Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."

Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.

Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection?  
• 02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?
• 04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection
• 06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?
• 07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection
• 09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going
• 10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?
• 15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?
• 18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up
• 21:17 What is emotional hygiene?
• 24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?
• 26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience
• 28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?
• 31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?
• 34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?
• 39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression
• 45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics
• 47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?
• 49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being
• 50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment
• 51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?
• 53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks
• 56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process
• 01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online
• 01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability
• 01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?
• 01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness
• 01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort
• 01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodically

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Hey Besties! For another Benson Book CLub session, we are unpacking the fifteen expectations to let go of from the book, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Some of these pieces have never been seen; others have been read by millions of people around the world. 

This week, we're shedding the weight of unrealistic expectations and embracing the beauty of imperfection. From the myth of being meant for extraordinary things to the revelation that faults can be forgivable and attributes exceptional, Violetta breaks down the barriers that hold us back. Learn why the right person doesn't always come at the right time and why postponing your happiness is a recipe for dissatisfaction. It's time to let go, embrace the now, and set goals that truly align with your happiness! 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:40 Fifteen expectation to let go of to live a good life
• 02:14 #1: You are mean to be extraordinary
• 03:11 #2: Your faults are more forgivable and your attributes are more exceptional 
• 03:54 #3: You can outsmart pain
• 04:15 #4: You must let go of the expectation that love is something other people give you
• 04:57 #5: Feeling something deeply means that it’s meant to be
• 06:01 #6: If you work on yourself enough then you will not struggle anymore
• 06:13 #7: The idea that you can control what people think of you
• 07:56 #8: Hard work guarantees success
• 08:23 #9: The idea that your thoughts will change themselves when your circumstances change
• 09:03 #10: The belief that other people are responsible for your feelings 
• 10:00 #11: Emotional intelligence is infallible composure
• 10:44 #12: The idea that the right person will come at the right time
• 11:21 #13: The idea that you can postpone your happiness or save it up
• 11:59 #14: Anxiety and negative thinking are just pesky irritants that you have to learn to avoid
• 12:33 #15: Focusing slowly on your own needs will make you the happiest
• 13:20 Good goals to set to enjoy what you have than chase what you don’t have

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Hey Besties! Welcome to the second week of Benson Bootcamp, a boot camp specifically designed to help you become the best version of yourself, no matter how bad it hurts. It’s called BOOTCAMP for a reason, duh!

This week on Almost Adulting we’re having the difficult discussion about boundary setting. Though it may be hard, these realizations will not only be long-lasting, but also help you love yourself a little more. Violet tells an in depth story about her friend who possesses the fatal victim mentality flaw. Ya know, that kind of friend who never fails to make EVERYTHING about themselves, and when you finally cut them off your life becomes inexplicably better? Yeah, that type. But that’s what setting boundaries can do. It aids you in protecting your mental health, having inner peace, and taking control of your own emotions and thoughts even when you don’t have control over other people’s words and actions. Besties, if there’s one thing you take from this please let it be that you are NEVER selfish for setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself. You are your biggest advocate and supporter, now act like it! 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 00:53 Let’s call my friend Nicole
• 15:51 The main issue is my lack of boundaries
• 19:41 Everyone gets tired of pretending
• 21:00 When you start setting boundaries for yourself
• 25:09 “We never really know why people do what they do.”
• 27:13 We can choose to not be a victim

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Hey Besties! It is the fourth and final installation of Benson Bootcamp, and we’re ending on a note to set you up perfectly for the month of love coming up!

This week on Almost Adulting, you and Violet are diving into your divine femininity. What does this mean you ask? The divine feminine is the feminine aspect of the divine power that connects and binds the earth together. It is something we all have within us, and something that if channeled correctly, can open us up to so many things we are unknowingly evading ourselves from. While both masculine and feminine energy are present and necessary in all people, tapping into one's feminine energy can help further receptivity, openness, and vulnerability. In this episode Violet will discuss the pros of unleashing the various types of femininity and how leaning into their presence can assist you throughout your life. By the way, this is not to be confused with old school gender roles, or doing things just to attract a partner, but rather tap into an intimate side that is already within you. Enjoy the journey, Besties.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 04:14 We all have masculine and feminine energy
• 07:48 What you want is not what you attract
• 13:55 Be in your feminine divine energy
• 18:44 Your dark, seductive feminine energy
• 22:05 Your light, innocent feminine energy
• 25:43 Trusting the process of dating
• 26:08 Set standards and stick by them
• 29:43 They always see your worth

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In today's episode, we throw it back to when Violetta got real with Brooke Schofield, co-host of Cancelled with Tana Mongeau. They spill the tea on Matt Rife's questionable dating tactics (seriously, bro?), but the conversation takes a deep turn as Brooke opens up about her challenging childhood with two drug-addicted racist parents. Brooke shares her journey dealing with borderline personality disorder, revealing the power of self-healing and finding stability through medication. It's a rollercoaster of real talk and genuine connection—tune in, Besties! 

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Hey Besties! Ever wondered how to turn your life around when you're feeling rock bottom? Need a boost when it all seems bleak? Well, it's Benson Book Club time, and today, we're delving into Robert Greene's "The 48 Laws of Power," specifically Law #25 – Recreate Yourself. Violetta kicks off by reading the juicy core of the chapter, then dives into why it's perfectly okay to hit the reset button when everything feels stuck. Spoiler alert: You're totally allowed to shake things up, start anew, and recreate yourself for a better, more badass version of you! Tune in for the inspiration you didn't know you needed.

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• 00:00 Intro
• 01:41 The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
• 02:37 Law #25: Recreate Yourself
• 15:25 You are allowed to start over if you feel like it
• 18:19 Recreating yourself at the lowest moments is usually the most pivotal moment

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WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.

Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict. 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 00:46 I booked my parents a trip to Israel
• 03:05 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom
• 05:38 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings
• 06:26 Reason 2: Some men need space
• 07:18 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship
• 08:12 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship
• 09:41 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him
• 13:53 Step #2: Do not chase him
• 15:01 Men and women do things differently
• 15:40 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband
• 18:20 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach
• 23:20 Step #3: Focus on yourself
• 33:17 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflict 

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