Recovering From Reality

In this month’s solo episode I answer your questions about babysitting Doja Cat, sex kinks, identity development, my wedding day, new tattoos, navigating tough days, and using routine to maintain your mood.

Mentioned in this week’s episode…

- Ep. 120 Pecan Pies, Panties, and Parenting with my Mom, Andrea Arlington

- Ep. 121 Asexuality, Kinks, and Sensuality with Ev’Yan Whitney

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If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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Today I am joined by Scout Sobel. Scout is the founder of Scout’s Agency  a PR agency that gets women as guests on podcasts, the co-host of Okay Sis Podcast  and the host of SCOUT Podcast. 

We discuss…

- Using your emotions to guide you in balancing mental health and professional goals

- Scout’s perspective on how her bipolar originated—the genetic component, recurring dreams, and spiritual traumas

- Experiencing the symptoms of sexual trauma without the physical experience

- What recurring dreams can tell us about our pasts, futures, and spirits

- Being addicted to emotions and the ways they enable us to stay in our suffering

- Receiving mental health treatment and support as a human and not just a pathologized patient

- Accepting worthiness as is and letting go of the stories and identities we obsess over

Mentioned in this week’s episode…

- The Emotional Entrepreneur by Scout Sobel

- Alexis on Okay Sis

- Ep. 67 How Stress Effects Our Brains with Holistic Psychologist Dr. Meredith Sagan

- Surviving Dear Documentary on Netflix

- DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets

- The DBT Therapy Skills Workbook

- The DBT Therapy Skills Workbook for Bipolar

- Meet Your Soul by Elisa Romeo

For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to dipseastories.com/reality.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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Today I am joined by the sober queen herself—Vanderpump Rules star Lala Kent! We discuss…

- Lala’s upbringing—family dynamics, childhood insecurities, bullying, and how this impacted her addiction

- The addiction cycle and Lala’s experience navigating it in Hollywood

- Navigating the guilt of getting sober without facing the huge consequences many face in active addiction

- Turning to a higher power for support when challenges arise

- What it’s like to be vulnerable on such a huge scale

- Lala and Alexis’ varying opinions on ‘California Sober’

- The Mocktail recipes you need in your life

- Where Lala wants to be 1 year from now

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Send your loved ones unique, thought-provoking questions to strengthen your relationships by going to storyworth.com/reality and save $10 on your first purchase.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today’s solo episode I reflect on my younger self and how she helped me become the woman I am today. I discuss coming home to my true self in the past year, going to jail 11 years ago, my time in active addiction, and subconscious belief systems.

Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.

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If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today’s episode I’m joined by my husband, Evan Haines. Evan is not only the co-founder of Oro House but now an author of Can America Recover: Reimagining the Drug Problem.

We discuss…

- How Evan’s early sobriety journey led him to found Oro House

- Why non-traditional 12 step treatment can be extremely effective for addiction and what makes Oro’s method unique

- What causes mental health treatment providers to have negative feelings towards their patients struggling with addiction

- Where our cultural and social norms about work and addiction originated from

Mentioned in this week’s episode…

- Can America Recover: Reimagining the Drug Problem by Evan Haines

- Ep. 4 I Love You, Mom w/ Bob Forrest

- Ep. 26 Call In w/ Bob Forrest

- Ep. 105 The Social Causes of Addiction and Mental Health with Bob Forrest and Evan Haines

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If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today’s episode I’m joined by Ev’Yan Whitney—a sexuality doula, writer, facilitator, and sensualist.

We discuss…

- What led Ev’Yan to the work they are doing now—origins in purity culture, childhood sexual exploration, and their journey to sexual healing and liberation

- How the same messaging can be received in both a toxically sex positive household and in homes where sexuality isn’t explored and encouraged

- Unpacking asexuality as an identity and common pieces of misinformation

- What happens when you take away the pressure of what sexuality and sex ’should’ look and feel like

- Balancing different sexual wants, needs, and libidos in relationships

- How to be intimate with partners without sexual intercourse

- The importance of not saying yes to sex that you’d rather say no to

Today’s episode is brought to you by Sakara. For 20% off your first order of plant-based meals and wellness essentials, visit sakara.com/reality!

Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com

Get support today with the help of a licensed therapist online with Better Help. Visit www.betterhelp.com/recovering to speak with a licensed therapist about your mental health needs.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today’s episode I’m joined by my Mom—Andrea Arlington to dive into challenging family dynamics during the holiday season.

We discuss…

- Setting boundaries with parents in active addiction

- Relapsing during the holidays—common causes and supporting a loved one using again

- Having a loved one come home for the holidays while in early recovery or rehab

- Being codependent vs. loving someone through their journey

Mentioned in the episode…

- Ep. 110 with Andrea Arlington

- Communication Training Downloadable

Get support today with the help of a licensed therapist online with Better Help. Visit www.betterhelp.com/recovering to speak with a licensed therapist about your mental health needs and get 10% off your first month..

For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to dipseastories.com/reality.

This week’s episode is brought to you by Dipsea.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In today’s episode I’m joined by Tara Bixby, LPC a therapist, activist, and anxiety coach working to change the mental health narrative.

We discuss…

- Tara’s journey from cosmetologist, to 911 dispatcher, to clinician in an all male prison, to an anxiety coach and therapist

- The prevalence of suicide in the United States and why we need to normalize mental health challenges

- How everyone is susceptible to mental health challenges

- The impact of the nervous system on our mental health

- Why it’s important to move away from identifying as your mental illness diagnosis

- The first steps you should take if you’re struggling with severe depression and suicidality

- Healing after a suicide attempt

This week’s episode is brought to you by Storyworth. Send your loved ones unique, thought-provoking questions to strengthen your relationships by going to storyworth.com/reality and save $10 on your first purchase.

This week’s episode is brought to yo buy Redeeming Love. Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In honor of the upcoming holiday season and November being Suicide Survivor’s Month I answer your questions on natural remedies for depression, spiritual bypassing, pharmaceutical medications for mental health, Evan’s advice on supporting someone through suicidal depression, if depression is connected to living truthfully, and the physical component of mental health.

Mentioned in this week’s episode…

- Lost Connections by Johann Hari

- Ep. 103 Our Brains Aren’t Broken, Our Society Is with Johann Hari

- Dr. Joe Dispenza’s meditations

- Alpha-Stim device

- Mad in America by Robert Whitaker

- Suicide Hotline: 1800-273-TALK

Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

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In this week's episode I am joined by my girlfriend, Kris! Y'all have been asking for this podcast to happen and I finally begged enough to make it happen. I will preface this episode by saying that Kris is a very introverted and private person with an avoidant attachment style, so to say that doing this was a challenge for her would be an understatement. While she is completely fine being pictured on social media, Kris coming on the podcast felt super daunting to her. I asked her multiple times if she wanted to skip it all together, but she decided to do it! I am proud of her for overcoming her fears and diving into the experience. In this episode we cover how we met, the status of our relationship, the truth behind her previous relationship with Braunwhyn Windham-Burke from the RHOC, and where we see our relationship heading. We also answered a bunch of your Q&A from Instagram.

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com

Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.

www.Betterhelp.com/Recovering for 10% off your first month

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