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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen talk all about things not going according to plan. Any planners out there? This one's for you (and also to share with anyone in your life who you want to explain your perspective to)! The episode starts off with a new intro idea from an amazing listener that has Emmalee and Jen share something they learned about themselves over the past week. They then dive into the episode topic and share how they both feel about plans and planning. Em and Jen answer your questions about pivoting when life doesn't go as expected (re: both big things like a wedding being canceled due to COVID and small things like running late due to traffic). They discuss grieving those unmet expectations, radical acceptance, tangible tips to let go of plan-related anxiety, and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen about differing levels of anxiety in a relationship when it comes to plans changing. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into the topic of parentification aka parenting our parents and/or siblings as a child or adolescent. They start the episode by defining parentification, sharing the different types, giving examples of what it could have looked like in your childhood/adolescence and explaining the short & long term effects. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions like: what to do if it's showing up in adulthood, can we parentify ourselves, how to set boundaries when you've had to parent a parent in the past, what to do with the guilt that can arise when setting boundaries, how to handle if your in-laws do this to your partner, and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen have the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, fellow psychotherapist and the creator of the therapeutic modality Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dick has written some of Em & Jen's favorite books to recommend to you all like No Bad Parts and You are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, which was just re-released earlier this month! Dr. Schwartz shares the basic concepts of IFS, what it means to have different "parts" of ourselves and where they might have originated, how to start uncovering those parts, and the way IFS has become integrated with psychedelic-assisted therapy. Dick answers a listener's question about applying IFS principles to daily life by doing an enactment with Jen of an exercise. The episode wraps with Dick calling some BS in the field of therapy. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the need to be right and why it can be so hard to let this go. They start off the episode by sharing how each of them feels about being right in their relationships and also with one another. They expand on the importance of feeling heard and seen, why it can be easier to let arguments go with some people and not others, where stubbornness can come from, and being right vs. being close. Emmalee and Jen tell us how to work toward getting underneath the need to be right and examining where it might come from. They answer your questions about making mistakes at work, how to navigate the need to be right with a partner, the fear of being wrong and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen question about a listener who may be compromising their own growth just to prove a point. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume deodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code SHRINKCHICKS at lumedeodorant.com/shrinkchicks

Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about fear and resistance and what to do when they get in the way. They highlight the various responses we all can have to fear: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn and share which responses the two of them typically experience. Emmalee and Jen discuss the nuances that exist with fear and how fear can both help us and hurt us. They answer your questions about a fear of being less than, the shame spiral that can occur when fear wins, how to work on rewiring our brains from triggers we learned in our childhood, feeling paralyzed by fear, our appetites for risk, and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener's Mother in Law violating her and her partner's boundaries. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume deodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code SHRINKCHICKS at lumedeodorant.com/shrinkchicks

Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into a topic that many were curious to hear about: finding joy in the day-to-day routine. They discuss how they each find joy in their day to day, tips for how to incorporate it, and the challenge of transitioning out of a chaotic period of life to a calmer one. Emmalee and Jen answer listener questions about minimizing the pressure to always do more, changing up the routine as a stay-at-home mom, comparing to those with “glamorous” lifestyles on social media, finding joy through depression, starting a routine with ADHD, and so much more! Lastly, they answer a Dear Em & Jen question about a sibling always one-upping/copying. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from The Therapy Group, Lauren Larkin, LMHC, and they are talking all things dating! Lauren shares some of the work she does with her clients around dating, a specific exercise she uses, her own personal red flag/deal breaker story, and how she worked through it. Em, Jen, and Lauren answer your questions about dating red flags, share why they disagree with some of the rigid dating advice that’s out there, and discuss the many nuances and gray areas around dating. Tune in to find out why Lauren thinks closure is BS and to gain some insight, awareness, and action when it comes to red flags, deal breakers, and if there's room for flexibility!

Lauren's TikTok: @leltherapy

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Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

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Emmalee and Jen often talk about intergenerational trauma/patterns and how to work on breaking those patterns in your adult life. This week on ShrinkChicks, they are talking about the other side of the coin: the things we want to keep from our families of origin, the really great things that are passed down. Em and Jen shift the focus from what we don’t want to take with us to what we do. They share some listener responses to this question, the things from their own families that they hold onto, how challenging and triggering it was to take their parent’s advice as young adults, the nuances that exist in our relationships with our parents, love languages being passed down, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

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Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Jenni Kayne: Our listeners get 15% off their first order on jennikayne.com when you use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout! 

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

Honeylove: Treat yourself and save 20% off at honeylove.com with code SHRINKCHICKS !

The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !

Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/shrinkchicks to save 20% on your first order!

Rocket Money: Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way by going to RocketMoney.com/shrinkchicks

Headspace: For a limited time, you can try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/shrinkchicks30

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the topic of comparison: why we compare, where it can come from, and the inevitability of it. They answer your questions about different kinds of comparison like body comparison, life stage comparison, career comparison, relationship comparison, and getting in touch with the feeling underneath it. They also cover competition between siblings, jealousy and envy, and the "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality. The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener's partner still being in touch with their ex. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume deodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code SHRINKCHICKS at lumedeodorant.com/shrinkchicks

Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Jenni Kayne: Our listeners get 15% off their first order on jennikayne.com when you use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout! 

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

Honeylove: Treat yourself and save 20% off at honeylove.com with code SHRINKCHICKS !

The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !

Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/shrinkchicks to save 20% on your first order!

Rocket Money: Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way by going to RocketMoney.com/shrinkchicks

Headspace: For a limited time, you can try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/shrinkchicks30

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dig into the topic of external validation: why we want it, where the need/want comes from, and how to start internalizing it so we can give that validation to ourselves. They normalize the desire for it, help us to understand the function of it, discuss when seeking external validation can be risky, and how much is too much. Emmalee and Jen talk about how the times in which we are feeling insecure can create an increased need for external validation and how anxiety can tie into it. They answer a Dear Em & Jen about only having one child and the desire for external validation to support this listener's decision. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg

A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:

Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume deodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code SHRINKCHICKS at lumedeodorant.com/shrinkchicks

Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order! 

Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !

Jenni Kayne: Our listeners get 15% off their first order on jennikayne.com when you use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout! 

Honeylove: Treat yourself and save 20% off at honeylove.com with code SHRINKCHICKS !

The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !

Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/shrinkchicks to save 20% on your first order!

Rocket Money: Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way by going to RocketMoney.com/shrinkchicks

Headspace: For a limited time, you can try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/shrinkchicks30

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.