional love, what normal martial hatred means, and normalizing the postpartum experience. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are teaching you how to build distress tolerance skills. They start the episode by explaining what distress tolerance is and where the concept comes from. Emmalee and Jen discuss the relationship between acceptance of reality and its effect on distress. They answer your questions about discomfort from other people's distress, releasing control, tangible self-soothing tips for when distress arises, how to know if you have too much distress tolerance, feeling discomfort and doing it anyway, the anxiety feedback loop, and so much more! The episode concludes with a Dear Em & Jen about ADHD symptoms and how to handle criticism of those symptoms. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explain the concept of differentiation. This term is woven through the work they do and they're here to explain it in a digestible, relatable way. Emmalee and Jen list some questions to help determine if you’re differentiated and share which of the questions they resonate with most. Then, they discuss how differentiation relates to codependency and cut-off, enmeshment vs. closeness, and separating your emotions from someone else’s. Em and Jen answer your questions about navigating a partner's fierce loyalty to their family, separating society's expectations from what you want, and absorbing a partner's emotions. Plus, a powerful Dear Em & Jen question! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to welcome back one of their favorite guests, Emily Nagoski! Emily is a sex and stress educator, researcher, activist, and an award-winning author, who has a brand new book: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections! They discuss themes of Come Together by exploring topics such as spontaneous vs. responsive desire, how couples sustain sexual connection in long-term relationships, the concept of the "Emotional Floor Plan," and how to cultivate pleasure-favorable spaces. Emily explains the #1 thing that people don’t want when it comes to sex from her research, and the radical idea she holds for our world. Plus, Emily shares her experience writing a book about sex while simultaneously having zero interest in sex and how she used her own work for support. Tune in to find out what she is calling BS on and to gain insight, awareness, and action!

Emily's Instagram: @enagoski

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Book Emily mentions in the episode: Magnificent Sex

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen give you an inside look at their premarital counseling program by sharing specific topics to address before saying "I do!" They start the episode by giving us some marriage stats and sharing the leading causes of divorce. Then they discuss how soon to start having premarital conversations and what to focus on when doing so, boundaries & expectations with in-laws, the grief we experience in the transition from our family of origin to the family we create with our partner, tangible tips for understanding your partner's perspective, and re-addressing these conversations after getting married/if things change over time. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 2:45 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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In this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen zoom in on a specific theory in therapy called Narrative Therapy! They start the episode off by explaining what Narrative Therapy looks like and its four principles. Then Em and Jen share how to identify the narratives we each hold about ourselves, where they come from, how the narratives can shape our behavior, challenging these narratives, and how each version of you may carry a different narrative. They discuss that our narratives, while often self-protective in nature, can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. You also get to hear about Emmalee's goth phase in middle school and what it represented to her at the time. Tune in to learn how to move from insight to action! PS: Fast forward to around 6:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are confronting confrontation and talking all about how to have hard conversations. They start the episode off by sharing tangible tips to teach yourself that you deserve to take up space in your relationships. Em and Jen then answer listener questions about worrying what the outcome of a conflict/confrontation might be, what to do with the anxious energy you feel when things are unsettled, how to support the people in your life who are non-confrontational, different communication methods for difficult conversations, how to handle ending adult friendships, and unconditional love within familial relationships. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7:40 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explore the topic of feeling stuck and share their insights on how to move forward! They begin the episode by listing their favorite mantras for when you're feeling stuck or resistant to change. They answer your questions about how to become unstuck, addressing the fear of failure when it comes to change, how to look within yourself for answers instead of going to others, stuckness as it relates to career/work, what to do when you notice a loved one is feeling stuck, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:30 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

ShrinkChicks episode mentioned: Resiliency with Alanna Gardner, MFT

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