How do you find yourself in the aftermath of abuse?

The systematic process of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse strips away your identity and sense of self.  The decisions you make while in your abusive relationship and often when you are dealing with post-separation abuse are based on your safety and the safety of your children.  You are conditioned to silence your needs and wants.

How can you get your sense of self back?

Listen to this episode to learn the first steps on how to regain your identity and sense of self.

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In this episode, we are tackling mom guilt.  Mom guilt can be exacerbated when you have been criticized over and over again about your parenting by your partner, when you look at the effects of your children witnessing abuse in the home, or even more so if you are in the throes of family court with your narcissistic ex.

Brooke shares how we were set up since birth to focus on the “shoulds” and what it means to be a “good girl through conditioning".  How we have a moving target of what it means to be a perfect mom that has real consequences in our lives from substance abuse concerns, isolation, and a loss of our sense of self.  Remember that where you are at is an okay place to be.

Some of the ways Brooke shares to help rediscover who you are and decrease your mom guilt:

• Noticing what feels good in your body or what allows you to feel like yourself even for just a moment 
• Remembering what you loved as a younger version of yourself
• Follow what feels good
• Give yourself permission to follow what feels good 
• Follow and acknowledge even small moments when you feel safe
• Replacing one thing you dislike doing with one thing you enjoy, even for 10 min.
• Permission to normalize normal.
• Instead of following the moving target of being a perfect mom, remember that you are exactly who you need to be for your children.

Find more from Brooke by going to:
www.liveunperfected.com
https://brookejean.thinkific.com/courses/3-tips-to-tackle-mom-guilt

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There are reasons why anger makes survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse uncomfortable unless it is anger directed inwards towards themselves.  Anger has not been a safe emotion in your relationship and so you have been conditioned to keep it in and forget about it.

While it may be uncomfortable for survivors, from a clinical perspective it is a barometer of change and a measurement of an increase in a survivor's self-worth.  Listen to this episode if you need a reframe of the anger that you are experiencing and would like some ways to use this anger in a productive way.

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Have you ever thought, “I would never allow someone to treat me that way,” and yet you stay?  Or maybe “I’m well educated and confident.  How did I get sucked into such a toxic relationship?”

Chelli shares her clinical knowledge as well as the knowledge she has gained from experiences in pathological love relationships to explain the answer to these questions above.  Chelli shares the importance of listening to our internal red flags in order to protect ourselves from abusive relationships.  She shares different things that are important for us to know about ourselves including symptoms of trauma, attachment styles, cognitive dissonance and personality traits to give us the insight to make decisions about the safety of our relationships.

You can find Chelli at:
https://www.chellipumphrey.com
https://www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy
https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey/

Chelli's book:
https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/

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Have you ever spent hours trying to research and understand why your partner did what they did to you only to feel more confused afterward?  Being in a relationship with an abusive and narcissistic partner can leave you feeling crazy and full of self-doubt.

It is not necessary for you to have a full understanding of why your partner has hurt you the way that they have in order to fully heal.  It is important to understand what you have experienced, how you became a target, the systematic way in which you became stuck in the relationship, and who your true support system is in order to heal.

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