Recovering From Reality

Today I am joined by Angelika Alana a love, sex, and relationship coach specializing in body based healing for spiritual women and gender non-conforming people. We dive into sexual exploration, sitting in discomfort rather diving into desires, how to establish safety in your nervous system, communicating our sexual needs in an effective way, and being on the same team as your partner.

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In this week's episode of Recovering From Reality, I am joined by my wonderful partner, Evan Haines. We take a deep dive into our relationships and how we came to the decision to open up our marriage after 10 years of monogamy. We are answering your questions from the ask me anything I posted a few weeks ago and we cover a range of topics like how did we decide to become ethically non-monogamous, how we told our children, what our sex life looks like now and how we handle feelings of jealousy.

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Hi family. Welcome home to Recovering From Reality. In the first episode of this new season, I dive into why I took a step back from the podcast, stepping into my sexuality, navigating this new season in my marriage, and what’s coming on the podcast.

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Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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After immense contemplation and reflection, I’ve decided to take a step back from the podcast for the time reason. Listen to hear my thought process on this decision...

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Today I am sitting down with my husband Evan Haines. Evan Haines is a Co-Founder of Alo House, and specializes in admissions, and marketing and business development. An active participant in the recovery world, it felt natural for Evan to transition into the sober living business, and help others obtain and maintain sobriety. In 2010, he and Jared founded Alo House, which, in less than three years, became one of the most successful sober living residences in the area. Evan has a Master’s Degree in Community Development Planning from the University of British Columbia. (Bio via alorecovery.com)

In this episode, we dissect the recent Britney Spears Documentary

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Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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Today I am sitting down with Dr. Will Cole. Dr. Cole is a leading functional-medicine expert, consulting with people around the world via webcam and locally in Pittsburgh. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top 50 functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a health expert and course instructor for the world’s largest wellness brands such as mindbodygreen and goop. (Bio adapted from drwillcole.com)

We dive into the following topics…

- The importance of using a western and functional approach to medical treatments

- How functional medicine helped me recover from my postpartum suicidal depression

- Widespread inflammation in the United States and the indicators to be aware of

- The importance of healing your physical health so your mental health can thrive

- The relationship of food to inflammation and overall health

- Dr. Will’s expertise on the Ketotarian diet

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Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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Today I am sitting down with my Mom, Andrea Arlington. Andrea's journey led her through decades of living with loved ones who suffered with addictive patterns from heroin and alcohol to sex and other substance use disorders, she also suffered with multiple forms of both addictive and co-addictive patterns herself.

When her 3rd marriage failed, she took a hard look at her life, came to understand she would never find inner peace and happiness unless she took a deep dive into her own recovery. She became educated, mentored and coached by the best of the best in the mental health, relationship, recovery and treatment world. She learned proven tools and strategies, acquired numerous certifications, in communication, complimentary masculine/feminine relationship strategies, in the recovery and treatment field and as a licensed minister. Now Andrea uses her training and experiences with it all, to create a very fulfilling career as a family recovery and relationship coach for parents, couples and families. (Bio via andreaarlington.com)

We dive into the following topics…

- How the boundaries I set with my Mom changed our relationship for the better

- Why we use an approach of connection not control

- Family systems and how ego states can impact these relationships

- How to communicate and set boundaries so you can live your best life!

- How unmet needs can fuel unhealthy behaviors and relationships

- Why people become narcissistic and how parenting impacts this

- The 4-types of child archetypes and how these present in adults

- and so much more!

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Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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Today I am sitting down for a solo episode where I answer your questions. In this Q+A, I dive into the following topics…

- Why I decided to get the Pfizer COVID vaccination and taking a balanced, holistic approach to medical care

- How to navigate relationships when you are at different places of self-awareness and growth

- My current struggle with my relationship with food and exercise

- An update on our adoption journey!

- How to deal with comparing yourself to others on social media

- Dealing with shaming from family members

- How trauma induced ADD/ADHD develops and why our society’s schooling system doesn’t support these children

Mentioned in episode…

- Celebrating Body Diversity with Sarah Landry (The Birds Papaya)

- Call-In Show W/ Sarah Nicole Landry (The Birds Papaya)

- Ep. 57 Navigating the body positivity space with Katie Willcox

- Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Mate

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today's episode, I am joined by Marianne Williamson. Marianne is a bestselling author, political activist and spiritual thought leader.

For over three decades Marianne has been a leader in spiritual and religiously progressive circles. She is the author of 14 books, four of which have been #1 New York Times best sellers. A quote from the mega best seller A Return to Love, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…” is considered an anthem for a contemporary generation of seekers.

Williamson founded Project Angel Food  a non-profit that has delivered more than 13 million meals to ill and dying homebound patients since 1989. The group was created to help people suffering from the ravages of HIV/AIDS. They have since expanded their service to any person battling critical illness. She has also worked throughout her career on poverty, anti-hunger and racial reconciliation issues. She has advocated for reparations for slavery since the 1990’s and was the first candidate in the 2020 presidential primary season to make it a pillar of her campaign. In 2004, she co-founded The Peace Alliance and supports the creation of a U.S. Department of Peace. In addition, she advocates for a cabinet level Department of Children and Youth to adequately address the chronic trauma of millions of American children. (Bio via Marianne.com)

We dive into the following topics…

- The connection between spirituality and politics

- Our purpose as humans to love others above all else

- The widespread prevalence of childhood traumas in America

- How ineffective and classist the American economy is and how we can shift this

- So much more!

Read Lost Connections by Johann Hari

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today's episode, I am joined by Dr. Will Bulsiewicz (@theguthealthmd). Dr. Bulsiewicz, MD MSCI, is a graduate of Georgetown University School of Medicine. He trained in internal medicine at Northwestern Memorial Hospital and gastroenterology at The University of North Carolina Hospitals. He also earned a Master of Science in Clinical Investigation (MSCI) from Northwestern University and a certificate in nutrition from Cornell University. Dr. Bulsiewicz is board-certified in internal medicine and gastroenterology.

Dr. B. is a respected clinician and the recipient of numerous awards. At Northwestern, he received the highest award in his residency program (Rambach Award), was elected into the Alpha Omega Alpha honor society, and was Chief Medical Resident. At UNC, he once again received the highest clinical award and was Chief Gastroenterology Fellow.

Dr. B also has an accomplished background in research, with more than 20 scientific articles published and more than 40 presentations at national meetings. He also did advanced training at the UNC - Gillings School of Public Health and received a prestigious grant from the National Institutes of Health. (Bio via Lowcounty Gastroenterology)

We dive into the following topics…

- What is the microbiome and what you need to know about it

- Alexis’ daily diet + paleo lifestyle to support her autoimmune health

- How trauma can influence gut health and the microbiome

- Dr. B’s career path + what led him to help others heal their guts

- Navigating physical health post-eating disorder recovery

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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