Hey Besties! Today, we get to listen to the second half of Violetta’s conversation with Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. 

Violetta and Sarah will dig deep into what it means to have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, how to overcome it, and how it can potentially affect your current and future relationships. Discover how your nervous system is the puppeteer of your relationships, unravel the mysteries of anxious and avoidant attachments, and get the lowdown on why opposites attract but might not always stick. Learn the golden rules of relationship arguments, decode the dynamic dance between different attachment styles, and embrace the bravest steps towards love. Whether you're anxiously engaged or coolly detached, it's time to understand, set boundaries, and find out why, in the game of love, we're all wonderfully complex.

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

00:24 How does your nervous system affect your relationships?

02:04 How does Anxious Attachment style develop?

03:47 How does Avoidant Attachment style develop?

05:18 What should you do if you have avoidant attachment?

10:39 What should you do if you have anxious attachment? 

12:39 Anxious and avoidant attachment attract each other

17:22 The golden rule: Two dysregulated people can’t solve an argument

20:41 Most common dynamic between anxious and avoidant people

21:37 We can be both avoidant and anxious

24:03 Why both avoidantly and anxiously attached people are often misunderstood 

28:14 We need to learn to understand each other

30:04 A lot of us feel we’re so f*cked up

35:46 What is the bravest thing an avoidant person can do in a relationship?

37:26 Can an avoidant and anxiously attached person have a relationship?

40:56 Fear and excitement have the same somatic sensory response

44:32 The people we need to set boundaries will resist those boundaries the most

48:12 When to know that the other person is not yet safe for you to be in a relationship with

55:16 We all make sense and there’s nothing wrong with us

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